'Having dinner at friends tonight'

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Am I the only one getting ridiculously frustrated with people not giving a flying banana about the rules?!

My mum text me this eve saying she will send measurements of a piece of garden furniture for me tomorrow as she is having dinner at a friends tonight....

Did lockdown finish and I miss the memo?!

A near by family in our village is just as bad, the woman's is pregnant with complications which she cant be arsed to go to the scans for to find out if her baby is ok and what the severity of the issues may be, shes off out seeing every tom dick and harry, having peiple over and driving about with them with her 2 children in tow which she plans to send to school in a weeks time. (Yr1 and yr6)

Meanwhile I'm struggling away, trying to compete a degree, partner trying to work all the hours he can, pregnant and 3 small children yr1, yrR and 2years and want nothing more than to do these things but cant. I cant send my children to school with myself due for surgery in a few weeks and a newborn arrival, knowing shes off swanning about daily with different people coming and going.

My sister is also visiting every friend shes ever known delivering gifts, etc. And while I cant prove she isnt breaking the social distancing I'd be shocked if she wasnt...

AIBU to be ridiculously frustrated and annoyed by this... I litrally feel like the next person who tells me they have broken the rules will get the brunt of it.

My mother is really annoying me, she's in the group that really should be shielding but is off down the garden centres every day for somewhere to go (different one each time) and goes to the supermarket every morning to buy her paper and get a free coffee (even though we were doing and delivering all the shopping) and she's been having coffee with friends in her sheltered housing complex. Then she wonders why we won't go and visit her and join in the coffee gatherings.

Yes it is frustrating to see people about who appear not to be adhering to the distancing guidance. However sometimes it is not all that it seems. We have been the subject of neighbourhood speculation since this all began - apparently we are coming and going at all hours, travelling into the area and mixing with people who are not in our household.

From our side of the fence - DH & DS are exercising at a time when there are fewer people about and normally they avoid the local area because it is a touristy area so appear "from out of area". I help at a food bank and am delivering food parcels to people in crisis at all times of the day and night. DD1's friend is staying with us for the duration of this due to safe guarding issues at home. Someone keeps calling the police for rule breaking and posting pictures on FB anonymously. It is making our lives even more difficult than it is already....

So while I understand the frustration and the desire to rant, judge or finger point but, take a moment to think of the impact of that and if it is justified.

If noone cared surely we would all be killing each other off.

Maybe I'd be fine if I got it (maybe not) but I have been dropping food shopping to a friends door who had a double lung transplant due to CF. I dont want to risk giving it to him , he would be unlikely to survive. I'm having shopping delivered when I can, due to being pregnant also but if I have to go out I'm taking all precautions...

I just wish we could all be responsible and cautious and that hopefully we could return to some form of normal soon, however feel that might be unlikely if everyone who isnt continues as they are.

It's not just about ourselves and immediate family, its who we could pass something to by meeting people and not distancing. Even through work. Say A and B meet on the weekend and then B's husband goes into work and passes it that way. It's all possible and surely that's why we have the distancing in place still?!

I can’t get worked up over the opinion of someone about to inflict their fourth child on the world.

Blimey 😂

Pissing myself about @Theislands and their comments Classic MN right there:

'What are you talking about?!'
Poster reasonably explains, based on factual info from OP
'BULLY'

'Shielding', I hope whoever coined this in its application to this virus gets the langlock curse. It is advisory, people are not obligated to bloody imprison themselves in their homes.

I too am getting fed up with other# saying it’s interfering if you critisise those that are breaking the rules .

If everyone does their own thing then we will be back to square one and all suffering ..

I also think it’s extremely disrespectful to all the NHS staff who are putting their lives on the line in this terrible situation.

Our neighbours keep having various visitors in their garden. Today there's a woman and a toddler there. It makes a joke out of social distancing and you start wondering why you're bothering when so many aren't.

In all fairness in all likelihood this will all be over much quicker due to the people who are continuing to socialise. It seems very unlikely that the U.K. is going to be able to shake this off without a large proportion of the population being immune. If anything you should be grateful that they’re willing to catch it.

@Unescorted that’s horrible. Have you considered putting up a sign for the arsehole to read so they realise how horrible they’re being?

We can't or refute the facebook posts with the safeguarding and doing the foodbank deliveries.... it would put DD2 in danger and open up the foodbank users to speculation by the wider community if they knew what I was doing. We have considered moving when this is all over.

wash my thoughts exactly but I was too polite to mention it earlier . I expect we will be slated for that!

Unescorted that is shocking, I too am involved with our local Food Bank. But our neighbours have been nothing but supportive and I am continually finding generous donations for the FB on my doorstep and financial gifts through the letter box.