NDN is a friend and my DS and her DS (both 13 YO) are friendly and go to the same school; not in same form but same year. Obviously both doing school lessons from home. My DS is doing ok, not fantastic but ok in the circumstances. NDN's son has totally given up. School have been saying he needs to get his act together and that NDN needs to step up, sort out some sort of routine, monitoring, etc. They are right to be honest, NDN doesn't check on her DS who is mildly autistic. He just games all day and into the early hours. During the day he falls asleep because he's exhausted.
NDN has told me that in order to get him to do some work next week, she doesn't want to tell her DS that it's half term. I feel this is not fair as he will find out anyway and lose trust on his mum. I want to gently suggest she sets an expectation that they together come up with a plan of action this week, then take next week off like all other kids, and then start fresh the week after.
My question is, is my NDN being unreasonable in wanting to do this?