To spend this much

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DH wants to spend appx 6% of our household income on groceries (2 adults, 1 toddler & BF baby). It's really tight. I'd prefer to spend 10%. That would make meal planning, shopping & cooking everyday so much easier.

AIBU?

And, if you don't mind sharing, appx what % of household income do you spend on groceries?

Depends where you are shopping .

The which? Survey said Aldi are by far the cheapest!

Can you not compromise on 8% and move on?

Surely it depends on what your other percentages are, my mortgage is about 25%,if it were less I'd spend more on food.Its an interesting way of looking at your outgoings but possibly wouldn't work well during lockdown as we seem to be buying much more food than usual.

I reckon we spend about 15%. Not sure percentages mean much though as there's such variation in income.

Buy what you need x

Your husband is wrong that is impossible, you are right. X

Before lockdown around £80 per week for a family of 5 (2 adults, 1x18, 1x14, 1xnearly 13). At the moment it's around £120ish per week on a salary of around £2k.

Family of 4 and baby, since lock down, spending around £260 every 10 days.

Before lock down we pretty much just stopped at Tesco daily so not really sure what our normal shopping budget is.

Even if I was extremely careful, I couldn’t do a healthy shop on £60 pw. I could probably do £100 if very careful and maybe once a month add extra £30 to pay for washing liquid, dishwasher tablets etc.

We spend about 6% percent but we have a relatively high income and eat very little meat (only for the children). We also don’t drink, avoid buying snacks, don’t drink juice/fizzy drinks etc. Our tastes are also fairly cheap (prefer porridge to muesli, prefer pain yoghurt to the little sugary pots, don’t use condiments much, not fond of ready meals, and so on. When I go back to working we’ll be spending about 4%. The % is completely irrelevant. We shop to our needs. I suppose if we had areas where we could cut down and we couldn’t afford to spend as much as we do we might change our shopping habits but otherwise I don’t see the point.

Compare against what? Your income...my income...the milkman's? 🤷‍♀️ how bizarre 🤦‍♀️

toddler and BF baby (both in nappies) - so as you've mentioned it, does groceries include nappies?
That's less than £8 a day.
If the £4k a month is net income, what;s the rest going on? £240 sounds way too low.

Right now we only have my income and we are spending a lot on food and drink so about 25%; averaging about
£150 a week for 2 of us. When DH is working and we're not both at home all day I reckon more like 10% as I eat at work, we eat out or have a takeaway once a week and we go to the pub so don't buy so much booze to drink at home.

Income is 10K monthly. Food spend is about £500 months for 2 adults.

I've just worked out we spend 10%

Google tells me:
Family of 3: The average weekly food bill for a family of 3 is £114.3—£75.9 spent on the weekly food shop and £38.4 spent on food out.
Family of 4: The typical family of 4 spends £152.40 each week on food—£101.2 on the weekly shop and £51.2 on restaurant and takeaway meals.
Family of 5: Larger families of 5 spend £126.50 on the weekly shop and another £64 on food prepared out, bringing the total average food bill for a family of 5 to £190.50.

Even £400 pm is below average for a family your size and difficult to stick to during the current restrictions. That would only be advisable if you had much higher than average fixed costs such as mortgage and childcare or were in serious debt.

Otherwise you have a decent income so can afford to spend more freely on groceries with them being a priority and basic need. What is his reasoning for the £240 or has he just picked a figure out of the air based on no sensible thought whatsoever?

Is he offering to take over the grocery shopping so he can somehow buy everything the family needs on his imaginary budget?

Although if you find you're having to shop at a combination of sainsburys and aldi, one tip is to make sure you're stocking up on the non perishable items at Aldi so you don't have to buy them in sainsburys. Eg aldi nappies are good and cheap so it will be a good saving if you can get them instead of branded in sainsburys.

You buy what you need. If DH thinks you spend too much then he can take over doing food shopping and cooking. Also keeping toiletries nappies and cleaning products in stock. And doing all the cleaning and laundry as well so he knows how much product is used in a wash or clean.

YABU for not telling him to do one. JK style.

If your dh wants to do all the food shopping then let him but he shouldn't criticise your spending if he is

Why are some men such absolute fucking tightwads. Wanting their family to live off nothing and probably spending everything else on their stupid hobby.

Why don't you feed him beans on toast and basic pasta for the week and the rest of the budget will then be for you and the DC 🤷🏽‍♀️

We live on around £3500 a month (changes) 2 adults and 3 teens. We spend £400 maximum a month.

Worked it out. Our approx spend per month on supermarket shop is 21%

Both amounts seem really low to me. We are a family of 2 adults & 2 kids and spend £800 per month on food.

I hadn’t actually thought about this before.. but we would be around the 10% mark most months...

Sticking to an actual percentage sounds ridiculous and controlling though.. unless finances are extremely tight

We are a family of 4. 2 adults 1 teen 1 child. We spend £40-60 per week on food. Which is about 10-15% of our income depending on if it’s lower or higher in the £40-60 range. We only have £400 income per week and half of it goes on rent so we couldn’t spend more on food than this.