AIBU to think Nursery have treated us appallingly over Coronavirus?

[Rosiebrown1]

2 year old very happy in nursery for 18 months. Always pay on time and very laid back and supportive to business.
Slight issues with her being allowed to sleep for 2 and a half hours per day. I work long hours, am alone and find LO wired when I get home. Have communicated this over and over and it goes nowhere. She doesn’t sleep in the day with me.
A few days before lockdown announced, call from nursery that LO has developed high temperature. I leave work to collect. On way home received another call to say she is banned for two weeks because LO ‘has suspected Coronavirus.’
Collect her and am given bin bag of clothes etc and told to ‘burn’ or ‘boil wash.’ Cried at that point.
After ten minutes at home, LO vomits. Very quickly recovers normal temperature and eats and drinks as normal and is back to usual self within 2 hours. Obviously I checked hourly obs through the night.
Next day all completely normal as evening before..
Next morning I call Coronavirus hotline and GP to report and was informed this could not be Coronavirus as no other symptoms as LO recovered so quickly. Advised we don’t need to self isolate other than respecting nursery rule of abstaining for 72 hours after vomiting.
Informed nursery three times and asked when LO could return. No response. Called and they didn’t answer my calls although always do normally.
Eventually messaged them again to say I was disappointed and my GP had offered to speak with them to advise LO was not a risk. No response.
Eventually I messaged again and repeated I was disappointed and wanted to give notice.
I was so upset. Nursery replied immediately and said ‘sorry you feel disappointed, notice acknowledged and good luck for the future.’
On top of this, nursery owner and husband live in the same village as us.
Since this situation has occurred, nursery owner’s husband has been driving past us (LO in buggy and myself) whilst we are out on walks shouting filthy, loud and sexual insults. LO even said ‘ Mummy, why that shouting’?
It’s usually stuff like ‘MILF’ but he shouts the four words independently, particularly shouting the last word very loud. I think it’s done to intimidate me.
Should I just try to ignore? X

I’d report him to the police. That’s abuse.

No, you try and film him doing it if you can, and report him to the police regardless.

The issue with the exclusion for potential covid Is totally separate. I don’t think they were unreasonable there, but him shouting abuse at you is disgraceful.

You don't live in a village beginning with S do you...?

I'd send a firm message to them, either email or text, stating that you expect the harassment to stop or you will report it to the police. If it doesn't stop, then report it. If you can then try get a photograph (to prove he was there) or a video (to prove what he's shouting).

Report to the police and tell his wife what he is doing

And yes , film it first if you can

I’d report to the police (and possibly OFSTED)

You behaved perfectly apart from this: Obviously I checked hourly obs through the night.

Hourly Obs on a sleeping child who seemed fine on going to bed is a disruption to your sleep that isn’t necessary.

Give yourself a break.

The nursery were BU from start to finish and the DH has crossed the line into criminal behaviour, keep a diary and phone the police.

It's not an issue for Ofsted, the husband has nothing to do with the nursery. His behaviour is a police matter.

Nursery were out of order. Weirdly enough something similar happened with my two year old just before lockdown. Bit of a raised temperature and they rang me to come get him, said he couldn't come back for 24 hours. He then started throwing up at home so I rang back to tell them he'd be off for longer. They rang to check how he was but in the few days he'd got better they then shut completely due to lockdown.
Them giving you his clothes and telling you to burn them is very extreme behavior and must have worried you a lot.
As for the husband that's just plain disgusting, absolutely keep a record and go to the police

Definitely report to the police, what a weirdo. Hope it gets sorted, must be very upsetting.

Get a video and send it to any other parents of kids that go to the nursery, and explain the situation.

They behaved according to EYFS re naps and according to advice we were also given the exclusion for 2 weeks for a temperature

He is NOT allowed to abuse you on the bloody street. Report to police. Make notes of dates times and location and film/record discretely if you can

I’m pretty sure rules before the lockdown were to self isolate if you have a temperature or cough, so you should have self isolated. Nursery were right, you were in the wrong.

With regard to the owners husband, that’s disgusting and you should report him to the police for harassment!

Two separate issues here. They were not unreasonable to exclude your LO due to the high temp. A fever of 37.8 and/or a persistent cough means self isolation. It's not up to us to say whether what we have had is Covid or not, as it manifests itself in different ways - sometimes completely asymptomatic. So they did the right thing there as they were following government guidance. A friend's LO had the same thing - a random fever for a couple of hours only - but they and their siblings weren't allowed at school for 2 weeks.

However, the husband's behaviour is completely wrong and you need to report it.

Call the police! This is awful.

I’m so sorry they ignored you like that, it must feel as though someone close in your life had given you the cold shoulder and is appalling behaviour on their part. Lucky escape for you as that doesn’t sound like a healthy environment for kids.

The husband is disgusting. Keep a diary, get video evidence and go to the police that you’re being harassed. No need to mention the nursery connection upfront, just that the same man is following you and verbally harassing and intimidating you and your child. I’m sorry it’s really not what’s needed right now with lockdown, they should be ashamed of themselves!

Agree with others..

Advice was given to self isolate before lockdown id a temp...

The other is unacceptable and a police issue.

report to the police - thats harassment

I think the husband idiot and the nursery issue are two totally separate things.

The nursery did nothing wrong. The husband did.

Nurseries have a duty of care to the other children and were told if a child has a temperature 37.8 or above they have to be off for 2 weeks. It’s not the nurseries fault, it’s government guidelines. The nursery did nothing wrong but you should report the husband.

Your dd was banned under governmental guidelines regardless of what the Gp said. The nursery were therefore correct. The husband otoh needs reporting to the police.

Def report the husband - that's intimidating

Two issues...
First re Covid -19 was right and what all schools and nurseries were doing
Second re the husband, I’m not sure why you haven’t reported this to the police.

I think they were right to take precautions due to potential covid-19 - little ones recover quickly/or no symptoms/etc so safer since not tested so cannot say she didn't have it for definite

However, he needs reporting. Take your phone, film him next time and report him