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To not clap anymore

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HerstoryInTheMaking · 30/04/2020 20:24

I really liked when it first happened. A lovely clap to show appreciation. But now its morphed into who can make the most noise. People playing music, letting off fireworks.

It just feels wrong, people are dying included health staff.

Dont get me wrong I love the NHS, love the heros who are saving lives and im more than thankful but it seems to me now this has become about attention seeking and whats worse is people filming themselves clapping.

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Willow2017 · 30/04/2020 20:54

No-one will care if you clap or don't clap
Really?
In some areas people get phone calls, knocks on the door or named and shamed on sm if they dont clap. Its bullying and completely the opposite of what it was meant to be.
A poster on here was proud of naming and shaming a neighbour on FB and making her apologise in public then drag herself out on Thursdays to stop it happening again. There are too many people trying to outdo everyone else in the 'be seen to be clapping and making as much of a show as pisdible' competition.
Its run its course now it doesn't mean anything any more, time to stop all the damm noise at a stupid time of night when kids are in bed.

GoatyGoatyMingeMinge · 30/04/2020 20:55

When our children's grandchildren ask what we did during 2020 they will tell them "every Thursday at 8pm we all stood outside and clapped for the NHS and Carers"

I don't know if this is parody, but it's hilarious Grin

tiredybear · 30/04/2020 20:55

We still clap, but it's a little different as we are in Spain. We clap every night at 8pm...it's the only way we can have a brief check in (visual, not talking, just a quick wave) and make sure all the neighbours are ok.
I don't understand the showing off about it in the UK, definitely missing the point.

OneandTwenty · 30/04/2020 20:55

there's a lot worst than clapping/ not clapping, the virtue-signalling about clapping/ not clapping.

You are a grown-up, who cares, do what you want.

LemonadeAndDaisyChains · 30/04/2020 20:56

So just don't then.
Is there a Flouncers Corner just for clappers like there is for people flouncing MN?
As there should be Grin

PolaDeVeboise · 30/04/2020 20:57

One word - intent. Yes, it might be over the top, but most people, I believe, are doing it for the right reasons albeit they want to be seen doing so. Most people feel helpless and this is all they cant do to contribute - don't piss on their chips.

OneandTwenty · 30/04/2020 20:57

A poster on here was proud of naming and shaming a neighbour on FB and making her apologise in public
true, but that poster ended up having a big tantrum on here saying that people were mean GrinGrin

Willow2017 · 30/04/2020 20:58

Yerroblemom1923
We clap, and will always clap. When our children's grandchildren ask what we did during 2020 they will tell them "every Thursday at 8pm we all stood outside and clapped for the NHS and Carers"
Are you going to do that all year? Don't be daft!

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 30/04/2020 20:58

The "We will tell our grandchildren " post is a pisstake surely
Please god it's a pisstake
Oh god
If it's not a pisstake it might be the last straw for me on here

Beeep · 30/04/2020 20:59

Clap,or don’t clap. It doesn’t matter.

LagunaBubbles · 30/04/2020 20:59

No-one will care if you clap or don't clap
Really?

OK I will rephrase that. No-one normal will care if you clap or dont clap!

x2boys · 30/04/2020 20:59

Every Thursday I think.ooh it s nearly 8pm time for the I don't want to clap threads to start on the dot 😂

Yurona · 30/04/2020 21:00

I don’t clap. In a developed society, doctors and nurses should not have to be heroes. They should have enough protective equipment, decent salaries and a work life balance.
In my mind, clapping would mean that i accept the treatment of the people working at the frontline. I don’t. I happily pay health insurance/higher taxes etc to finance this, but i do not accept that medical personal have to be heros.

Scattyhattie · 30/04/2020 21:01

I always seem to be busy doing something at the time as have forgotten what day it is.

Although I find it interesting that many of my neighbours are out making a racket in support of NHS aren't sticking to social distancing themselves while home as seen neighbours mingling together or had friends/family over.

LennyPugGoat · 30/04/2020 21:03

I clapped the first time and the 2nd. Both times 2 elderly neighbours who I Never see leave their houses were out and we waved to each other.

I’ve carried this on and I now just wave at the 2 elderly people at home alone, it’s a mental check in that they are ok and I look forward to the day I can knock on their door and say hello in person - -I bet they tell me to piss off, fecking nosey waving weirdo- - that will cheer me up Grin

x2boys · 30/04/2020 21:03

I'm not entirely sure I believed that poster @Willow2017 S/he seemed to be deliberately trying to provoke a reaction .

Biker47 · 30/04/2020 21:04

It's a load of virtue signalling shit anyway, I've never done it.

Lockheart · 30/04/2020 21:05

There was someone out there tonight banging a metal pole against the railings. It was fucking noisy and totally unnecessary. If you want to clap just clap. No need for the car horns, banging of metal objects, fireworks, loud music, or anything else.

OldSpeclkledHen · 30/04/2020 21:07

I've never clapped.

There, I've said it.

Each to their own.

GoldBoo · 30/04/2020 21:07

@Yerroblemom1923 I would be willing to bet a lot of money that your children’s grandchildren will never ask you that.

Willow2017 · 30/04/2020 21:08

X2boys
Maybe so but they did seem very proud of themselves.
I do know someone whos neighbour remind people they have to go out at 8! There are some control freaks out there just loving policing thier neighbours just now.

GoldBoo · 30/04/2020 21:08

I’ve never clapped either. My neighbours are both NHS nurses and they’re not out there. In fact I haven’t seen anyone in our road doing it. I don’t mind the clapping if people want to do it, but the fireworks, car horns and excessive noise is ridiculous.

Erictheavocado · 30/04/2020 21:09

If you want to clap, clap. I choose not to. Not because I don't support the nhs, but because I hate these public shows of gratitude etc. And I especially hate it when the loudest 'clappers' and pan bashers, are the same neighbours who have hosted at least three playdates every week (no, they are not childminding) and have duly come to visit two or three times a week. I'll support the nhs by doing my best not to catch the virus and take up their valuable time and resources, which given my health issues, I would be very likely to need.

shiningstar2 · 30/04/2020 21:10

I clap every week. I hope it does lift NHS and care home staff at bit as they go about their sometimes life threatening occupations but I am all too well aware that a clap isn't much and that, as a society, we need to be prepared to fund the nhs and care homes properly and make sure they have decent levels of pay and conditions. We are often inclined to want a Rolls Royce health service paid for on a Ford Fiesta budget. I don't think many would complain about a slightly higher percentage of tax if the extra generated would definitely go to improving pay, conditions, training and provision in the NHS.

user127819 · 30/04/2020 21:11

I didn't hear any clapping tonight, only a car horn hooting for a full two minutes, fireworks, and cheering. I think it's dwindled to just those who love to make noise (at least in my street). But, bread and circuses and all that...

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