To be shocked at ndn having visitors?

[Blueswede]

Next door neighbours in their 70’s, had a visitor arrive on a bicycle yesterday and had a visitor arrive in a car today. I’m sure they’re just sitting in the garden so probably are keeping the social distance but given that I’ve not seen anyone since lockdown began I’m a bit about it! I don’t want to dob them in as I really like my neighbours. Just totally surprised! DH says well people are doing that, visiting friends and family but keeping the distance. ( to be clear - We aren’t visiting or having visitors!)

@Ethelfleda @fedup21 yes. Exactly! I’m not judging them at all, honestly I think good for them for having the bollocks to do as they please but that’s their choice, but it does make me think oh well maybe I should just pop round to see my own parents or friends. Even though they’re all ok not needing help etc.
@bloodywhitecat ffs I’m not judging them. Where’s the judgement? It was just a shock to see and hear it after weeks of lockdown and thinking they weren’t the sort to rebel

My elderly neighbours hae either their daughter or adult grandchildren visit every day - they go up the side of the house and the old's come out with tea which is placed on the step and then they retreat back to chairs and they all sit around the garden at a distance - I think it's keeping them sane and I can't see the harm at all.

A lot of people I know have been meeting family and friends at a safe distance in the last couple of weeks. People get tired of staying at home for weeks and their mental health starts to suffer. Going to have a chat with someone sitting at a distance is a positive thing for them.

If you don't want to 'dob them in' then don't, mind your own business!

Some common sense has to prevail surely. I drop off my mother in her 80s groceries she can’t go out and cannot use technology so no mobile or internet. We go once a week and I bring my dc we have a coffee ya in the doorstep and her on a chair in the hall. Not sure that’s against the rules as we are helping a vulnerable person. Last week my mums neighbour had her daughter doing the same although she is not older if sheilding but is on her own.

@Blueswede. As long as they didn’t pee on your petunias, sorry couldn’t resist that .

Another post that is silly and boring.

userxx fuck off I’m not judging them

Errrr, yes you are or you wouldn't have bothered starting a thread about it. Stop curtain twitching and crack on with your own life.

God may there be an end to this curtain-twitching madness and policing of others! And the ageism! They had visitors sat in their garden. So what?!

My grandparents have food shopping dropped off by my aunt and uncle every week, and they will go into their back garden and have a bit of a chat at a distance.

My other grandmother is on her own and really lonely and beginning to get depressed, she’s asked my parents if they’d drop by to have a chat in the garden at a distance as she’s really had enough. I absolutely won’t judge if they do, sometimes it’s about weighing things up.

@userxx where’s the judgement??? I’m just shocked they had visitors in spite of the ‘rules’ and even more shocked by the responses on this thread that everyone else is apparently carrying on seeing friends and family. You learn something new everyday and today I’ve learnt that a socially distanced visit is apparently ok 😂 fuck me sideways 😂😂

@lucialou I get people having a chat while they’re there for an “allowed” reason like dropping off food, medicine etc. This is not what I’m talking about - I’m on about visitors arriving at lunchtime and leaving half an hour ago. No judgement just didn’t realise it was going on and it was a surprise to me.

That’s not what folk are saying I think multiple visits by multiple groups is pushing it. Dropping off nessecities once a week maybe even twice or even just to keep a lonely person sane is more common sense and with appropriate distance maintained but yes technically against the rules. God even the bloody advisors can’t take their own advice . I don’t go and drop by any other family members or friends but do stop to chat if I meet them in the park for example.

This afternoon my 80-year-old parents walked around the corner to our front garden to celebrate VE Day with us. They sat away from us, had a gin and tonic and left after an hour. It lifted all our spirits and was done safely.

You do sound judgmental, fair enough you may not have intended to come across that way but that is how it sounds. I'd get yourself out, being housebound for 7 weeks sounds horrific and so unnecessary.

