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To have naively thought people were sticking to the rules

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Myfriendanxiety · 19/05/2020 13:05

We’ve been for a walk at a local country park today- first time in 8 weeks of leaving our village.

I had believed people were sticking to the rules as all my friends and family are, but the place was full of people meeting up who clearly aren’t the same household!

Loads of grandparents out with children and the children’s parents, lots of mum groups with pushchairs, and lots of school age children playing with friends while mums sit and watch.

I understand everyone is fed up now and desperate to see people- but I was so surprised at how many people are clearly ignoring the rules of mixing households.

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Noodledoodledoo · 19/05/2020 16:28

It does irritate - although I try not to judge as I know its hard to make mistakes - my husband commented on two friends doing some exercise together in the park the other day. Now to be fair you can tell they are the same age and look very different, I happen to know they are twins so all was good.

I was getting annoyed yesterday as a neighbour had a birthday party with about 4 different cars showing up - yes they stayed in the garden but there were at least 3-4 families there, but its not my business - just annoys me when they make others feel bad about sending kids back to school

Inkpaperstars · 19/05/2020 16:54

The government won't continue to put people's health before the health of the economy

It's never been a choice of one or the other, it's thought that exponential growth of the virus and all that comes with it is unlikely to be an economic boost.

RitzSpy · 19/05/2020 17:06

We had someone boasting on facebook about reporting a group of teens playing football in the park to the police. I thought we had stopped that nonsense, maybe time for me to move away from facebook again.

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Myfriendanxiety · 19/05/2020 17:57

@Casino218 a single person can meet a single other person.

I have 2 children and am therefore never a single person unless DH home to watch them, so I’m unable to meet anyone else.

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Ponoka7 · 19/05/2020 18:08

@OneandTwenty, why can't we use the NHS if we become infected with Covid? It wasn't us who let it take hold in our country. We are entitled to health care, regardless of what we are suffering from and how we got in that state.

Everyday people take risks, through lifestyle, hobbies, diy, sports, pregnancy, abortion and then you have the knobheads, usually younger men, who fill the wards over weekends, wrap cars around trees and kill a fair few people. We look after the prison population. So why suddenly are we held responsible for a virus that our individual lifestyle hasn't brought about? This isn't like HIV it isn't as easy as avoiding sex. Why are we suddenly unworthy? Why are we accepting being left to die?

Our government has done an amazing job. It took nearly two years of a concentrated campaign and propaganda films by the Nazis, to get people to forget the rights of those around them and the responsibility of the government to all citizens.

OneandTwenty · 19/05/2020 18:14

Ponoka7
you can't have it both ways , that's why.

Priority for people who have respected the rules sounds fair. I am aware that we don't live in a fair system, but it's a shame.

So why suddenly are we held responsible for a virus that our individual lifestyle hasn't brought about?
if you have deliberately flounted the rules, then yes it's your lifestyle the problem. And you have endangered others in the process, and the government is idiotic not to prosecute you, the way drunk drivers and dangerous drivers ARE prosecuted...

Alsohuman · 19/05/2020 18:25

The vaccine isn't suitable for them, if one is available at all

Who says a vaccine won’t be suitable for older people? It’s the first I’ve heard of it.

MadameMarie · 19/05/2020 18:34

If people are blatantly flouting the rules and getting away with it then more and more will join them and so on.

The government aren't bothered, the police have eased off a lot and were overstretched anyway.

OneandTwenty · 19/05/2020 18:35

Who says a vaccine won’t be suitable for older people? It’s the first I’ve heard of it.

experts who discuss for example the notion that elderly B-cells are less effective and are comparing existing issues with coronoviruses and possibly Covid19.

You can find plenty of discussion and research about that online, by people who know what they are talking about, I don't. But it has been discussed for weeks.

MadameMarie · 19/05/2020 18:37

There's a British mentality of doing what you can get away with. Early on in lockdown the police were on top of it.

malificent7 · 19/05/2020 18:49

To be honest i think people accepted lockdown as they were scared...rightly so. I was quite happy to surrender my freedom to protect others...however...fatigue has set in and people want to mingle...im quite enjoying the peace!

