'Cutesy' language to baby

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DH keeps saying "feeties" instead of foot or feet and many other words to our 10 month old. I've asked him to use the proper words while our child learns to speak but he's carrying on anyway.

It's driving me mad, AIBU?

Possibly - I don’t know if slightly mangled words come under ‘parentese’ but speaking in a silly baby voice is actually good for speech development.

Yeah, YABU. Your baby will learn to talk just fine, and it must be driving him mad to have his parenting policed like that.

My dd is 3 and I still call them toezies. She knows there her feet and can point to them if i ask her to. I dont see a problem.

YANBU OP, I hate baby talk with an absolute passion. Not so much the high pitch/simplified language (I know it’s good for brain development) but I hate things like doggy, horsey, feeties, dip dip (for ketchup)!l, use the proper word!!

@AravisTarkheena thank you for the response!

Just to clarify, it's not the voice that I have a problem with, it's the words "sockies" "leggies" etc.

They do learn to say the correct words as they get older. I think babies respond well to these gentle baby words. I used them with my DDs and they both went on to get first class honours at uni so I don't think it has an adverse effect. Let your DH speak his baby words and you use the correct words. It's all fine as long as you keep talking to your child. That's the main thing.

Yabu. Baby talk encourages speech, they have a lifetime to learn to speak properly, but 'cutsie' words help with the phonetic building blocks.

YABU
I use all sorts of made up words with mine.

Kids always know the ‘real’ word and the ‘baby word’. It’s fine. You come across a bit neurotic. He’s not going to make your baby thick don’t worry

This is all part of motherese or whatever they call it now and YABU.

"Cutesy" baby talk actually aids language development and children exposed to it have been found to pick up language skills much faster.

www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2018/08/180801102605.htm

Yeah don't sweat it, let him do his thing and you do yours.

YABU, why does it bother you so much? Children are perfectly capable of knowing two (or many more) words for the same thing. Your husband saying feeties won't mean you can't use the "proper" word if you must or that they will grow up not knowing it. Totally normal for parents to play around with language a bit when talking to babies. Lighten up.

YABU - I use all kinds of gibberish with mine and they have know the real words also

I read an article, which stated it didn't really matter if parents used silly words, such as 'choo choo' for train, etc. That what is important is the communication.
So it doesn't matter if the adults puts on a silly voice, etc. The important thing is to communicate

I’m nearly 30 and still ask my husband to get me a yog yog from the fridge!

YABU. My relative has a PhD in language acquisition and the evidence says that children learn best when exposed to a mixture of 'correct' and cutesy words. So keep doing what you're each doing, and the baby gets the best of both. And apologise to your husband.

Yabu.
It's completed natural to speak to babies in a sing song voice and use silly words. It's much more engaging and most people do it instinctively.

YABU OP, don't discourage your DH. I would have said before I had kids that I hated baby talk, but feet are 'feetsies' in our house and that's totally normal. We have a late talker, tbh there were times a few months ago when I was willing him to say anything at all, baby talk or not.

YABU. You're not the parent-in-charge. Parenting is an equal relationship and he is not doing anything damaging.

YABU - what is the terrible consequence of saying ‘feeties’? Have you ever come across an adult who said ‘feeties’ etc. because they never learned to understand the difference between cutesy language and standard English? Your child will obviously catch on at some point that it’s a ‘cutesy’ word and will use ‘feet’ instead. Some parents really do insult their children’s intelligence

Ok thanks for all the replies and info guess IABU!

YABU. There’s a reason why a lot of adults instinctively use that voice/those words with babies, it helps with their brain development. And it’s horrible to nitpick on your OH’s parenting. One of the best things about having children is being able to be silly with them imo. I’ve done this with all of mine, it’s not led to any confusion and it’s not ‘dumbed them down’

You’d hate my house btw. It’s not even ‘toesies’ with our baby. It’s ‘piggies’ (this little piggy went to market) 😂

But chubby feeties and leggies are so cute they need a cutesy name.

I talked all sorts of rubbish to mine. Don't worry, by the time they can actually talk they won't be calling them leggies because neither will he.