To think the commute is not too much for this job?

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The job is 27-30 miles away. 5k salary increase. I think it would be fine. DH says not a good idea (too far a commute time). We have 1 DC who would be in nursery whilst I'm working.

DH can't do drop off/pick up as he doesn't drive.

AIBU to think it's okay? Or is it too much of a commute? Not London, no.

So you could lose 2+ hrs a day in a car for a 5k payrise?

You need to decide whether the logistics are worth it and whether you can keep active on top of that. That's a lot of time sitting down.

I used to commute 20 miles and at rush hour it could take nearly 2 hours.

You really need to know how long it's going to take. Perhaps you could ask on a local Facebook group as a PP suggested?

I used to commute that kind of distance and it took me well over an hour in rush hour traffic.

If you have nursery pick ups then you need to make sure you can get back on time.

I would reiterate what a PP said and put your journey times into Google Maps - eg leaving at 8am returning at 5pm if it is a 9-5 job. It will usually give a pretty accurate guide.

I normally commute 26 miles to work every day. If I leave at any time between 7 or 8.15am it would take me 50 minutes with traffic, however I tend to leave at 8.35 and get into work at 9.10, saving 15 minutes from my journey time, but my employer doesn't mind so I am lucky in that respect.

Would you be travelling in rush hour/would your employer be flexible on working hours?

I think you need to work out how long it would take. a good way to do it is using Google maps, but put in a day you would normally be commuting on. Then factor in the drop off and pick ups.

DP only works 8.2 miles away but on a normal day, it can take him 40-60 mins to go from home -> nursery -> work and vice versa. Our Nursery is open 0730-1830 but this means he absolutely has to finish at half 5 to be sure he can get to the nursery on time. They charge £1 a minute for being late!!!!

I'm in the SE and used to commute to a town that is 20 miles away and currently showing as a 33 minute drive on google maps . It never took less than an hour and 15 minutes.

Okay, the start of commute is Luton Stopsley. The end location is Milton Keynes. Maps saying its 30 mins at 8am but that's can't be right

Not sure how long it would take with regards to rush hour. It says from here to there is 33 mins. But that isn't rush hour

Or snowing; icy, or in the dark of winter. Or nose-to-tail private cars when previous public transport buses/trains using "social distancing" can''t provide the same service as before covid.

Can you DH learn to drive so that he can do done if tge drop offs/collections?

Luton to MK you’ll be going the opposite way to the rush hour so will be easy. MK traffic runs fairly well.

I’d hazard a guess your DH wants you to pick him up every day, hence you not taking the new job.

Don’t do it. I’ve done similar for many years but only works because my other half works close to school and does most of the drop offs, pick ups, play dates, primary school events etc. I also work from home whenever I can as commuting is so tiring

Which bit of MK? If you leave at 8am, you will hit MK at it's busiest. Unless you're going to the bit of MK near the motorway you will crawl through. Then you need to factor in parking time (unless you are working somewhere with a staff car park). I think it would be tight be at work for 9am tbh.

I did a 90 mile round trip commute pre children.
For 9 to 5, I'd have had to leave by 845 and wouldn't get home until 615. There's no way beyond a nursery close to work that I'd have been able to get back to pick up - I reviewer all potential options.
Also by the time I took out the cost of petrol, recovery, repairs, etc that 5k would be practically gone. Worse if you have to pay to park. That's before you get "Your child is sick" calls to collect and you have to dash out.

I do that but of the m1 and it is normally OK. No really traffic. Depends on how far into mk

I don't think the commute is too much. Try out the job, see how it goes for a year or two and then move onto something else if you need to. If you don't try you'll never know how things will pan out.

Your partner needs to be more open minded and become more independent, able to drive or do something so he can sort out the childcare and travelling to his work and back.

That bit of motorway is eternal roadworks - you've got the A5 as an alternative, but I often travel that stretch and would hate to have to do it in rush hour. You'll need to get to know the shortcuts through the villages. Loads of people do it though.

Do you have friends or family who could pick DC up from nursery if they're ill? Hopefully it won't come up that often but it can be difficult if there's no-one nearby to deal with that stuff. Not impossible though, as you could always find someone for emergencies (paid or otherwise) if you plan in advance.

As PPs say, I wouldn't do it for a £5k pay rise though - what other advantages are there to this job?

Google maps can tell you typical drive times - if you go to public transport to add times then go back to car...

Is it compulsory that the nursery only accept children arriving by car?

My 9 mile commute can take the best part of an hour 😭

I live outside of Manchester and commute in, it’s about 20 miles door to door. It should take 30-40 mins but reality of rush hour traffic is 60-90 mins, longer on a bad day or if there’s a problem in the motorway. I am forever rushing and cursing on my way to nursery and I hardly ever do my full amount of hours at work as I have to leave to make sure I’m back for nursery closing, so I have to have one night a week where I have to stay late (like 8pm) to make up the time. I have family who can pick up the baby on that day. But it’s pretty crap and I’m always looking for something closer to home.

I wouldn't, my husband used to commute that far and it was miserable. Far too many times got stuck in accidents/bad weather etc. I had to do all the stuff with the kids he just turned up at bedtime.

It could work if you're a real lark and happy to leave at 7am and leave early.

I got offered a job with similar commute and £10k payrise but turned it down then got s job paying £8k more 3 miles away.

It totally depends on traffic and the route, and actual time.

I would hate a 30 minute commute if it was basically traffic the whole way, or stop start.etc.

45 mins, decent 60/70 mph travel, with just a little town drive at the end, would be fine.

I used to have a job from Northampton Area to MK, every day down the A5. So frustrating, I started at 08:30 and had to park in an ind, est. If I left at 07:00, I'd be late. If I left at 06:45, I'd get in for 08:00.

And it would be the same coming home, dependant on traffic I could get home at 19:00. So out the house for 12 hours, to work 8.5. When the same route at the weekend was 30 mins .

I took a 1.5k paycut for a different job where I could carshare with my partner, techincally came up on top, once I accounted for diesel.

My current job is a 22 mile commute, which is pure driving, takes me about 30 mins. Plus I have a couple of longer, alternative routes if my main route is full of traffic.

Luton to MK, you have the A5 and the M1, but they are very dependant on the other. If the M1 is bad the A5 is stuffed too...

I don't know why you're getting 30 mins for that journey, although I don't have the postcode for your destination I've got 35-55 mins for m1 and 40-1hr5 on a5, typically without any accidents etc.

I do 27 miles 3 days per week and it regularly takes 1hr15.

You definitely need to do a few test runs at rush hour before you accept the job. My commute is 7 miles but takes 1hr 30m - London (tube+train)

After this pandemic, would it be worth asking about flexi working and doing 2 days a week from home?

How much is a difference would £5k make to your overall household income? If significant, then your DH needs to look at sharing pick up/drop off