Would you be annoyed if someone did this?

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Background:
Obviously been social distancing and taking all the necessary precautions (not seeing anyone outside household, staying in except for essential trips etc) for the past 9 weeks. My mental health has seriously declined due to this (already diagnosed with depression and anxiety) and the lockdown really has not helped plus being dropped by the adult mental health team as they don't have the resources right now.😣

My 2 friends have suggested meeting up for a walk tomorrow and having a picnic- we would obviously not touch each other and stay 2 meters apart at all times and we are going to a large, isolated open space. I know the rules are only 1:1 meetings though, would you be annoyed if you saw 3 people?

I really need this right now, I've been struggling so much. Obviously it's easier to meet as a 3 than do two separate meetings 1:1.

@GrapefruitGin actually I was cleaning and making dinner. Don't appreciate the bullying from a lot of posters considering I've mentioned suffering from anxiety and depression thank you.

I wouldn’t think twice about it. I hope you go and have a great time.

Thank you to everybody being so kind and understanding about mental health.

I hope to enjoy my afternoon tomorrow.

Fun fact- our town actually has the lowest figures in the U.K. for covid cases. (Bit outing on location but I don't care much)

Stay at home as much as possible is the idea.

Except some posters are trying to bully the OP into making TWO trips, because bizarrely that is allowed, even though it doubles the risk.

Go meet your friends! No one will care that theres 3 of you instead of 2. Enjoy! X

Don't appreciate the bullying from a lot of posters considering I've mentioned suffering from anxiety and depression thank you.

Nobody is bullying you, and suffering from anxiety and depression doesn’t mean you get to just do what you want.

I understand mental health; I was virtually housebound for the best part of a decade due to social anxiety. So I get it.

But you are using your mental health here as an excuse to break the rules because it’s inconvenient for you not to do so. That’s unacceptable and paints sufferers in a selfish light.

I really don’t like the way the word bullying has now been used to describe posters telling the op to stick to the guidelines.

I'm not talking about the people simply saying no, stick to the guidelines, I'm talking about the people being particularly bitchy.

I attempted suicide at the last week in January - I've not seen anyone from adult mental health services since February 1st (I've had one telephone appointment with them since then), and not seen my partner of 10 years, who is a key work and currently works 200 miles away, since February 7th.

I live alone, have no family in this country. As well as poor mental health I also have physical health problems that mean I'm a high risk if I get covid 19.

I'm not going out to meet anyone.

Fun fact- our town actually has the lowest figures in the U.K. for covid cases. (Bit outing on location but I don't care much

The area where I live, in Wales, has the highest Number of positive CV cases - tbh that doesn’t mean much as testing is dire here.

No way on this earth will I abide by the rules of walking locally - my local walk is too crowded to socially distance. I’ll drive a couple of miles (not permitted here) to a remote place where I won’t come into contact with anyone else.

Hope you have a lovely meet up with 2 friends OP. Just don’t make a habit of it and keep at least 2m apart.

But you are using your mental health here as an excuse to break the rules because it’s inconvenient for you not to do so.

I agree. You could choose to meet one friend and respect the rules but you just don’t want to. There is absolutely no need to meet both.

@RapunzelsBuzzcut

Just stop it.

Do not use the word bully for posters, me being one go them, who advised the OP to stick to government guidelines.

The guidelines have not been issued by the posters of Mumsnet.

Our government issued them, it's up to us as individuals to choose to follow them, or not.

of them ffs.

This is so ridiculous. I'm actually very angry and utterly fed up with the constant wittering and excuses from various individuals about how it doesn't apply to them and they are going to do what they like. It's prohibited OP. You don't go. It's that simple. You are NOT the only one suffering. You will be able to meet your friends a bit later, just not now.

Just go. I've been to the beach in Cornwall today. It was quiet. A few groups of people dotted about, having picnics. Keeping their distance from other groups. The beach cafe was open, again social distancing was in place.

I didn't go and question whether the small groups were from one household or 3 different ones meeting up. It was just good to be out in the sunshine and actually see other people enjoying it too.

I heard a couple of hours back that near where I live people are out and about in cars and on foot with others and everything seems virtually back to normal because they are now allowed to! Is this true, has anyone else heard the same? I don't go out so wouldn't know first hand. I would say, if t is true, there's no reason for the op not to meet her two friends for a picnic. If it isn't true then meet up with the two friends but make it look as you are only meeting one and the other one follows at a distance.

I honestly wouldn't judge at all. Anyone who does is a busybody and deserves pity not consideration

Go and enjoy bloody hell - it's a human thing - we need to socialist especially if you have mental health issues - take care.

Anyone who judges is trying to do the right thing in a global pandemic. Nothing to do with being a 'busybody'.

Go and enjoy bloody hell - it's a human thing - we need to socialist especially if you have mental health issues - take care.

Why with TWO people? There is no need. The op has even admitted there’s no special reason for this. She can have that human contact a single friend.

No Reallynowdeae YOU stop. You’ve persistently lied about what I said because you can’t admit your precious Boris is issuing guidelines that go against all scientific advice, are woefully ignorant, clearly massively hypocritical, and actively put people in danger.

Are you overlooking that I used the word “bullying” to describe posters who were aggressively encouraging the OP to make TWICE as many trips as she felt comfortable with? And belittled her for wanting to stay inside as much as possible?

Explain how trying to talk someone into going outside MORE than they want is being sensible and saving lives. Please. You’re very good at chucking insults and lies around, but you’ve carefully avoided answering any questions.

Have a lovely time with your friends, it’ll do wonders for your mental health.

by the way op while I was talking of the lack of logic in some parts of the guidelines- according to the new ones & thinking logically again - I wouldn't judge you - just keep appropriate safe distance for all of you & relax & enjoy your outing - I am dreaming of when I can meet people friends & family - shock horror I am talking to my neighbours!!!!! when we are in our front gardens!!!! (at distance ) mental health is almost as big an issue coronavirus & can be as deadly

So, it's not okay for people to be bitchy but it's okay for you to be selfish?
You should be thoroughly ashamed of yourself.