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To be shocked at ndn having visitors?

197 replies

Blueswede · 08/05/2020 17:36

Next door neighbours in their 70’s, had a visitor arrive on a bicycle yesterday and had a visitor arrive in a car today. I’m sure they’re just sitting in the garden so probably are keeping the social distance but given that I’ve not seen anyone since lockdown began I’m a bit Hmm about it! I don’t want to dob them in as I really like my neighbours. Just totally surprised! DH says well people are doing that, visiting friends and family but keeping the distance. ( to be clear - We aren’t visiting or having visitors!)

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ilovesooty · 08/05/2020 17:38

Oh not again.

In their 70s too.

EverdeRose · 08/05/2020 17:40

Don't be so shocked, my neighbours are on there 3rd party in 3 days with extended family.
They still cone out every Thursday to clap for the key workers though Hmm

If i thought it would be worth the aggro after lockdown I would report them.

TabbyMumz · 08/05/2020 17:40

This is a pretty normal occurrence to be honest in a lot of houses. Do you think the police will be interested? They wont.

notacooldad · 08/05/2020 17:41

Sadly it seems a perfectly normal thing to do where I live
Ditto groups of cyclist stopping at the bridge to have a drink and regroup. They must be 40cm apart!
Same with 4 women I know going out for a walk together. I drove past them on my way home from work. All in their 40s with young children and elderly parents.
And do on.
It feels as if a lot of people have given up!

Wonkydonkey44 · 08/05/2020 17:43

Family across the road have had two lots of visitors to their house on two separate occasions. No social distancing. People think the rules don’t apply to them .

Yellowsubmarinedreams · 08/05/2020 17:43

Who cares?

SunbathingDragon · 08/05/2020 17:46

YABU to be shocked by it. Have you not read the many other posts on here alone about it?

They shouldn’t be doing it and most people are still abiding by the rules but enough aren’t that’s it hardly shocking. I am sure we will see an increase in numbers again in a fortnight as a result of this relaxing attitude.

JacobReesMogadishu · 08/05/2020 17:48

I’m surprised people here are so unbothered. Attitudes on MN have changed. At the start you’d be verbally lynched for two lots of isolated exercise, or driving 5 mins to exercise in an isolated spot because “it was against the rules”. Now people are not bothered by something which not,only is actually against the rules but also something which really increases the chance of spreading the virus about.

I do think it’s indicative that people have had enough of it all. We’ll have a massive second wave. I’m not breaking the rules but I also don’t care if we do have a second wave. I like my personal odds, I don’t have any elderly family, the only really high risk person I know I don’t like. Bring it on.

vodkaredbullgirl · 08/05/2020 17:48

Ffs not another age relate post.

SquashedFlyBiscuit · 08/05/2020 17:50

People stop at the end of our front garden. It's on a path with plenty of space to distance but as we're almost shielding its been amazing to see people. They've been more than 2m away, and people can pass them at more than 2m.....

Zomblie · 08/05/2020 17:50

I've just seen a dad lift his young son over the padlocked playground gate with an instruction to go play and have fun...

Some people are knobbers they are knobbers regardless of the country being in lockdown or not.

SquashedFlyBiscuit · 08/05/2020 17:51

And we're not 70!

bigbluebus · 08/05/2020 17:53

Not uncommon. Houses down from us have visitors on a regular basis. In fact there's usually 2 cars parked on the road and I've just counted 6. What bothers me is that those who live there all go in the village shop - they clearly are too thick to understand that theif behaviour doesn't just impact them.

Annabk · 08/05/2020 17:58

The people opposite me (a couple with a little boy) are currently sat in their 10ft x 10ft front garden eating and drinking with 15 friends plus a few kids. It’s so brazen that my jaw was on the floor at first.

dontgobaconmyheart · 08/05/2020 18:03

Fob them in or not OP the police won't do anything.

They're foolish, and selfish. I had a reasonably affable and polite relationship with ours before this but no longer do as a result of their constant visitors. They had a birthday gathering in the garden the other week. I've notified the police many times (and am more than happy for them to know I've done as such) and nothing has happened. We have small gardens with low fences and I am in the shielding category so feel I can't use the garden as we are not far apart. People are just dicks, at least this has outed them so we can steer clear.

Pippapotomus · 08/05/2020 18:03

My cul de sac seem to have given up social distancing. One is having a bbq and invited the family's from either side. (not salty I didn't receive an invite.)
Another has grandchildren visiting. They were staying in the front garden on previous visits, the children sat on one end of a wall, and the grandparents the other end. But they've all been indoors all day.

Another family left early this morning to visit friends.

(I'm not nosey - any sound echos round the road and in through the windows.)

DH said the roads are busy in the town where he works.

Everyone's fed up and restless.

ElizaCrouch · 08/05/2020 18:06

In their 70s?
Breaking lockdown rules?

Just add you're going to call the police and it will be Mumsnet bingo. 👍

user1465335180 · 08/05/2020 18:19

People seem to have this weird belief that as long as their visitors are family it doesn't count. They will be the people complaining most loudly about lockdown
FFS it's easy, stay at hone

PhilCornwall1 · 08/05/2020 18:19

@Blueswede Have you not been reading the endless threads on this for the last 7 weeks? People have been doing this since the lockdown started and MN has been a hotbed of contempt for every one of them. Ritual burnings at the stake will commence once lockdown is over. 🔥

Myfriendanxiety · 08/05/2020 18:22

How do you know those visitors aren’t bringing essential supplies or proving essential care?

Picklesprout · 08/05/2020 18:24

Neighbours on both sides have been, DP is NHS frontline who tested positive for covid the other week. Its their choice, we have just made it very clear that we wont listen to them complain about the virus/how scared they are/how they wish lockdown was over

Nb89 · 08/05/2020 18:25

These are the people that are moaning at the thought of another 3 weeks in lockdown.

I'm in Wales and we've had our next 3 week's lockdown confirmed today but with very small relaxation in rules. Its quite funny seeing all the WTF's on here and social media? And lots of people admitting they've been going out as they please or more than permitted regardless and they are the ones now moaning there isn't any improvement in the lockdown conditions and in a real state about another 3 weeks.

The problem is none of these people see themselves as the problem. If everyone did 100%as asked instead of making lots of special.reasons and conditions to bend the rules suit them, then another 3 weeks.maybe could have been avoided.

Oooh the irony of it!!

Too special though to acknowledge, accept or realise this though.

BeetrootRocks · 08/05/2020 18:27

Next door having started having family around

People are tiring of lickdown

PhilCornwall1 · 08/05/2020 18:28

I'm in Wales and we've had our next 3 week's lockdown confirmed today but with very small relaxation in rules.

I watched that. Boris is going to Copy and Paste that speech for Sunday, saves him a bit of work.

PhilCornwall1 · 08/05/2020 18:29

People are tiring of lickdown

No they aren't!!!! GrinGrin

Lockdown on the other hand.....