Would you be annoyed if someone did this?

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Background:
Obviously been social distancing and taking all the necessary precautions (not seeing anyone outside household, staying in except for essential trips etc) for the past 9 weeks. My mental health has seriously declined due to this (already diagnosed with depression and anxiety) and the lockdown really has not helped plus being dropped by the adult mental health team as they don't have the resources right now.😣

My 2 friends have suggested meeting up for a walk tomorrow and having a picnic- we would obviously not touch each other and stay 2 meters apart at all times and we are going to a large, isolated open space. I know the rules are only 1:1 meetings though, would you be annoyed if you saw 3 people?

I really need this right now, I've been struggling so much. Obviously it's easier to meet as a 3 than do two separate meetings 1:1.

Yes, I agree it's a wind up. Surely nobody is that selfish, ignorant and self absorbed

Sadly, I don't think it is.

Of course it isn’t a wind up. OP really is that selfish and happy to use her mental health as an excuse.

The thing is with this one person rule I could meet 10 friends in a day as long as I only meet one at a time , it was a strange number to come up with
I get they don't want crowds but would of thought maybe groups of 3 or 4 would of been a bit more reasonable again obviously with social distancing
We will have to see if we have anymore news on friends / family in next few weeks

@thedancingbear Thank you!

No, not a wind up. It's not selfish at all. There is absolutely nothing wrong with meeting 2 people in a field whilst social distancing. It did wonders for my mood which has been incredibly low and actually was an achievement today as I wasn't going to go beforehand as I came on with a panic attack.

Don't be dramatic. I'm in closer contact with 100 more people at the supermarket twice a week! (Yes twice because I don't have a car and can't carry everything in one go).

And yes I will be seeing them again next week and I am very much looking forward to it. I feel very positive and uplifted.

I'm glad you feel better, op. I've no doubt you were very sensible about the meet up.

@Lynda07 Thank you, we were so careful. We even took soap to wash our hands before eating with bottled water! No risks were taken.

Good for you, I wish everyone was as careful.

But you’re still breaking the rules, trying to justify your actions is only your way of making yourself feel better. You’re breaking the rules and you’re the one that has to deal with the consequences of that.

And to those of you saying it’s ‘dramatic’. Come and do a shift on a covid ward and then let me know.

But you’re still breaking the rules, trying to justify your actions is only your way of making yourself feel better. You’re breaking the rules and you’re the one that has to deal with the consequences of that.

Froth froth froth

Froth froth froth? That’s new, you might have to explain what that means.

Or if you're anything like me with a bit of a gob on you, be even more succinct with a "mind your own fucking business!!"

🙄

I don't think people get that it is everyone's business when people flout the rules. It's keeping the spread of this virus going. So while I wouldn't do it myself, people do have the right to call others out when they break the rules, as it does affect them in a roundabout way. Also healthcare workers are risking their own health in dealing with the coronavirus, so if there are others flouting the rules and not bothering their arse to do their bit then they also have the right to get mad.

This whole thing really isn't a you do you type situation.

Really glad you had a good time, OP. I agree that some of the current rules don't make any sense at all and there is miniscule risk in what you are doing. Mental health is important.

Don't be dramatic. I'm in closer contact with 100 more people at the supermarket twice a week!

Not in sustained contact though. That is what increases the risk.

You’re happy and you’re just looking for lots of cheerleaders to tell you how you’ve done the right thing. I hope you change your mind about next week, but from your posts I doubt that will happen.

I think it's fine, the benefits outweigh the risks.

You could have met one of them. Would that seriously have been different in terms of your mental health?

If you were having a picnic were you not all touching the same food?

I can understand breaking the rules if in a really bad place mentally. But to fucking do it again? you've managed two months without seeing them, now you have, so you can go a few more weeks. Breaking it once doesn't mean you can then go breaking them as many times as you want. That's just selfish.

and now you are intending to do it again?
when in fact you could have met one at a time.
and you are boasting here about it?

I’m glad you enjoyed it.

I do think you should meet them one at a time, alternate weekends, going forward though.

It's prohibited. You're behaving disgustingly. It doesn't matter if you don't like the rule. It is what we ALL have to do FGS. I'm in Wales and we're still in total lockdown and not trying to get round it. Are you thick, selfish or on a wind up?

I wouldn’t notice or care. Do what you need to do to get through this. You’re not putting anyone at risk and that’s the main thing.

I met two friends on Saturday for a walk but i met them separately one on one at different times of the day. I'm sure everyone could come up with a reason for going against guidance if they really tried. Imagine if everyone actually did, we'd never get rid of this virus.

Glad you met your friends op....if i'd seen you I wouldnt have battled an eyelid as i mind my own business too...ive been seeing my partner at weekends for the whole of lockdown and feel no guilt whatsoever....my mental health without seeing him would have destroyed me.