RitzSpy · 19/05/2020 19:21

So are we suggesting that we should be interrogating patients as to their behaviour pre-infection before we treat them.🤣 That would include the great Mr Johnson and who boasted about shaking hands with people despite a Gov instruction not to and isn't there a suspicion that Covid spread like wildfire around No 10 because they weren't following the rules?
The idea behind the lockdown was not to stop the virus - that is close to impossible it was so that the numbers of ill patients didn't overwhelm the NHS so that those who needed care (no mention of deserved) received it.

CoachBombay · 19/05/2020 19:26

RitzSpy quick get the interrogation lamp ....they have Covid, we must investigate how this happened.

If the lamp doesn't work, we will waterboard them.

OneandTwenty · 19/05/2020 19:33

There's a British mentality of doing what you can get away with
that's not British, otherwise other countries wouldn't have to impose such strict controls and rules - do latin countries strike you as rule followers? Grin

GinDaddyRedux · 19/05/2020 19:53

No @OneandTwenty I actually agree with @MadameMarie who is spot on here.

Yes other countries are in stricter lockdowns and everyone is being told what to do.

But we in Britain (and you see it on this forum) just HATE when someone tells us what to do ,or tells us that we can't do something.

Coyoacan · 20/05/2020 00:19

even if the restrictions were only set up knowing that only a certain amount would bother to follow them, why should people accept to suffer more than others who flaunt the rules?

Well I for one couldn't live with myself if my carelessness resulted in someone else's death.

Alsohuman · 20/05/2020 00:43

Well I for one couldn't live with myself if my carelessness resulted in someone else's death

Unless it was one of your family, you wouldn’t know.

Destroyedpeople · 20/05/2020 00:52

'We in Britain hate being told what to do'..
@GinDaddyRedux
Really? Do you really think that? I think a lot of British people love it that is why we have people screaming about 'the rulez ' and starting threads about dobbing in their neighbours for having a friend round.

Pixxie7 · 20/05/2020 01:23

Unfortunately I think it will take another massive peak to remind people how deadly this virus is.
Mind you the lack of clarification and trust in the government is it any wonder.

Ilovecats14 · 20/05/2020 02:09

You have been very naive. Nearly my whole roads had visitors/bbqs/garden parties. My friends have told me how they have met for picnics and long walks. They invited me, I declined.

Cab65 · 20/05/2020 17:30

I live at the sea, and have been able to take my exercise walking by it but not anymore, the beach is crowded, barbecues being lit, groups of people having a wonderful time, pee running from behind the beach huts because there are no facilities, very long queues at the only local supermarket (the poor staff). The general public at its best and most dangerous!

meganorks · 20/05/2020 17:33

I think this has mostly happened since last weeks announcement though. The slacker and more nonsensical the rules get the more people push it. I think some people were breaking the rules before but now a kot have just sacked it off.

DanceItOut · 20/05/2020 17:39

We have been sticking to the rules. However given that the government now seem to think its perfectly safe to send kids back to school and expose them to 15 other kids the teacher and all those kids families indirectly plus the classes of siblings of that class indirectly etc when admitting that children may not be able to social distance...honestly I’m tempted to meet up with my mum and let her hug her grandkids. She’s 50 with no health conditions. Surely this is less dangerous than kids returning to schools... so whilst I have stuck to the rules I can kind of see why people are now giving up and making up their own.

skyblu · 20/05/2020 17:40

icedpurple on page one, summed this up perfectly!
Couldn’t have said it better!

FelicisNox · 20/05/2020 18:16

YANBU but judging by the idiotic and ill informed comments you will be shouted down.

NHS staff are at breaking point but why let that fact get in the way of people just doing what the hell they want because THEY'VE had enough?

(Just do us a favour and don't bother coming out to clap if you're out and about it's just hypocritical BS)

As someone said previously: the rules apply to everyone until it doesn't apply to them.

There is always, yes BUT...

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