Husband meeting his family in lockdown

[kittykaty]

AIBU? Furious!! Live very close to in-laws who have an adult child at home. I have seen this “child” breaching lockdown guidelines and asked husband to keep social distance to protect our kids. He has not been great at complying and we have had several rows already. Caught him getting out of a car last night with the in-laws and I have exploded. So upset/fed up with his lack of regard to our own family. What would you do?

OP I can empathise.

It was my Nan's birthday yesterday. Today I called her to see how she was, whether she had a nice day etc and she proceeds to tell me that all three of her children (my keyworker mother included) popped up to see her separately. Then my brother, also a keyworker, popped up after work.

When I seemed somewhat alarmed, my Nan said "oh we sat in the garden and were at the opposite ends of the table, that's at least two meters apart!"

Shame on her children for not respecting social distancing (could have used Facetime, my Nan loves a bit of Facetime) but also shame on her for allowing it. Let's hope her and her partner (who is 86 with some pretty nasty health conditions) don't need NHS help anytime soon.

for you OP. We're going to need it. Oh and ignore those who are defending your husband.

Are people not watching the news? The difference in now and a few weeks means that hospital staff will have PPE and easier access to testing. Because you do all know that Doctors have been given the right to not resuscitate patients if they haven't got PPE?

Also, as said in the last few days, we are finding out daily, what treatments work. It was on tonights coronavirus special, while one side of the Oxford teams are looking at vaccine, the others are looking into anti inflammatories, immune stabilisers and other anti viral treatments (as well as other infectious diseases teams). Unfortunately those who become seriously ill at the start and died were the practice subjects. Peter Horby from Oxford University heading the recovery trial, he's confident that they will make headway by the end of May. They are testing on hospital patients at the moment.

If we can not be infected over the next couple of weeks, are survival rate will increase immensely.
That's what will have changed, when we come out of lock down.

It’s a few weeks not years that you’d think by the moaning about not being able to date or socialise etc.

I wouldn’t want to remain friends with someone who thought breaking the rules was ok, it would show me their true colours imo.

Risk assessment only works when it’s yourself at risk which isn’t the case if seeing others then going shopping, exercising etc.

@MarieIVanArkleStinks if you're not on the "Some people enjoy patronising others" thread in AIBU I think you will find your people there 😊

@Ponoka7

Well said.
And shame on grandchildren who begrudge their 'Nan' safe companionship fibromyalgia her children -heartless and entirely disproportionate.

Some posters here are completely unrealistic. We won't have a vaccine by this September and we won't have drug treatments available within the next few weeks as @Ponoka7 says.

As regards social distancing - those of you who aren't doing it are prolonging the lockdown for everyone. The government is very clear - lockdown won't be lifted until the R0 is below one, and likely to stay that way. They've just said now that R0 is between 0.6 and 0.9, so only just below 1. Opening schools will raise it by +0.2, so, if it's now 0.9 then just by opening schools it will go above 1. It clearly needs to be way below 1 before they can risk lifting the lockdown. The more you socialise during lockdown the longer R0 will stay too high. So, those of you mixing are keeping the rate of infection too high to ease lockdown.

@ItsGoingTibiaK. Brilliant!