@userxx housebound? I’m fortunate enough to have a garden and I basically spend all day out there with ds and I consider myself bloody lucky to have a house to live in. Or be ‘bound in’. Plenty of people don’t even have a home. Too many people consider themselves stuck at home when in fact we’re all very fortunate.

Good gracious. My son brings my shopping every week and stays to chat, we are either sde of the window 2 metres apart. I drove to my granddaughters place of work - she is a carer in a home because I had mead some mask mates for the carers. I stayed in the car and she got them from the boot. We had a chat through the open window 2 metres apart. Then another carer granddaughter picked some up from my home. We have taken every precaution. I cannot see anything wrong in this and it is safer than shopping. You do not know people's circumstances so keep quiet.

Yes, you are housebound, you've not left for 7 weeks, that's grim. You crack on though but please stop with the mock shock of I can't believe people are having friends over when I've not left the house in a million years. Your choice and totally unnecessary.

socially distanced visit is apparently okfuck me sideways

can you explain why you cannot contain your mirth at this? can you tell me why you are coming across judgemental in this particular sentence (even though you claim not to be) I'm really intrigued to know why me sitting over 2m away from my mum is an issue or dangerous to the wider population

and try not to tell me to fuck off like you have every other poster who had challenged you (when you're saying you arent being judgey but from this sentence alone you quite clearly are)

There a myth going round that lock down will be lifted on Monday. It won't be, thete will be very minor changes if any at all and possible plans set out as to how release lock down over tbe coming MONTHS. People had better start taking the seriously because if they don't lock down will go on for longer which will also mean schools will return much later. And who will be the first to moan? The idiots flouting the lock down.

It’s not flouting lock down to see family at a 2 meter distance. I walk my dog past my mums everyday. I have my own spot on the patio. I shout before I come round the corner so they are safe in the house and then I sit in my seat outside and chat whilst they sit inside. I regularly drop off groceries as well but really I’m just checking they are ok as my mum is shielding (transplant patient) so they don’t see anyone else. I see no reason why this would increase the spread of coronavirus.

Neighbours chatting over walls or through open doors is totally normal here. I don’t see people getting too close but my next door neighbours daughter comes by for a chat with her mum. Next door up from my mums parents pop up to see the grandkids from the other end of the front garden. It’s a small village and everyone is related and in walking distance so we wonder by and “visit”.

@tartanbow let’s include the rest shall we
“ where’s the judgement??? I’m just shocked they had visitors in spite of the ‘rules’ and even more shocked by the responses on this thread that everyone else is apparently carrying on seeing friends and family. You learn something new everyday and today I’ve learnt that a socially distanced visit is apparently ok 😂 fuck me sideways 😂😂”

That’s not judgemental. I genuinely didn’t know it was considered ok by the general public to have socially distanced visits. I genuinely didn’t know people were doing it until today. and laughing because I had no idea it was going on! I guess I took the “stay home save lives” and the “dont visit friends / family who aren’t in the same household” too literally!
@userxx I wouldn’t call it grim, lol. I love my house, middle of nowhere in a bloody beautiful part of the country, my garden is big being rural (more of a field) so plenty of space to walk or run. Where exactly have you been going that’s so bloody exciting? Must be pretty grim being so desperate to get out of your own home! Some people just can’t find happiness in what they have.

people can do what they like but i do hope we don’t have an awful second wave because of people making their own interpretation of the stay home rules...I’d quite like to start getting back to some sense of normality mainly so my parents can see their grandchild!

people staying 2m away from each other is not going to cause a second wave - not sure what you think is going to happen when lockdown is lifted (and it will have to be at some point) and the virus is still here. social distancing will be the norm for a while
I think the real idiots are those who are unable to asses risk for themselves and act accordingly

Ours are going out all the time .
They were out all day today , they’ve only just got back .

Time for an enforced and rigorous lock down because people just arnt getting it. Tartan, this is a new and dealt virus that virtually no one has immunity to, assessing your own risk to it is pure ignorance.