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High needs baby!! When will it end?

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SidSparrow · 11/05/2020 11:52

DD2 is 3 and a half months old and has me at my wits end!! She is rarely content when in her bouncer, or on her playmat. Taking her out is a nightmare! She is not content in her pram unless she is sleeping and she doesn't sleep long... Same in the car seat. I know there is nothing wrong with her - she just wants to be held. I have two carriers - one she hates, the other maybe gives me 10 minutes of contentment if I'm lucky. I'm finding it extremely difficult l, I feel trapped more trapped by her than I do the lockdown! I feel so bad for DD1 who is 2 and acts up a lot because I just can't give her the attention she needs. I grieve the relationship we used to have, and then I feel guilty about it. I feel guilty because I can't give the same attention to DD2 as I did when DD1 was a baby. When we go out I come home a nervous crying wreck because DD2 has woken up and after making sure she's fed and changed etc and is put back in the pram she screams the whole way home. I feel terrible I can't console her when we're out because I can't carry her and push the double buggy.

So, what I really would like to know is a timescale! What are other people's experiences. I'd love to know how long roughly this will last.

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myself2020 · 11/05/2020 15:14

Mine never got “better” (they are 3 and 7 now). but i got a lot stronger resourceful

SidSparrow · 12/05/2020 09:11

Thank you @HildaSnibbs

And thank you everyone else too! All your helpful suggestions have been noted, and it's been so helpful to get other people's experiences and timescales. I did try again yesterday with the carriers, first the ring sling, and she was fine for a while!! Then later tried her in the ergo - she was quite content for a good while, very curious! Maybe she sensed I was on the edge of a mental breakdown so started cutting me a bit of slack haha! But yeah, new golden rule - don't leave the house without the ergo! I think because she has been so curious in it that maybe, like a lot of you said, that sitting up will be the game changer!! Fingers crossed anyway!!

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