To think it's strange to send your wife a romantic present every day?

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An acquaintance has had presents ordered online and sent to her by her husband every day during lockdown. He is isolating at home with her and their kids so it's not as though he's away and sending her presents because of that.

Literally every day she puts a post on Facebook saying 'today's present', and it's been all kinds of things ranging from a huge box of new clothes from an online retailer, to Louboutins, to flip flops, to underwear. Every. Single. Day.

AIBU to think this is strange, and wasteful, behaviour?

It's just crass

Are you sure they aren’t ‘from him’ and really she is just using his card to buy whatever the heck she wants to ‘get him back’ for cheating...? I personally wouldn’t want random gifts that expensive but each to their own

Also sorry but I think it’s VERY weird to post pictures of underwear online? Really odd!

I am more amused by the jealous thread bitching about it than the actual non-story

I'm an old cynic. it's like the men who send/bring flowers home.
Who is she/ what have you done?

Or he's just a nice caring husband with nothing to be guilty for.

Now this is real romance:)

www.bbc.co.uk/news/entertainment-arts-52684519

Facebook a no no, but a big spender man, who is devoted to his wife, and gives her the best of everything.

If he is known as a cheater as you say, he may be trying to keep his wife sweet, whilst seeing another woman. The wife might only be interested in material things, which sounds like she is.

It's not strange for them. It's not your relationship. I shouldn't worry about it if I were you. There are lots of people who post stuff on FB daily, whatever it may be about. Some of it can make you roll eyes and avoid. But I can't see why this situation should be viewed any differently than other forms of over-sharing.

Comes across to me like he’s trying to buy her commitment for whatever reason.

No, it’s not normal, adults don’t behave like this and they certainly don’t post it all over social media.

Is it a replacement for selfie shots in an age without hairdressers/ restaurants/ destinations? 😄

Unless it's Maltesers or Walkers cheese and onion crisps, I would worry about anything my DH bought me...

I think is loverly, I don’t like the bragging though.

Cheater stuck at home with wife was my first thought.

He’s been caught out and trying to win her round. She’s posting on FB In a vain attempt to show the OW she’s won and OW has lost. Everyone can see how much he loves her. Behind closed doors she hasn’t spoken to him in weeks except to rage at him.

Are they really from him? Or is she buying them and then boasting about them, possibly to rub a mistress' nose in it?

Also surely they can't be getting a delivery every day - Amazon for example would 'only' deliver a couple of times a week and the post isn't coming every day either. Has he (or she) got a big crate of crap in the garage and every day he (or she) fishes something else out of it? Like the bran tubs of yore.

I don't think I could resist a few passive-aggressive links to the local Food Bank along with pointed comments about the Food Banks being at breaking point and how great it would be if people who can afford it could chip in to help out. Although in reality I would just defriend someone who was in to boasting about material possessions every single day. Showing off a new car or a special present is one thing but relentlessly posting your latest luxury item is in incredibly poor taste.

If he is a womaniser is probably cheaper than a divorce

It is weird and must be tedious to maintain.
And God so much STUFF you didn't necessarily want. Just having to manage THE STUFF would make me mad apart the the wasteful stupidity.

Creepy and planet-rapey.

Just stop following her.

Very cringe , I've been treating my self at lot lately as I'm shielding and my chrones keeps flaring up so I feel sorry for my self 😂.. Mostly spendy skincare and hair stuff , lounge wear ,pjs, the odd candle ,house stuff , various things that I've decided i need like a body pillow and weighted blanket😂 .. I haven't once posted anything on Facebook or Instagram ,it's from a joint account so I suppose they are from my husband too but it's far too look at me .. My husband buys me loads for my birthday but I don't post that either .. Same with the Santa's been /kids birthday present pictures makes my skin crawl .. xX

I also have been donating a lot to Fairbanks don't post that either don't get me started on the stealth boast look at me charity giving 😷 vom

People who do stuff like this generally have a point to prove/are terribly insecure. It’s sad really.

Sounds lovely to me

Fiancé does certainly not buy gifts everyday but he will for random no occasion at all buy me a nice gift and splurge so I really don't see the issue if it makes her happy. I don't always post them but that is because I only post maybe 4-5 times a year on Facebook anyway as I like to keep private stuff private between me and the other person etc

FB - Family Boast is very annoying like that. I really don't care for it much myself. Daily gifts is a bit much, it becomes less romantic when it becomes unspontaneous and now expected, daily.
They'll perhaps soon be wishing they didn't blow the cash on all these items when the recession grips.

@saleorbouy you do make a fair point. but I also think this lockdown has been an emotional drain on a lot of people so maybe he thought he could help a little making her feel a bit better.