I have another thread going on about ending my marriage. There is a bit of info I left out because ... well I don’t know why but I can’t add it now as it would look like a massive drip feed.
I have a 21 year old son who is living in student shared house. His contract runs out first of June and he’s asked to come home. Of course I said yes, no problem. We live in a big 4 bedroomed house with 3 of those bedrooms being unused. Why would I say no?
DH (not his dad) has said no. My son has never put a foot wrong, has worked since he was 13 (paper rounds, newsagent, bakery, retail store ... ) and has completed a university degree with no financial help as DH wouldn’t let me send him financial help (yes I’ve now realised how fucking stupid and controlled ive been). Now my son is set to be homeless and he’s saying “tough, not my problem, he has to stand on his own two feet and get a job” ... yet his own son (24) is living at home with his mother and hasn’t worked a day in his life.
I’ve had many arguments with him about not letting my son come home and last night I asked “so, if for whatever reason your son had to move out of his mothers house you would say he couldn’t come here?” ... he hesitated and replied “well, I don’t know ... that’s different”.
Straw that broke the camels back. So fucking hypocritical. He doesn’t give a shit about me or my son. This is what brought everything crashing down to me like a fucking freight train. For years I have been controlled and had my relationship with my son ripped to pieces. Now he’s willing (probably hoping) that my son goes NC with me and I will lose him.
The rest of the stuff in my other thread was true ... but this was the main reason for my thread last night. The nail in the coffin. This is why I want a divorce.
In the meantime, can I move my son in anyway?? It’s all a massive fucking mess. I don’t know what to do.