To think it's strange to send your wife a romantic present every day?

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An acquaintance has had presents ordered online and sent to her by her husband every day during lockdown. He is isolating at home with her and their kids so it's not as though he's away and sending her presents because of that.

Literally every day she puts a post on Facebook saying 'today's present', and it's been all kinds of things ranging from a huge box of new clothes from an online retailer, to Louboutins, to flip flops, to underwear. Every. Single. Day.

AIBU to think this is strange, and wasteful, behaviour?

My DH makes me a delicious cup of stove top coffee every morning, exactly how I like it, and that brings me more joy than a pair of high heeled shoes ever would.

Yes it’s fucking weird

he is known locally for being a serial womaniser/cheater even though his wife is in denial

Given the number of days he has had to buy her a present and the cost (Laboutins 👠 for example), he is either making Don Giovanni look like the epitome of fidelity or she is telling a lot of 🐷 pies.

@nettie434 or it could be baseless rumours by jealous people. Given the bitterness that seems to come from OP disguised as contempt I would not be too surprised.

I'd be a bit freaked out if my OH did that!

It takes all sorts.

I can’t think of much that’s less romantic or appealing than having a deluge of stuff every day from dh.

There’s no spontaneity there at all and probably not a huge amount of thought if it’s something every day for weeks.

He's painting himself into a corner, I bet he thought lockdown was only going to last 3-6 weeks!

My husband would struggle with more than a week's worth of presents. As would I buying for him. I wouldn't want someone else to choose my clothes though (lucky as no one is offering).

it could be baseless rumours by jealous people.

You are right Ilovepickledlimes that we don't know unless by an amazing coincidence we know the poster's acquaintance too.

Just taking it at face value, both the present buying and the posting did seem a bit OTT but of course I may be too cynical.

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Hmm. I'm impressed how he manages to get them delivered day after day. I placed a next day delivery with my fave net-a-porter and it took bloody 11 days to come! How is he getting such reliable deliveries?!
Sounds like a crock of shit to me.
Is her husband also on social media?? Wouldn't be surprised if she's just wrapping up stuff she already has.

Oh and it's SO gauche to display these things on SM

As a pp pointed out, the logistics during the current delivery issues, is pretty impossible to get something new everyday - maybe he bought her a load of stuff from the back of a truck, and it's counterfeit and she's posting one item everyday. You'll know if it's her actually buying it, as he won't be on her FB friends list, so he won't even know about the posts.

He must be fucking loaded. If he isn't, I hope the kids aren't having to do without.

It's all rather suffocating, regardless.

@sarahcoffeelover sorry, I've literally retyped your post crossposted there!

@nettie434 true I guess. I just feel like it could also be a guy just genuinely trying to make his wife feel better. I know it is something my fiancé would do if he thought it would help make me feel better etc.

Savings from hotels...

It is a really sweet thing to do, but a bit show offy to put on social media every day. I miss DH and his romantic gifts, they were often daft things like a cookery book, magazine, bag of sweets, etc., but the fact that he had thought of me made my heart melt.

Take what you see on SM with a large pinch of salt

Seems like he's feeling guilty??? just my suspicious mind. It's kind of cute but surely it is less impactful if do frequent. If he was stuck on the other side of the world it would make more sense.

@lovepickledlimes That is lovely your fiancé will do that. I think AndNoneForGretchenWieners' examples of a book, magazine, sweets etc are so 💕 . I think it is a bit thoughtless to post about expensive gifts on Facebook every day when at least some people seeing your posts will have lost their job and be feeling worried.

@nettie434 I do find posting it very tacky which is why I would not do that but people are different etc

@VenusTiger haha great minds n all that!

Whilst it's not to my taste, you sound pretty judgemental, OP.

lovepickledlimes
Lots if times. I’ve told him I find it a bit needy, that I like him telling me he loves me more than buying gifts, that I’d rather the money went in doing something together.
He says he likes buying his beautiful wife presents, I deserve it and just enjoy it I've already bought it.

Yeah. I know.

Agree it's weird and probably staged by her.

Also, I'd be all for DH giving me his credit card and letting me loose on ASOS but I always find it utterly bizarre when men buy women clothes and shoes as presents. Like they're dressing up their very own doll. Ick.

@Leflic usually my fiancé's reply if I ask him why he spoils me so lol. I enjoy them but fully get not everyone does lol

@Leflic he would say the same about me spoiling him too though lol