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Partner opening the curtains early!!

84 replies

babayjane67 · 10/05/2020 08:16

Hi all!
Probably extremely petty on its own,but he was up at 6.20,I went down at 7&made a cuppa to bring bk up to bed(he never comes bk to bed)&he decided to pull open the curtains! I said it's not even 8yet&it's a Sunday! Why are u opening them already? He said well the sun's out init!! Stop moaning at me first thing in the morning!!
Oh FFS!! He's getting right on my tits at times!!
Think this is just a rant as much as anything but thanks for reading!

OP posts:
DaphneFanshaw · 10/05/2020 09:05

He’s doing the fucking washing up!
Has he got form for this op?
I would LTB.

Ginfordinner · 10/05/2020 09:05

He's washing up and you are complaining!!!
You sound like hard work.

Chicchicchicchiclana · 10/05/2020 09:06

Well that was interesting.

Oysterbabe · 10/05/2020 09:06

Opening the curtains and washing up. Truly you have married a monster.

HeddaGarbled · 10/05/2020 09:06

Right, now you’re definitely being unreasonable. He’s washing up. This is a good thing. You’re annoyed because he’s not washing up at exactly the time you dictate?

DaphneFanshaw · 10/05/2020 09:08

I’ve just cleaned the bathroom.
DP is still in bed.
I can’t even begin to this who is being unreasonable in my house hold.

Ragwort · 10/05/2020 09:09

Separate bedrooms might help? Have you got a spare room?

It’s always difficult ‘co-ordinating’ times to get up, go to bed etc. I am a amazed at couples who do things at the same times. If he is up and washing up, sounds great, you can have a lie in in peace.

Macncheeseballs · 10/05/2020 09:10

Im a bit confused - you want to drink tea in the dark, and what time is ok to wash up?

Schoenes · 10/05/2020 09:20

How old are you?

WhatsHappeningCaroleBaskin · 10/05/2020 09:22

First thing I do is open curtains and windows (if it's not freezing outside). Can't beat curtains closed when it's light outside .. my next door neighbours live permanently behind closed curtains and I just don't know how they can do it - but each to their own.

Knocksomesense · 10/05/2020 09:22

You would hate me. I love falling asleep with the curtains open. Then when I wake up when the sun comes in it feels so lovely

Pipandmum · 10/05/2020 09:23

I don't ever close my curtains. I don't like them blocking out the light. But if he's up and out of the bedroom and you are back in it can't he see it's not logical for him to open them if you want them shut?

RedCouch · 10/05/2020 09:24

Yanbu. He could have at least said something like "mind if I open these?" since you were still in bed

Bananaandcustard80 · 10/05/2020 09:25

I have the opposite problem. My husband never opens curtains and would quite happily go downstairs and put the lights on instead of opening curtains. Drives me mad

Ginfordinner · 10/05/2020 09:26

We don't open our bedroom curtains until we are up and dressed as we don't want our neighbours opposite seeing us still in bed.

dontdisturbmenow · 10/05/2020 09:28

He just does my head in so many ways!
To be honest, you'd do my head in if you made such a fuss over curtains being opened after you've been up and about.

LastNameChanger · 10/05/2020 09:30

Sounds like you just don’t like him anymore. You’re even complaining about him washing up as it’s before you’ve added more dishes to it.
It’s his only day off and he’s up early and washing up, lots of people wouldn’t even dream of doing that. If your off and loving time with your DD think of how stressed he is working, maybe don’t stay on his back over silly small things

BogRollBOGOF · 10/05/2020 09:31

YANBU far too early on a pointless Sunday. No need to seize this day, especially as the weather has gone kapput.

I have just (9:27) opened the curtains on DH or he will doze through until lunchtime, meaning I either have to do everything while he dozes or do fuck all because why should I do anything productive while he does that. After 9am is fair game. Before 8 am is not.

Silvercatowner · 10/05/2020 09:33

He said 'init'?

LTB.

R2519 · 10/05/2020 09:38

@Justkeepswimmingdory.
My old neighbours used to do this......we had to tell them in the end. There is only so many times you can look out the window and see naked people opposite you! Where do you live OP?! 😂

Sally872 · 10/05/2020 09:42

Did he know you were coming back to bed?

Just shut the curtains ffs. You are very hard work.

TimeWastingButFun · 10/05/2020 09:46

If you'd got out of bed that was fair enough.

LouiseTrees · 10/05/2020 09:49

As long as it wasn’t waking me /daughter up you’ve actually just described a good man there. Opening curtains to see the sun ( that doesn’t show itself much in Scotland) and washing up so I don’t come down to a mess.

AndMyHairWillShineLikeTheSea · 10/05/2020 09:50

So you went downstairs, your dh opened the curtains. Then he was washing up and you think these are bad things?
If you didn't want the curtains open then you could have just closed them.

There's a thread just now on couples having arguments or not having arguments. I can see why some people are incredulous that some of us don't argue with our partners/husbands if this is the kind of shit people get annoyed about.

Sally872 · 10/05/2020 09:51

Now he is getting grief for washing up??? Yabvu. Who made you in charge of when he can get up or wash dishes?