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Will you be seeing your family if lockdown is relaxed?

335 replies

CandleFlames · 06/05/2020 19:16

If lockdown is relaxed on Monday, will you see your family from other households again? I had a baby last month and none of my family have met him and I’m in two minds whether to stay isolating or to let them meet him if the rules change.

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Inkpaperstars · 06/05/2020 20:47

Right user. Why did they decide to do it right now do you think?

Onone · 06/05/2020 20:48

Nope 👎🏻

Elmerrrrrrrr · 06/05/2020 20:49

Just ignore user

stayathomer · 06/05/2020 20:51

In Ireland and we're easing off restrictions but have basically been told if you don't have to leave your house etc then don't. On mn a lot talk about shielding etc but I don't totally get it? It's clear now it isn't all underlying health conditions or extremely elderly? I miss my family so much and they're only an hour away but tbh I don't know when I'll see them again:(

Lucienandjean · 06/05/2020 20:54

Yes, I'll be seeing my daughter, her dh, and her children, I hope. No one else, though. My son and my mum live too far away and I'm sure we won't be allowed to travel far.

I'm vulnerable (but at the lesser end of vulnerable). I'm in my fifties. I've not been in a shop for 6 weeks, dh has been doing it all, we're working from home, not meeting anyone outside the household at all. I have been for walks of course.

But I fully intend to see family. They've promised they'll see no one but us, to cut the risk for me as much as possible. But I can't go much longer without seeing the children in particular. And my daughter would like some support from us, even if that's just us chasing the grandkids round the garden so she can sit down!

It's a risk I'll take, because life is for living, not existing.

imsooverthisdrama · 06/05/2020 20:55

Yes most definitely if allowed , my mum I really want to talk to her properly and my dh is missing his parents I know even though he's not said .

Casino218 · 06/05/2020 20:57

I will be visiting my 20 year old daughter or inviting her here for a lovely meal.

Meruem · 06/05/2020 20:59

Unlikely as I live in London and DSis lives in Cornwall! So I doubt I’d get a very warm welcome from the local folk! The only other family I am close to live abroad so again unlikely. Restrictions would have to ease way more than is likely on Monday.

DollyDaph10 · 06/05/2020 21:03

Seeing them from a social distance, so from across the garden etc. Definitely not getting close as it’s not worth the risk x

majesticallyawkward · 06/05/2020 21:05

it's a tough split for us, and I'm sure many more. I miss my mum, my dd misses her too and I'm so sad that my baby doesn't know his grandma. He was a tiny blob at the start of this and he's learned so much it's like a different baby, but he doesn't really know anyone but me, dh and dd.

We live around an hours drive from my family so if we decide to go visit I'd want to see my mum, DGM and brother and SIL as they all live near each other. But my mum and brother are still working (supermarket and prison) and DGM is vulnerable- late 80s, heart and lung conditions, no spleen so immunosuppressed, leukaemia- so if we see mum and db really we shouldn't see DGM, but couldn't in good conscience not see her if we are in the next street.

Dd is also desperate to see her friends, as is dh, so again is that a mix we could risk if it was allowed.

My mum lives alone and I'm worried about her being so lonely, she goes to work and chats over the fence to next door but it's not the same as actual company. Seeing us mostly the dc would be so good for her.

bananaskinsnomnom · 06/05/2020 21:06

I have a new niece who I have only seen through a car window - I will be seeing my family if restrictions lift. There’s only 6 in my immediate family and we’ve all been at home.

BalthazarImpresario · 06/05/2020 21:08

Yep, definitely My mum is 70 and feels really discriminated against as she is on no meds , no underlying health and has always been very healthy so even though she's in the shielded category she is probably healthier than me. So family and 2 friends who live alone will get me.

geojojo · 06/05/2020 21:12

Yes we will see who we can. I do have some family members shielding so will obviously continue to not see those. It's sad to think we have no idea when we will see them.

Bonkerz · 06/05/2020 21:12

My kids haven't seen their dad for 7 weeks now. He is a key worker so decided it was beat to not have contact. We will hopefully resume that contact Sunday for his sake as well as theirs.
I don't see much else changing for me outside of that though. I may meet my sisters for a walk somewhere or they may come for coffee but I think for the next few weeks we will remain isolated.

saints06 · 06/05/2020 21:13

I won't as mum is 100 miles away and I would have to use the train to get there.

BangingOn · 06/05/2020 21:14

I’ve not seen any of my family since Christmas and I have a new nephew I haven’t met yet. I will be seeing them as soon as is possible.

Tulipstulips · 06/05/2020 21:15

If we can travel - our nearest family is 100 miles away. But I doubt we will be allowed to go that far.

We have friends we’d like to see in our local town, but most of them have family close by so if they can only see one or two households, we won’t be their priority.

saraclara · 06/05/2020 21:17

I can't wait. I miss my daughters so much, and I desperately want to be able to see my five month old granddaughter. Even if I can't hold her or hug my daughters, just being able to be physically with them will be wonderful.

Rassy · 06/05/2020 21:17

No because they live in the Isle of Man and the Manx border is closed

Titsywoo · 06/05/2020 21:19

Yes I will. Not sure if I'll be allowed to go to my parents who are 50 miles away but they are under 70 so not shielded. Will definitely go and see MIL who is 5 miles down the road.

DCIRozHuntley · 06/05/2020 21:20

We will all see my mum and dad.

I will potentially see my grandma as I can socially distance - it's harder for the kids. She is over 80 but in robust health and has been to Tesco and the Co-Op every day, so is very keen to see family and not frightened by the virus. I'm just not sure I want all the germs she's been around, rather than being concerned I'll expose her! I feel like it should be the other way round!

ginsparkles · 06/05/2020 21:21

It will depend entirely on what "relaxing" entails.

FilthyforFirth · 06/05/2020 21:23

Yes 100%. I will see my dad, and MIL if you are allowed to see more. Parents are divorced, I live near dad and siblings live near mum so we can limit interactions and 'take a parent each' as it were.

I would love to see my mum, especially as I am pregnant, but if they want just one household then my dads it is. We will go round immediately. We have all been working from home/sensible and I would love for my son to see his grandparents.

Greenleavesawash · 06/05/2020 21:26

No because they live abroad - if they were closer I’d still not (yet)

MooominMamma · 06/05/2020 21:26

I'd love to but both parents are shielding and my brother and his family are living with them at the moment so will still have to wait quite a while.