is 15yo dd eating too much?

[nuttyveg]

i've posted on teenagers, but i haven't gotten many responses, so i thought i'd post here for traffic.
15yo dd has been eating more recently and i don't know if it's too much or not, she's a healthy weight, not like a beanpole but not fat.
today she's had
2 slices of vegan cheese on seedy toast and a milky coffee made with oat milk and stevia for breakfast
about 5 wedges, 4 mini falafels, 3 oreos and a small handful of salt and vinegar crisps for lunch
4 more oreos as a snack
and will be having chickpea and roasted vegetable soup for dinner with a slice or two of seedy bread
and homemade apple cake with custard for pudding
and she usually has a bowl of cereal with oat milk before bed, so i imagine she will tonight too.
thank you for any responses

Just stop it. Stop counting the number of potato wedges and biscuits she eats. You're going to make her feel self conscious and guilty at best. At worst you'll be make her ill. You may think she hasn't noticed you watching and noting her consumption like a hawk; I guarantee she has.

Is this thread a joke? I hope it is. Your poor daughter!!

Leave her in peace please. It's absolutey fine!!

Oh my days, please don't start taking note of what she eats, you are setting her up for future issues if she realises you are doing this! What she's eaten today does not doh d like a lot of good at all, it sounds perfectly adequate. You describe her as healthy weight wise so why are you obsessing about her eating habits?

*does not sound like a lot of good

• a lot FOOD! Argh

i will write what she eats tomorrow too, so it's not just based on today, when she ate the biscuits.

OP YOU ARE NOT LISTENING!!!

Eating a bit more of this or a bit less of that than ideal is NOT going to give her an eating disorder.

Having a mother who meticulously observes and notes down everything you eat on the other hand is the kind of thing that might.

Honestly we DON'T want to know what your 15yo eats tomorrow. We want to know that you are easing off and making yourself NOT THINK about her food intake.

She needs more protein as it will full her up. Vegan diets are hard to bulk out with protein but that would be my first suggestion.
Try vegan protein shake with breakfast and lunch.

i will write what she eats tomorrow too

Why?

I knew this post would be about a girl just from the title!

She's not eating too much. Don't give her issues with food by tracking what she's eating. Worry more about her happiness and if she feels supported and loved and empowered. My god

I knew this post would be about a girl just from the title!

Because it says DD in the title?

I’ve not RTFT but from the few posts I’ve read it sounds like you have eating issues and if you’re not careful you’ll pass these on.

I eat more than your DD and am a healthy size 8. She could eat more veggies but she’s 15, she’ll survive. Offer her more veggies/salad on side with no pressure and try to chill out.

thank you

It does sound like a lot of biscuits. I don't have any issues or hangups about food but I don't think I'd be letting mine have that many in a day,.mainly because I'd be wanting them to save some for another day. However, I don't think the rest of it sounds like much eg 5 wedges is not many.
If it helps to.compare, my 15 year old son has had a bowl of weetos for breakfast. Big falafel with salsa and salad in a pitta for lunch with an apple and a mini chocolate roll for pudding. For dinner it was spag bol followed by a yogurt. He doesn't seem to be snacking much but then again he doesn't really emerge from his room till 11am

Why are you watching what she eats if she’s a healthy weight?
Don’t give her food issues, leave her alone?!

We’re home all day and my dc aren’t allowed to eat in their rooms either but I couldn’t tell you what they’ve had to eat today. I might know vaguely but you do sound overly concerned about her food intake.
It doesn’t sound too much to me either. Teenagers need more calories than adults but calorie wise it works out about right.

Please listen to the posters who are telling you how very ill this could make your dd. It isn’t ok. Eating Disorders have the highest mortality rate of any mental illness and most sufferers are not underweight. You’re playing with fire, OP. How would you feel about having someone monitoring your every mouthful like this and posting online about it?

Okay so normally she doesnt eat the biscuits, you say the pudding is rare too.

So basically this is a day where shes eaten a bit crap? And you've decided to post about it on MN.

Other than the puddings her portions are really small. 5 wedges? A bowl of soup for dinner? Why do you even know shes raten 5 wedges and 7 oreos?

You need to stop policing your DDs food. If she starts gaining weight and asks you for help then sure take mlre notice. But at 15 as long as you are providing healthy meals its really her choice.

Please do not 'encourage her' to eat yoghurt for breakfast or make these comments to her! You could give her an eating disorder! It doesn't sound like she is eating too much. The calories seem about right.... also she's still growing.

Teenagers need caloroes, they are growing.

I spent my teens dieting, I wasn't overweight I just decided I was, I was slim/skinny and dieting did me no.good. i am overweight.now

Please.leave her be. If she becomes.significantly.oberweight.then.maybe intervene but otherwise trust yourself that you have brought her up.well.enoughto.undedatand basic nutrition and lay off her!

Sorry about my inability to spell and space my words. Almost like I have had a gin and tonic or two

"also she's still growing."

How do you know?

The OP said that she's 15.
Of course she's still growing.

Honestly, the quackery on here would make L Ron Hubbard weep.

I'd get her experimenting with a good tofu scramble recipe. I love it, and you can get loads of veggies and seasoning in it

muh - I stopped growing earlier and didn't know I was unusual. Google seems to indicate girls are at their full height a couple of years post-puberty so that would mean not all 15 year old girls are still growing.