Partner opening the curtains early!!

[babayjane67]

Hi all!
Probably extremely petty on its own,but he was up at 6.20,I went down at 7&made a cuppa to bring bk up to bed(he never comes bk to bed)&he decided to pull open the curtains! I said it's not even 8yet&it's a Sunday! Why are u opening them already? He said well the sun's out init!! Stop moaning at me first thing in the morning!!
Oh FFS!! He's getting right on my tits at times!!
Think this is just a rant as much as anything but thanks for reading!

Omg he's washing up?! How dare he!

Poor guy

Just ask him to close your bedroom door when he is up and ignore you. You can stay stewing in the dark, and he can get on with his life, on his rare days off.

He must have a fun life . Not.

If you are awake what's wrong with a bit of morning sunlight? If there is washing up then what's wrong with him doing it? Some people don't like to leave washing up in the sink, they'd rather do it. It's not like he insisted that you wash up or put the dishwasher on with two mugs in it, you can wash up both before and after breakfast .

I've just moved from a house where the early morning summer sun just threw a bit of extra light into the room, to a house where the sun shines right onto the bed at crack of dawn. I am gradually getting used to having to have the curtains drawn until I wake up.

But I like sitting in bed with a cup of tea and the light flooding in. Everyone's mileage will vary on this.

I wind my husband up something rotten by opening all the curtains first thing. I’d also cleaned the house top to bottom by 11 yesterday.

According to the OP, I’m headed for divorce for my unreasonable behaviour.

Blimey, I feel sorry for him!

You shouted at him for opening the curtains even though you were already out of bed, and now he can't wash up either

To be fair, whoever is up first creeps out and stays quiet til the other is up. Flinging open the curtains and crashing dishes around would really piss me off. I’m entitled to slouch in bed on days off!

You’re being U for saying ‘brekky’ tbf.

As I said,I was having a rant! There's a long line of things going on to be honest but today I just wanted to rant!
Thanks for yr opinions.

If you were still in bed and asleep then opening the curtains would have been mean. But if you were up and downstairs and making a cuppa I would have gone up opened the curtains and windows and made the bed. If dp decided to go back to bed to drink his coffee (why?) then closing the curtains would take seconds.
I genuinely don’t understand why it’s a problem that he is washing up

If you're not going back to sleep I don't see the issue, it's a lovely sunny day, I love sitting in bed with a cup of tea with the curtains open watching the waves

Our bedroom curtains haven't been opened for 6 years. We go downstairs to get our fix of sunlight.

This is a pisstake isn't it.

@R2519 no dont worry we haven't inflicted our nakedness on our neighbours! If he opened the curtains I shut them immediately before any undressing happened

Oooh goody, been a while since we had a thread on competitive-getting-up-early

Why do people who get up at 5am think they’re better than everyone else? In particular, see: dads on holiday.

DH is obsessed with opening the bedroom curtains - he leaves them wide open at night when we get in bed as he says he prefers it. We compromise on having them open whilst chatting/reading/on tablet or whatever then I make him close them when it’s time to actually go to sleep. The second he’s awake in the morning they’re open again, sometimes he’ll be up, in another room and I’ll close them before going for my shower, then come wandering back into the bedroom half or even fully naked and realise he’s come back in to open them again so I risk terrifying the neighbours with it all hanging out. I’ve learned to take my dressing gown into bathroom and make sure I’m totally covered before coming back through now.

Perfectly happy for him to do the washing up at whatever time he pleases though. This morning I’ve also had breakfast in bed so all curtain shenanigans are forgiven.

I'm calling reverse and actually the OP is pissed off that she's up and dow stairs washing up meanwhile her slob DH is still lying in bed 2 hours after waking up..... she stormed in and opened the curtains in an attempt to make him get up and he had a hissy fit and is still laying there.

Honestly you both sound hard work!

He just does my head in so many ways! He's good in some,don't get me wrong but I sometimes wish I was single& it quite often feels like that to be honest.

I'm sure you do his head in, in so many ways also! Over drawing curtains on a bright morning, when's he working full time and more.

Why do people who get up at 5am think they’re better than everyone else? In particular, see: dads on holiday.

Talk about seeing something that isn't there!

Nobody has said getting up early is virtuous

I hate getting up early but I have no choice. I don't open curtains at 5am in winter but when its light I open them ? Often I open the curtains then lay back in bed drinking my tea.

Is he supposed to lie in the half light of a curtained bedroom until you give him permission to get up?

Why was you annoyed he was washing up? I don't understand.

Understandme he actually doesn't do much else BUT the washing up&he will only do it on a day off.hes off again today he has 2 days off a wk.if I ask him to help me wash up in the evening after tea,on a work day,he acts like I've asked him to cut his right arm off&won't do it! Says I've been working all day! Yes&I've been doing housework&home schooling our DD all day then trying to get her out the house with me&the dog fir our once a day walk!! Before Corona,I was also working,housework,taking dog out etc.he won't take the dog out at all&won't ever come with us when we do.
He will wash up on a Sunday if I've cooked a roast BUT the last couple of months since before Corona existed,he's been saying NOT to have a roast let's have KFC or he'll buy picnic stuff or pizzas instead so he doesn't have to wash up!! I called him out on it cuz we hadn't had a roast for wks as he kept saying these things so I called him out on it as I was really needing some proper veg etc&said u just don't wanna wash up do u that's why you've been saying this?he said yea I don't that's right.I couldn't bloody believe it! .
So I'm sorry he might be working full time etc etc but you have no idea what he can be like!!
It's not just about pulling the bloody curtains!!

Have you considered buying a dishwasher?

Yes I have but when I've asked ppl I know who have got one about it they say don't bother you've still gotta wash tins etc first so what's the point? Besides I'd prob be the only one loading&unloading it! Or it would be added to DDS list of jobs.
Dp doesn't do anything around the house unless it's something's HE'S decided HE wants to do/wants US ALL to do.however if it's something I decide WE ALL need to do or HE needs to do then oh that's very different &doesn't get done unless I'm doing it myself! If I say I don't wanna do whatever it is HE wants me/us to do he gets huffy &/or goes on at me about it til I give in but if I try the same tactic on him then I'm nagging& moaning!