Bin collectors shouting c*nt and sh*t at 6:30am

[Carrotcakefiend]

We're on a street of terrace houses of mainly young families and over 65s. Our bin collection happens 6-7am on a Wednesday morning. The bin collectors do a good job and I have no problems with them talking loudly cos bin collection is never quiet anyway! But recently there's a new man, and he swears and swears at the top of his voice. This morning, he wife is a cnt apparently, and some other things are sht. It also sounded like he had a full on argument with one of the other collectors.

Aibu to ask them to stop yelling, or to mention it to the council?

I feel bad reporting someone doing a tough job, especially during the lockdown, but at the same time I feel it's really not ok to be speaking the way he does, yelling and shouting down the street. What would you do? Please help!

See if it happens next week if it does make a complaint.

I’m sure they are but never mind. It’s small fry.

Yes the bin man said a bad word. No we’re not going to worry about it.

I think if its only a one off then to try and ignore it really .These guys have a tough old job, and everyone is stressed out to some degree with Covid .If its every time, then e mail the Council and say you find it unacceptable (so do most people I imagine!)

He is definitely a Mumsnetter.

Thanks @pictish! You got what I meant! There is enough poverty in the country at the moment without trying to get people fired. Maybe shout out of your window "I should wash your mouth out with soap young man!" In a lighthearted tone of voice?

I agree with another poster, maybe he does have Tourettes?

Personally it’s a one off, I’d not be bothered, if it happens every time they come then maybe speak to the council. Other than that let it slide

I used to work in the office on the phones for the bin collection for my local council. If we had been phoned over this, my boss would have taken it quite seriously. They are representing the council and should behave professionally. I think most councils take email now, so it's easy to just write your concern down. Foul language might not upset everyone but it really shouldn't be shouted in a residential street.

I don't think I'd film it . What if the boss showed him he would know exactly the house , I'd be worried of repercussions , may not come to that but it would make me worried .

I don’t think the OP has suggested for a second that she’s looking to get anyone sacked Playdonut. But if you want to argue there’s enough poverty already, how about the bin man’s equivalent AIBU (or at least what it ought to be)?

AIBU to behave professionally at work so I don’t get in trouble since there’s enough poverty already?

I doubt the council will do anything to be honest. Raise it by all means but expect a denial or them saying they dont know who it is.

I got trapped in by a bin lorry on the way taking my kids to school. I didn’t mind waiting five mins but when it got to ten mins I wound down my window and asked them to edge forward so I could get out. It was a completely normal exchange of words.

As I was driving off one of the bin men called me a ‘fucking slag’.

When I complained they basically said ‘I’m sure none of our lads would have said that’ - even though I had two other witnesses

Yes, tell the council.

I actually called one of our binmen out for swearing... We live on a road where a lot of small children play in their front gardens... I happened to be in our courtyard one morning and heard the beeping as the lorry reversed in the road next to us. I then heard a loud voice yell "YOU'VE GONE THE WRONG F.... NG WAY!" I wasn't overly impressed... I then walked through the house to retrieve my bin... As I walked out of the gate I heard the same voice "HE'S F.... NG USELESS HE IS!!"
I then had a man come towards me bringing my bin back... I think it was the same man but wasn't 100% sure so just said "I really don't appreciate hearing the F word shouted loudly all over the place thankyou!" I then took my bin and walked away!

We don't have to accept foul language shouted in the street just because it is a group of men doing their job.

If you went into a shoe shop and the staff started shouting cunt and fuck to each other would you accept that?
If a group of people started swearing loudly in a hospital would that be accepted?
If a bunch of women stareted using the words fuck and cunt loudly at a toddler group would that be OK?

Why should we think it's oK for men to be using foul language while they work in a public place?

For those saying it is OK- why is it OK?

To those saying get over it or it’s only 5 mins a fortnight. I’m curious what if you overheard someone stacking shelves in a shop or the receptionist at a doctors surgery saying sh!t and c!nt would you feel the same and say well I’ll only be in the vicinity for 5 mins so it doesn’t bother me I’ll let it go?
I think it’s unacceptable whatever the job is and however brief you have to put up with it. I’d let the council know.

Open the window and tell him to shut his gob at daft o'clock.

Simples.

If I heard someone stacking shelves swear, I wouldn’t be thinking about it any more than a minute later.
Getting on with my day not reporting people for trivial things.

Put a sign on your bin. Write 'Stop Fucking Swearing At 6:30 In The Fucking Morning' That should do the trick. Or phone the council to request a more middle class bin man. Or just ignore the whole thing

I would complain to the council

Pmsl @ He is definitely a Mumsnetter

I don’t think it’s cool OP. Shouting that your wife is a cunt is completely different to shouting ‘fuck’ because you dropped a wheelie bin on you foot. I would be perturbed if my kids heard the latter.

As has been said, if it's a one-off leave it, but if it happens next week I would complain. I don't have a problem with banter and yelling to each other but the language is unacceptable.

The other guys are probably fed-up with him.

For those saying it is OK- why is it OK?

I can't really say why it doesn't bother me but it just doesn't unless I acget woken up bit the loud lorries would do that anyway- perhaps because I'm in Scotland and desensitised as swearing is far more common than other parts of the country. I do think it's different when, to them it feels like they are the only people out there as opposed to staff in a confined shop on a customer facing role swearing in the presence of people

One off ide let it go, however as you say its every week ide certainly say something to the council along the lines of "their inappropriate language at work is causing concern" bin lorries are covered in cctv so it can easily be checked and confirmed.

If you ring the council & tell them that one of the bin men is a fucking cunt they’ll tell you that your language is unacceptable & hang up. If they don’t like it why should you have to put up with it?

I'm confused due to noise pollution laws they cannot collect til after 7am anyway? Also I would report if you've got proof of it being that early, it isn't tolerated and is antisocial behaviour.

I'd definitely express my concern to the council. That's unacceptable and he really needs to be spoken to by his employer.