'Having dinner at friends tonight'

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Am I the only one getting ridiculously frustrated with people not giving a flying banana about the rules?!

My mum text me this eve saying she will send measurements of a piece of garden furniture for me tomorrow as she is having dinner at a friends tonight....

Did lockdown finish and I miss the memo?!

A near by family in our village is just as bad, the woman's is pregnant with complications which she cant be arsed to go to the scans for to find out if her baby is ok and what the severity of the issues may be, shes off out seeing every tom dick and harry, having peiple over and driving about with them with her 2 children in tow which she plans to send to school in a weeks time. (Yr1 and yr6)

Meanwhile I'm struggling away, trying to compete a degree, partner trying to work all the hours he can, pregnant and 3 small children yr1, yrR and 2years and want nothing more than to do these things but cant. I cant send my children to school with myself due for surgery in a few weeks and a newborn arrival, knowing shes off swanning about daily with different people coming and going.

My sister is also visiting every friend shes ever known delivering gifts, etc. And while I cant prove she isnt breaking the social distancing I'd be shocked if she wasnt...

AIBU to be ridiculously frustrated and annoyed by this... I litrally feel like the next person who tells me they have broken the rules will get the brunt of it.

The problem is the PM wants everyone to start working/ going to school but not do any of the fun stuff....

Wow.that escalated.
To clarify the person with the scans has clearly stated on social media and to a close family friend those comments and that she doesnt intend on social distancing.
Yes it's none of my buisness, but I'm hormonal and fed up and my mental health is suffering so I felt the need to rant. All those judging me for it are doing precisely what they are telling me not to do to her 🙄
I know shes out and about because she drives past my garden daily, tells family friends which I then hear about 🙄 and posts it on social media.

I want this over just like the rest of us, but what I was trying to say was it's frustrating and worrying that it could end up prolonged and us following rules and guidelines will suffer more, meanwhile they will carry on as are.

And yes, that is correct re furniture measurements. I have been promised some after lockdown is over and wanted to measure up.

And blimey the be being unemployed and not going to work comment. Seriously?! I'm on maternity leave early due to covid19 and having 3 children home and being self employed and unable to work, didnt realise I had to explain why I was home with 3 children or why it was relevant 😳 my childcare provider is also closed... as most are.

Also apologise, didnt know there was a CV board 🙈

It's annoying me too.

I would love for my children's grandparents to be able to help me and see the children. But no it isn't allowed. Yet both the grandmothers know various people who are seeing their grandchildren. Meanwhile those of us keeping to the rules are struggling.

Banging on about it wont change anything, people will do what they want, always have always will. You cant fine everyone

"I'm on maternity leave early due to covid19 and having 3 children home and being self employed and unable to work, didnt realise I had to explain why I was home with 3 children or why it was relevant"

You don't have to explain and neither does she. So when a family member put something on Facebook maybe she just said she "couldn't be bothered" because she didn't want to explain. That's exactly the point.

"Covid19" 😂

Just reminded me to check back in on that other thread. Thanks

It's also really difficult to explain to children when they see their friends playing or walking with non family members and not at distance! Mine are so desperate to see nanny etc and cant understand why their friend at school is having playdates with another friend etc.
I dont really care what people do if it doesnt change anything, but if it prolongs lockdown/restrictions is that really fair 🤷‍♀️ obviously I know they are also putting themselves at risk and so on so itS on their heads as such. Doesnt make it any less frustrating though!

Definitely feel like there was a memo that we missed here too. We're shielding various family members, have been going out once a week to do M&S food shop (because MIL and GMIL will only eat naice fruit, so my Asda delivery won't do ;)). Went today and actually came out a bit stressed. They've stopped with the person on the door limiting the number of people in the shop so it's a free for all. And the number of blokes leaning round me to grab things rather than standing back and letting people have their turn was so noticeable I genuinely wondered if some of them were doing it for a kind of intimidating sport.

Still, I've been worrying about whether I should be sending my DD back to school on June 1... at this rate there will be a second spike and there won't be a decision to make.

The thing is, I know we're particularly cautious. And I know we can't go to ground until a vaccine is found. We will have to go out more and we will have to manage the risk. But THIS was just so full on it makes me want to go home, lock the door and not come out for months.

@crustycrab yes it's true, it is none of my buisness and maybe I shouldn't of made that comment. Pregnancy hormones were in full swing yesterday 😬

It’s down to selfless people like the OP the the rules have been adhered to as long and as strictly as they have.
Without the OP and the others like her we would all be incapable of knowing the “rules”

OP - you are following the rules, as as I, and many, many more people. Would be interesting to see their reaction if/when they catch this damn virus - who will they blame for that?

Yanbu op.
I think I'm the only person in my family who hasn't broken the 'guidelines' at all. The others have been meeting in gardens/driveways for picnics. Having street parties and sharing food with neighbours. My dad got drunk on VE day and was hugging and kissing his neighbours apparently.

