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Customers in supermarket queues buying 2 items

774 replies

justasking111 · 06/05/2020 14:13

After a week of emptying cupboards reluctantly went out this morning. Standing in Tesco queue, two over 70s ladies behind me. one had given the other a lift. What do you need the driver said, oh just some cheese and a newspaper. They were not switched on by social distancing either despite the clear marks on the pavement.

Now I do think if you are over 70 and determined to get out well on your head be it. But for two items, for christs sake.

AIBU I being unreasonable to think that if you go to a supermarket it is to seriously stock up not for 2 items?

OP posts:
OneandTwenty · 07/05/2020 11:25

Well that statement is so far from reality that it must be sarcasm. No-one could possibly think that we're going back to normal in the UK next Monday.

Put it another way, if it's not safe or acceptable to reopen everything, then schools wouldn't reopen.

The minute kids have to go back to school, it's safe and acceptable for everything else.

We can't have it both ways.

midnightstar66 · 07/05/2020 11:26

Schools aren't opening on Monday though. Even when they do open it will be a very different model than we are used to - only certain classes and numbers in at a time.

Thighmageddon · 07/05/2020 11:31

OneandTwenty were you watching a totally different thing to the rest of us? Reading a different news article?

I'm in retail and we're not expecting to reopen for a few weeks yet. There's a lot of planning that's going to have to be done first. Like putting markers down 2m apart, working out how the flow and one in one out will work, deciding what staff are working and when so it's safe...

TeensArghhhh · 07/05/2020 11:35

You honestly think phasing in less strict lockdown rules until the second wave means “Scrap lockdown. Do what you like?”

Schools definitely won’t be back on Monday. Some workers will be able to return to work if they can adhere to the 2m rule. There may, or may not, be scope to meet up with a few family members. Outdoor cafes may open. People may be able to exercise more than once a day. Picnics may be allowed.

There is not a chance that lockdown will be scrapped altogether.

Dialdownthedrama · 07/05/2020 11:41

So strange that people can't see that some things are more important than others and does not mean there will be a free for all.

Work and education are important. On an economic/societal level and not just an individual one.

Large family gatherings are not.

fiddlysticks · 07/05/2020 11:53

These threads are brilliant. A few weeks ago this type of AIBU would have been an unanimous they're killing people, it's against the rules, it's not essential!

Now it's basically the other way, lockdown police, people can go out you know, maybe they forgot the items, etc etc.

Drivingdownthe101 · 07/05/2020 11:54

Put it another way, if it's not safe or acceptable to reopen everything, then schools wouldn't reopen

Who has told you schools are reopening on Monday??

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 07/05/2020 11:59

@fiddlysticks there's always been a rational, sensible section of posters who wouldn't have seen a problem with this but I think they are speaking up more now. Whether it's because they are fed up with posters going on about 'rules' that are nothing like anything the government ha suggested and have decided to speak out or whether there's less of the shopping stasi around I don't know, but they have always been there.

saraclara · 07/05/2020 12:08

Yep. My opinions haven't changed. But I'm finding it much harder not to air them frequently, due to the sheer volume of stasi posts, and those by people who are making up the rules to serve their curtain-twitching selves.

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 07/05/2020 12:37

The trolley police!

Deep joy. Star

BirdieFriendReturns · 07/05/2020 12:46

I need to pop to the Co-op for cheese and lettuce for 🌮 tonight. Mmmmm cheese.

Dialdownthedrama · 07/05/2020 12:59

@fiddlysticks That's because a few weeks ago many posters were convinced that leaving the house without a desperate reason was going to cause ice skating rinks used as morgues, mass graves and people dying in the street. Or a strict lockdown for months with the Police/Army being brought in.

And some people have 'broken the rules' from the beginning. As expected.

And we haven't seen all the increases that people predicted from 'rule breakers'. Or the clarification that you could drive to exercise, or go out for a newspaper, or eat on a walk or sit on a bench.

So, people feel a bit stupid. Or I hope, guilty that they were so abusive to posters buying non-essential items or taking their kids out twice a day. So they've name changed (or not) and chilled out a bit.

IcedPurple · 07/05/2020 13:03

And here is moi not using online shopping to protect others. I give up.

My guess is the only thing that you are 'protecting others' from is your obnxious judgemental attitude. In fact, if you're not in a high-risk group, your taking up a delivery slot means it's denied to someone who might need it a lot more than you.

So yeah, maybe you should give up.

BirdieFriendReturns · 07/05/2020 13:07

I’m honestly surprised that a group of Mumsnetters haven’t got together to create an app where other Mumsnetters seek permission to go to the shops.

trappedsincesundaymorn · 07/05/2020 13:30

here is moi not using online shopping to protect others. I give up.

What's with the "moi"?

It's either... here is ME not using online shopping to protect others. I give up

or go the whole 9 yards with your pretension.

ici, je n'utilise pas les achats en ligne pour protéger les autres. J'abandonne.

trappedsincesundaymorn · 07/05/2020 13:30

bold fail.

midnightstar66 · 07/05/2020 13:36

@BirdieFriendReturns you definitely cannot have tacos without cheese. Hopefully there are no basket police at the coop

Scrumbleton · 07/05/2020 13:40

The ignorance on this thread is astounding. You are dimwits if you think it’s ok to buy a couple of items. YABVU to say it’s not OP’s business. Selfish behaviour puts us all at risk. Read news on line FFS or watch the telly.

Smilethoyourheartisbreaking · 07/05/2020 13:45

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TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 07/05/2020 13:45

The MN lockdown hysteria does my head in.

Seriously, what kind of person is so sad that they are not only checking up on how many items other people are buying but they come on here and start a thread about it?

I seriously worry that when the pandemic begins to recede, some posters are here are going to be genuinely disappointed because they get off so intensely on the freedom to curtain twitch, judge, bitch, rattle their pitchforks and be validated for it all on here. What on earth will they move on to when their days of lockdown policing have to come to an end?

Soconfusedandlost · 07/05/2020 13:49

Without k owing the circumstances we shouldn't be judging. I run a community centre and we have a volunteer who's last day with us as tomorrow. As a thank you, myself and 2 members of staff want to buy him a specific drink that he likes. I have held off buying it until I needed to get a shop in as well but my supermarket didn't have it (specific brand and flavour). So after doing my shopping I had to visit 3 local smaller shops before I found the item. In each shop I found something random that my family members or coworkers would like as a pick-me-up. So in each shop it looked like I went to buy a couple of random non essential items (one shop was a magazine and a bottle of brown sauce) until I got the item I needed.

So you could complain about me but I was there for a specific reason whether it's agreed with or not

TwelveMonkeys · 07/05/2020 13:54

Seriously, what kind of person is so sad that they are not only checking up on how many items other people are buying but they come on here and start a thread about it?

Yeah, it's just weird. My first thoughts on reading this thread are:

How did you know they're over 70?
How do you know one gave the other a lift and that they don't live together??
Why were you paying so much attention to what they were buying? They were BEHIND you in the queue too.
Why did you make a thread about this??

TabbyMumz · 07/05/2020 13:58

"OneandTwenty

No. Where are you getting this idea from?

the papers and Boris speech, didn't you listen?"

He didnt say that? Didnt you listen?

Coronabored · 07/05/2020 14:04

Scrumbleton - wow. I mean just wow.

trappedsincesundaymorn · 07/05/2020 14:08

Scrumbleton

The tops that way>>>>over you go.