I broke the Lockdown rules and I’m not sorry

[Caplin]

Today my younger brother died (not covid). He lived with my disabled Dad who called me on Monday to say my brother wouldn’t wake up. I raced over and spent 20 mins doing CPR on him along with my sister. He had an infection which caused organ failure, heart attacks and strokes.

After 3 days in ICU my brother passed away today. I have spent time every day with my Dad, we sat together and watched over video as life support was withdrawn. My sister left her kids at my house with my husband while she went to hospital with my mum. We all sat together and had wine/coffee.

I broke down when I hugged my dad and he admitted no one had properly hugged him in years, beyond a quick hello and goodbye. He won’t be able to go to the funeral as he is shielded.

I don’t care that we broke every lock down rule in the book today. This is a f@#%ing cruel time.

AIBU?

You did the right thing and I would have done the same . Heartbreaking.

Sorry for your loss. I'd have done the same in your shoes. It's not like you were out partying.

Oh that's so sad, I'm so sorry. Lockdown rules don't apply...

Sorry for your loss which is made worse by the current situation

So sorry for your loss

So sorry to hear of your devastating loss.

I would have done the same it’s a heartbreaking situation and I really feel for those who have lost loved ones in these difficult times.Sorry for your loss

So sorry for your loss OP, you did the right thing, it’s a cruel world when you can’t sit with a relative whilst they pass. I have thought a lot about this if it was one of my relatives and I know I would want to be there, I would also want to comfort other family members.

You did the right thing under the circumstances. The rules don't stop us being human.
We're breaking lockdown and travelling 200 miles next weekend. MIL has late-stage cancer. She's weighed up the options and she wants to see us for, possibly, the last time. We had clear tests a couple of weeks ago and have been nowhere since then. We won't be sleeping in the same house as her, just visiting during the day.
I simply dont trust government judgement at the moment. I can have the cleaner in, get an estate agent round, send my kids to school, but can't say goodbye to a loved one who has decided to take the risk? No.

Of course you’re not unreasonable. So sorry for your loss.

You did absolutely the right thing, you would not have been able to live with yourself, if you hadn’t, anybody with love and compassion in their heart would have also. You tried to save your brother’s life. You have stood by your Dad. You are a hero, it will comfort you in the future when there is a little light again in the world. It is terrible to lose a brother, and you did your absolute best. 💐💐💐

What an awful time for you and your dad. You definitely did nothing wrong. Please take care of the both of you...

I'm so very sorry

You did nothing wrong.

I'm so sorry OP, you did not do wrong breaking the rules in that situation. Can you stay with your dad for a while as he can't stay with you?

I’m sorry for your loss and the circumstances were so exceptional, you did nothing wrong