Yet they've all told me I'm unreasonable for not joining in the clap/cooking for the NHS/making and delivering scrubs

YANBU. People on Mumsnet will tell you to mind your own business but I totally get your frustration! People in this country clearly can’t manage to do what they should be. It’s shocking and the reason we will be on lockdown longer. Stay at home as much as possible and stop socialising people!!

What do people think will happen if everyone stays at home in glorious isolation the whole time? Do you really think the virus will disappear?

The purpose of the restrictions is to stop the ICUs being overwhelmed.

Everyone sticking rigidly to the rules does not mean that lockdown will be over sooner. People who are taking a more relaxed approach to the rules for whatever reason are not actually making the lockdown longer. They might actually be making it shorter if the overall result is that the virus spreads more but at a manageable rate.

You cant take responsibility for other people. You can only take responsibility for yourself. If you are following the rules and others are not then thats their problem. If you make it a cause for contention it will only upset you more.

Would be interesting to see their reaction if/when they catch this damn virus - who will they blame for that?

The vindictiveness of people is what's really one of the worst things to come out of this, well, maybe not, it's good to get the measure of some people. It would never cross their tiny minds that some people don't feel the need to assign blame and are fine taking responsibility for their own actions and decisions? Guess not.

You're entirely entitled to waste emotion on being professionally offended and outraged at other's behaviour. I find it pitiful, but I do my own thing and mind my own business.

I'm vulnerable so am not going out, so read your message with dismay. I was even more dismayed that over 50% of under 30s are not following the rules. It's as if great swathes of people just don't give a shit about the rest of us.

Everyone sticking rigidly to the rules does not mean that lockdown will be over sooner.

So that's your excuse for not following the rules? Who made you an expert?

The lockdown restrictions have largely been lifted where we live, @Jaxhog, but I can tell you that in my building at least, people in their 30s like us were staying at home and avoiding unnecessary outings, whereas our neighbours in their 70s and 80s were in and out all the bloody time and seemingly did not give a shit. We laughed about it behind closed doors but at the end of the day it was none of our business.

You're entirely entitled to waste emotion on being professionally offended and outraged at other's behaviour. I find it pitiful, but I do my own thing and mind my own business.

Eh? So you aren't outraged at child abuse? Or speeding drivers killing people? The lockdown is exposing the nasty underbelly of our society and the fact that so many people really don't give a shit about their fellow citizens.

Most of us HAVE been adhering to the rules OP, it's not 'selfless' it's just doing as you're told and adhering to basic guidance with the understanding that we can't always have what we want when we want it as most adults are capable of understanding.

Surely when explaining to DC it is no different than the bog standard life lesson that just because someone else is doesn't mean we should or explaining they are doing something they aren't allowed to do but we will not be as we want to keep each other safe.

I know you know OP but it is just so much easier to fully digest that it's nothing to do with you. Rant about corona on to CV board by all means as the situation is shit, but what's the point. I also think you're being rather personal about her pregnancy and it doesn't reflect well.

We don't need to give ourselves a pat on the back for having done what we are supposed to do re:lockdown, or evidence others failings to make ourselves look saintly. Just get on with other things.

I was even more dismayed that over 50% of under 30s are not following the rules. It's as if great swathes of people just don't give a shit about the rest of us.

They've had their educations and plenty of them their livelihoods ruined by this when the reality is that the vast majority of people who get it survive. And they're getting sick of it. The young have been totally screwed - it's highly unlikely there will be state pensions for them by the time they're old but they're still expected to pay for them, their exams and uni and training have been fucked, they can't even take driving lessons, the recession will probably mean their employment opportunities are shot (on top of their earning potential on hold due to extended lockdown) - all for a virus that doesn't usually kill them.
I'm no youngster, but I don't blame them. What have 'the rest of us' done for them? Not much good, it seems like a lot of take, take, take on our part and stern accusations of how 'selfish' they are. I'd be well fucked off.

We haven't seen the half of it. There will be a huge recession. Then we'll all really have something to complain about.

So that's your excuse for not following the rules? Who made you an expert?

I have been following the rules, but I think that what other people do is up to them.

The point I was making is that people who think that if everyone just seals themselves off inside their homes for the next month the virus will go away and we can go back to normal are wrong. The virus will not go away. This is about learning to live with the virus.

If everyone does stay at home and stick rigidly to the rules then the infection rate will plummet, and then the lockdown will end and people will go out and the infection rate will spike again and lockdown will be back on. A situation where people are getting on with their lives but limiting social contact to some degree and being more careful about hygiene measures is probably just as good.

There's no point sitting at home stewing about how if all these selfish people would just respect the rules then we could all go back to normal much sooner, because it's probably not even true.

Eh? So you aren't outraged at child abuse? Or speeding drivers killing people?

That's so comparable to two people having dinner . Please. Try harder.