DH refusing to do anything!!!

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I’m so fucked off. DH and I are both key workers so both still working.

We’ve been off work all weekend. Yesterday he got up at 11am and basically played computer games all day. We did go to sit out in the garden at one point but it was fucking pointless as he sat there playing on his phone. God forbid we actually have a conversation. He was meant to be going to shop all day yesterday as was running low on milk and needed something for tea. He put it off and put it off until in the end decided it was too late so we had chicken fucking nuggets for tea. Literally just a plate of chicken nuggets. I’d walked the dog yesterday (as well as doing everything else around the house) so felt I shouldn’t go out again.

Today he gets up at 10:30. He said he was going to shop to get the bits we need. He still hasn’t fucking been. I’m in agony with chest/rib/back pain and have again walked the dog. Washed all the bedding, hoovered up. He’s played computer games. He’s just suggested we have a cup of tea. I’ve suggested he actually go to shop so we can get some milk and something for fucking tea.

His excuse now is that he can’t go to shop as the neighbours are sat out front. I told him not to be ridiculous so he’s suggested I go to shop instead. I’ve done every fucking thing and I’m in pain. So fucked off. Time’s like this I wish I was single.

Prioritise yourself OP, you’re not well. If you had symptoms last week you’ll probably be out the testing limit.

@popsydoodle4444 I could be wrong but I read @5zeds post as saying not to bother with him right now as her own health is more important

Book yourself online for a test for CV19.

Order yourself a takeaway. Leave him to sort his own meal out.

As you are sick, start caring for yourself. Make plans like you are living alone. Let him sort himself out. When you are better, end the relationship for good.

Well yes FallonSwift I did because is I was about to be ill in OPs situation I’d want to make sure I had what I needed not have a fight.

With chest pain too I would think about going to A&E. Lots of reports now say it's actually very quiet. You'll be seen, treated as needed and most importantly, looked after, while this lazy fucker fends for himself.

Order yourself a takeaway and get them to leave it outside the door. Get yourself better and plan your new life!

5zeds I agree.

111.nhs.uk/covid-19/

Please phone 111. People are dying of other things.

@CaptainBlunderpants is there a time limit for it?

Genuine question because I had symptoms, but not the sore throat and cough, for around two weeks before they agreed to test me. So is it possible I just wasn't tested fast enough and had it, but mildly and got over it?

Would they be able to tell on the standard test if you'd had it and now clear?

Yes, the cough isn't an essential symptom - until I saw the temp change situation, I was going to suggest costochondritis, BUT not with a temp.

Also, I know it's not particularly relevant as I'm in NSW, but care workers here are automatically removed from duty if their temp goes over 37.5, so a 37.7 would have sent you straight home, here (if you're a care worker, of course - I do realise there are other key workers!)

Kick the manchild's arse, tell him to sort himself out and do the jobs that need doing, whlist also staying well away from you in case he catches it too. Oh and you shouldn't cook while you're ill, in case you pass it on to him. Tell him that too.

With chest pain too I would think about going to A&E. Lots of reports now say it's actually very quiet.

She's feeling hot and cold and has symptoms of Covid and you're suggesting she goes to A&E????

Ali bongo nurses have on here advised going to A and E, they have separate entrances and are geared up for this.

Hes a key worker and working every day? So why cant he relax at weekend if u need to go food shopping go together or drop him.of? Cant see problem

I'd rather be single, but there's a lot of these toy playing almost men out there
You knew what he was like, he obviously came with games console.

@alibongo5 Reports suggest not getting seen is as big a problem at the moment. People shouldn't be scared off going to A&E.

www.bhf.org.uk/what-we-do/news-from-the-bhf/news-archive/2020/april/drop-in-heart-attack-patients-amidst-coronavirus-outbreak

www.theguardian.com/society/2020/mar/27/fears-seriously-ill-a-and-e-numbers-drop-coronavirus-nhs

The advice is NOT to go to hospital if you have a temperature or any other signs of Covid but to ring 111.

It's fine to go to A&E for other emergencies but not Covid. Of course if the OP really thinks it may be a heart attack that's different but difficulty swallowing and a temperature?

Don't have kids with him

This. Please read all the threads on here from women with lazy twunt partners, who expect them to do everything for the house and the kids.

Reciprocate.

Don’t cook or do the laundry or clean the house unless he is doing something.

He’ll learn, you’re not his slave nor his mother. Tell him

You stayed at work with a temp of 37.7. I agree the most plausible explanation is coronavirus. As you’re a key worker, I would call 111 unless there is any special number you can call?

@Healthyandhappy they are BOTH key workers and are BOTH still working.

Marriage is meant to be a partnership. If one of you is not well, the other picks up the slack. All she’s asked him to do is nip to the shop for a few essentials.

@Healthyandhappy RTFT - they're BOTH working, she's a keyworker too. What kind of handmaiden are you to suggest that he gets to opt out of basic self-care and home maintenance just because he's got a penis

OP - do order yourself some food - and remind your H that he will now need to quarantine for 14 days. Perhaps he could go do that somewhere else..?

So you're a key worker, have worked all week and now he's checked out leaving you to deal with the house, the dog, (he assumes) the shopping and on top of it all you're not feeling well?

He doesn't sound like a partner at all, he sounds like another drain on your time and energy.