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To think this is actually really entitled parenting?

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GlummyMcGlummerson · 12/05/2020 14:38

Seen this post from several people this morning outraged at the walking couple

www.facebook.com/672995864/posts/10158029908925865/?d=n

Now I am in no way condoning the disgusting language of the man in question. But the dad showed such an entitled attitude. He didn't tell his DD to slow down even when she was on the heels of the couple. She could have hurt them if they'd been elderley or disabled, and you can't tell from behind. He didn't practice social distancing - even if the couple had moved they'd have been way less than 2m apart from them, unless they threw themselves into a bush. And when his DD fell off the bike, rather than comfort her he spent the time arguing with and blaming the couple while she cried on the floor.

I've taken my kids to paths like this during lockdown and have said if someone is walking ahead we have to walk behind them with the bikes until we can pass them safely or the paths get wider. This is while teaching them to cycle, and just because they have momentum it doesn't mean they shouldn't stop - surely that's part of learning to cycle, knowing when to judge the safety of themselves and others?

I suppose i also hate this trend of social media vigilantism whereby people want to share faces of those who've slighted them, usually with a huge amount of bias and very little context. And the general public seem to lap it up! I am hard of hearing and I hate cyclists coming up behind me when I walk as unless they bellow "excuse me" I simply will not hear them. I wouldn't be pleased if a child bashed into me and then I got yelled at by the parent for not having good hearing and eyes in the back of my head.

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Seetheprettysnowdrops · 12/05/2020 17:30

Maria860. What a disgusting post.

I saw this on FB earlier and couldn't believe the support they were getting

Thank god for Mumsnet. The dad was totally at fault and should have apologised.

lockdown20 · 12/05/2020 17:32

This is funny as I’ve just seen this posted on a friends Facebook who was outraged!! I nearly commented but thought better of it but.....

  1. Why did the parent not tell the kid to stop.
  2. Where were the walkers meant to go.
  3. Why did the parent continue shouting rather than comfort the child.
  4. Why did the parent continue filming rather than comfort the child.

Absolutely pathetic, totally with the walkers on this one!!

bruffin · 12/05/2020 17:40

Of course, you tell your child to hold back, be polite but I don't think that couple would've have moved aside even if the father had dismounted and asked to get by

There is a wide bit ahead , the woman indicates they were going to get out of the way there.

Aesopfable · 12/05/2020 17:40

If it was a footpath then cyclists are not allowed on it.

diddl · 12/05/2020 17:46

So the father thought that his daughter was being deliberately ignored??

"So fucking what" as the walker supposedly responded?!

Also that the girl was new to bike riding.

Don't both of those things make the father more at fault as it was more likely that his daughter would either hurt herself or someone else?

MagnoliaJustice · 12/05/2020 17:48

Awful bloody parenting! The child should have been made to stop, get off the bike and walk alongside her father, until the path was clear for her to cycle ahead. Why should she be allowed to cycle in between two people walking their dog? Has her father not told her about the importance of social distancing? I don't blame the dog walkers for being angry.

Boredbumhead · 12/05/2020 17:50

Yes I agree Op. When ds was learning, I would have said, look mind the couple ahead. Stop when you get near them. If he couldn't have done that then I wouldn't have let him ride there. The path was tiny.

fairlyplump · 12/05/2020 17:50

Totally agree, the father was a complete ignorant pig! Not only did he upset his child, he is bringing her up to be as ignorant as him. Then leaving her on the floor to cry. Shameful

ifIwerenotanandroid · 12/05/2020 17:51

Why wasn't the bloke looking after his child, before & after she fell off?

Thatbitchcarolebaskin · 12/05/2020 17:53

No they should have moved out of the way! Ignorant c*s! They clearly aren't disabled or hard of hearing

I don’t look like I have mobility issues and can occasionally enjoy a walk in the woods. If they were my me that was crashed into, that would have put me out of action for weeks and the trauma to me knee potentially cause an infection. Accidents happen, but allowing his daughter to ride into the couple was entirely unnecessary.

timetest · 12/05/2020 17:54

None of the adults come out of this well. The father for not teaching his child cycling etiquette and the walker for kicking the bike (if Indeed he really did).

Thatbitchcarolebaskin · 12/05/2020 17:54

Blush spell check and proof read!

spartansisters · 12/05/2020 18:09

I am hard of hearing and I hate cyclists coming up behind me when I walk as unless they bellow "excuse me" I simply will not hear them

Sorry OP but this sprung out at me. So what are you saying here - that people shouldn't cycle on shared cycle pedestrian ways because you might 'hate it?' If routes, like canal paths are for cyclists and pedestrians you have to accept that you need to share the space. I used to cycle on a canal path and I always used to ring my bell and call 'excuse me' but if people, after saying that several times, still don't move or hear me, then I have to edge past them. You might hate it, but if it is a shared space, you need to accept cyclists will be there, and will come up behind you.

viewfromthecouch · 12/05/2020 18:10

100% the father's fault. What an arsehole, for training his dd to cycle through people like that. Entitled twat.

viewfromthecouch · 12/05/2020 18:10

What if the couple were deaf? Hard of hearing? Or just off in their own world on a woodland path as they're entitled to be.

FFS. Bad parenting.

Hunnybears · 12/05/2020 18:11

@TeapotCollection

I’d love to know exactly where the parents expected them to move to! As the OP says, short of throwing themselves into a bush they had nowhere

That bit really tickled me 🤣 thank you for
Sling my dinner time even brighter

Hunnybears · 12/05/2020 18:11

Making*

MimsyBorogroves · 12/05/2020 18:17

I'm so glad I've seen this - when I saw the post on FB this morning and the comments I wondered if the world had gone mad. Entitled parenting at its worst.

I bloody hate it when parents let their kids ride up behind ringing the bell. Teach them actual manners too. Don't get me started on those who think their kids can yell "beep beep" and I'll jump out of the way.

Yep, the guy shouldn't have kicked the bike, but ffs.

EastMidsMumOf1 · 12/05/2020 18:18

I felt sorry for the kid but her father did not handle it well at all, although I still think the couple were partly to blame.
The kid did say excuse me, as did he and she rang her bell in enough time before she hit them, they should of atleast acknowledged their presence instead of just carrying on.

SquashedSpring · 12/05/2020 18:25

Parents allow to child to cycle into back of pedestrians then shout at pedestrians.

WTF

picklemewalnuts · 12/05/2020 18:31

So
Glad to find this thread. I was shocked at all the comments on FB.

And the Walker didn't really kick the bike so much as use his foot to shove it out of the way as it was across the path.

Dad's an idiot. Child was crying about the arguing, not the fall.

Toomboom · 12/05/2020 18:37

What if the couple were deaf? Has anyone thought of that. They may not have heard the dad shout.
It was also very wrong for the child to push through the very narrow gap that the couple had between them.

Very entitled parenting.

NoKnit · 12/05/2020 18:43

Also feel sorry for the kid.

Oh and no wonder she is wobbly she is quite clearly way too big for that bike. It's only like a 12 inch or something and she is 6?

Sadly stupid people don't die out just pass on the genes

SquashedSpring · 12/05/2020 18:44

There are almost nine million people with hearing impairment in the UK, a figure that should be more widely known!

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