To tell the neighbour to have some fucking respect

[Magicra84]

My next door neighbour is nice. He plays heavy dance music with a heavy bass. He's a fucker for it. He also has it playing out into his garden on nice days. Cuntish especially as most of our neighbours are of the older generation and probably won't like dance music too much.

Anyway sometimes it starts at 8 a.m. what is never on too loud it's just the bass constantly banging. It's currently on now louder than normally and I can't concentrate on the TV and can hear it over my own music. It's shit. The thud thud thud is causing me anxiety every day. Should I nicely ask neighbour to turn it down? He must be aware it's loud enough I can hear it. I was going to tell him the other day but it stopped. Really tired of it and when I hear the music come on now I get a deep feeling of dread.

Order a trumpet and set alarm for 5am..

Oh and it's his birthday today so would I be mean to ask him to turn it down?

@Windyatthebeach tempting...very tempting!

Just go and ask him. He might not realise how much the sound travels.

Sound insulation in a lot of houses, especially modern ones, is shite and imo there should building regs about it. I had a client who lived in a house where he could hear his neighbours farting, ffs.

I actually can't wait to get back to work so I don't have to put up with his noise.

I feel that if I ask him he might then turn around and have a go about any noise I make such as the washing machine etc.

If he is nice as you say he will turn it down, surely? Otherwise, he isnt "nice"

You say he's nice, so would you feel able to ask him to turn the bass down? We had the same problem until our DS told the neighbour we could hear it in every room in our house. Neighbour changed the settings and it's much less troublesome now, but I know exactly what you mean about the feeling of dread, because I still worry that he'll suddenly turn the bass back up again. That does happen sometimes when he's been drinking.
Sending to you.

Ask politely, if I thought my general sounds, music, tele etc was causing upset of course i would turn down, or at least lessen the extent I was playing the music.
I might be inclined to wait until tomorrow to ask, so not on his birthday, since you've got this far without asking, whats another day?
Noises like washing machines etc would be crazy to complain about, washing machines can't be helped unless you're doing your washing at 2am.

Omg are you one of my neighbours? Same problem here!

Nobody should play music in the garden, or loud enough to be heard outdoors

If it’s his birthday I’d leave it til Sunday

Nobody nice plays music so loudly anybody else can hear.

Speak to him tomorrow, and make sure to mention that you didn't say anything today cos you knew it was his birthday and didn't want to put a damper on it.
He'll owe you one 🙂

My next door neighbour's sitting room backs onto my bedroom (we live in a block of flats) the bass noise coming through the wall is enough to drive anyone mad.

I'd speak to your neighbour OP. Mine has turned the 'music' down somewhat since I mentioned it to him.

When you say nice, are you being sarcastic?

Bass travels through walls more than high frequencies, and often people dont realise how much so.
Subwoofers on surround systems are a common culprit too.

I'd mention it, but try and keep it lighthearted. The lockdown seems to have played with folks temperament.

I really feel for you @Magicra84. I seem to have an extremely low tolerance to bass it drives me bloody bonkers. My son turns it up in our car. I hate it. I turn it down and turn the treble up. He hates it! I don't know if it's an age thing - what sort of levels our ears find uncomfortable.

In the house I can't bear it when his music gets all bassy. It's the horrible feeling isn't it. The unbearable throb. Not the sound but the physical feeling.

Years ago I lived in a top floor flat - no real problems until I knew the very second my downstairs neighbour got a new stereo (do we still call it that? Showing my age!) and it absolutely throbbed through the floor. Not the noise the feeling. I did speak to him. I think he did turn it down.

You could try and have words...

Have you ever asked him?

I wouldn't ask him on his birthday as otherwise he has an excuse - oh it's my birthday - as if it isn't a longer term problem.

I'd like to think I'd ask him another day but honestly I'd send him an anonymous note because I'm brave like that.

Maybe people who are worried about respect shouldn't be posting on mumsnet during the Two Minutes Silence

Washing machine is normal household noise unless your machine is unlevel or you're washing housebricks at 3am.

Music noise is different it should be played with consideration.

My DS plays guitar (acoustic or classic) and we can hear him in another room but not like a bass !

Your revenge is the vacuum cleaner , lift the beater bar high (to protect it) and place against the wall next to his bedroom at 6am.

Sound travels ,don't it matey

@NoMorePoliticsPlease I don't agree with not playing music in your garden. As long as it isnt blaring.

Omg the bass, can't stand it! It does not seem anywhere near the level in the room it's being played it. Have a wee word!

Why do people on here always describe people like this neighbor as ‘nice’? He’s not nice, he’s an inconsiderate arsehole.