to take DS (2) out of playgroup because he has been bitten

[Silvannah]

by another child TWICE. All the children in my DS's playgroup are all aged 2. This one particular boy has bitten 2 other kids and bitten my DS on the arm you can see the bloody teeth marks.

Anyway I told the nursery manager that she should have a word with the mother about it -whether she has or not I don't know. She is one of these that doesn't want to upset anyone especially now the numbers of children in nursery have dropped, she only has 2 yo's as the schools have taken all the 3 years olds. She used to have 30 odd kids now she only has about 15 - anyway I know this is irrelevent to this post but I personally don't think she will do anything about it because she doesn't want to loose anymore kids IUKWIM.

It's a good playgroup and the staff are all nice and caring & DD went there so I don't really want to take him out but If it happens again I will have to AIBU?

Haven't read it all but you are being ridiculous.

To a 2 year old biting is the same as hitting. They have no idea its 'worse'.

It's actually incredibly difficult to stop a biter- even with 1:1. Hopefully the nursery have a plan in place (if its an ongoing problem they should have). But it might take a long time to work.

If the child has any communication difficulties/SN it will take longer.

oh should read first, all been covered.

spoke to my ds nursery today about this when I picked him up. They confirmed what I had learnt on here and what they had said to dh that most children will do it at some time or another (not all but it is very common) and as long as its not a recurrent thing its not something to worry about. They said when ds had biten another child they do time out and then make him give the other child a cuddle. Which is pretty much exactly the approach I had been taking which is great - we're consistent and I presume they know what they are doing in this situation!

It won't stop me feeling awful for any children he bites though.... Fingers crossed it doesn't happen anymore.

Luckily none of mine have ever bitten but ds1 has pinched (he's autistic and had full time 1:1 at nursery- they still couldn't stop it). ONe thing they said to me was that they didn't worry unduly (they had a strategy still) unless he was to single out a particular child. He didn't it was just random passer bys. In fact they got it under control quite quickly. He still pinches (aged 8) but only really adults.

Not sure if this helps or not - but I've just had to deal with my nursery re. the biting problem! My son is only 12 months, but he has been bitten 3 times in the last 6 weeks. One on his leg, one on his arm - which I could count the teeth mark in, and one on his cheek, which broke the skin and I can clearly count 7 teeth mark in ! (A beautiful look just in time for his 1st birthday party!!) However, he was bitten by a 10month old - who, of course, has no idea what he is doing. So I took it up with the nursery. I understand that you cannot explain to a 12 month (or yougner) the de-merits of biting, but I have spoken to the nursery about how they could manage it better. They agreed to place an additional member of staff in baby care for the next month (increasing the ratio of carers to children) to try and pre-empt incidents etc. Very much doubt it would stop the biting, but prevention is better than cure. Atleast I had some reassurances that they were doing whatever they could to deal with it.
Kids do bite, and the ones that don't, undoubtedly do something else ! I was feeling very sorry for my little DS when he got hom with his bruised and bloddied cheek, right up until the point where he smacked me around the head with the TV remote control !!!!