DH refusing to do anything!!!

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I’m so fucked off. DH and I are both key workers so both still working.

We’ve been off work all weekend. Yesterday he got up at 11am and basically played computer games all day. We did go to sit out in the garden at one point but it was fucking pointless as he sat there playing on his phone. God forbid we actually have a conversation. He was meant to be going to shop all day yesterday as was running low on milk and needed something for tea. He put it off and put it off until in the end decided it was too late so we had chicken fucking nuggets for tea. Literally just a plate of chicken nuggets. I’d walked the dog yesterday (as well as doing everything else around the house) so felt I shouldn’t go out again.

Today he gets up at 10:30. He said he was going to shop to get the bits we need. He still hasn’t fucking been. I’m in agony with chest/rib/back pain and have again walked the dog. Washed all the bedding, hoovered up. He’s played computer games. He’s just suggested we have a cup of tea. I’ve suggested he actually go to shop so we can get some milk and something for fucking tea.

His excuse now is that he can’t go to shop as the neighbours are sat out front. I told him not to be ridiculous so he’s suggested I go to shop instead. I’ve done every fucking thing and I’m in pain. So fucked off. Time’s like this I wish I was single.

That's does sound like ....

Um, call 111?

I don’t have a cough.

And do not go to the shop, or anywhere else!

But neither should he.

That actually does sound like covid-19....

It's how the nurses and carers I know started with it.

I'm afraid he's won OP.
Neither of you should be going out for 7 to 14 days

Ring 111, I think you are both needing to stay home, now. Can you ask someone else to fetch you groceries? And tell him he's an arse and will have to live in fresh air while you are both quarantined.

Not all the people testing positive have a cough OP.

Didn't Idris Elba year positive with no symptoms?

The people I know testing positive didn't all have a cough.

Anyone good at guessing health issues? My chest and ribs are absolutely killing me. I get a sharp pain when I swallow anything. Everything hurts. I feel hot and sweaty one minute and freezing cold the next. Started coming on yesterday.

....coronavirus? What you are describing are flu symptoms, but we are out of flu season and have coronavirus instead. I suggest your DH stops going to the shops and you guys self isolate, just to be safe, whether he is driving you up the wall or not.

It feels more muscular pain. God I feel so fucking stupid. I took my temp at work last week as I felt hot. It was 37.7. No cough so was told to stop being paranoid and was laughed at. Now I’m hurting everywhere. Still no cough.

Oh you poor poor thing. Honestly I would order takeaway for myself and pour a nice warm bath. Fuck him !!! Check yourself checked out asap

You don't have to have a cough for it to be Covid-19!

A few friends of mine that have had covid-19 have bad the symptoms you have described but not had the cough. They tested positive.

OP, please ring 111 and get a proper diagnosis. Stress that you have chest pain that goes round to your back, and they should take it seriously. You are ill. It could be a heart condition, it could be Covid-19, but don't just guess.
Please!
Please do it.

Ring for a test! Don't mess about with it.

I suppose I knew what the symptoms were, I just hoped you’d disagree with me because the thought of sitting in this house for two weeks is making me want to fucking scream. Work is the only thing keeping me sane. I will of course call in sick tomorrow and try and get tested but I swear things really couldn’t get much worse right now. Sick to death of everything.

OP you could just be feeling anxious because of what you’re realizing about your relationship, I wouldn’t jump straight to the worst diagnosis. Anxiety can produce very real physical symptoms like you’re describing and if you don’t have a cough or fever (I know you can be covid positive without those symptoms) then maybe just try and take it easy if you can

Take to your bed with a little bell to summon him. Whatever it is, you're ill. Time for him to step up.

Twanker. Live like he’s not there.

Why are you doing it all and making his dinner? Put on the TV and don't do anything either.

OP get yourself a takeaway (they just leave it at the door) just you and book food parcels to be delivered. If you can't get anything then get friends and family to drop it at your door step. Go and get yourself in bed and get in to a series and wait for this horrible illness to blow over. I have had it and honestly you need to rest your body and drink plenty of fluids. Before this though tell that useless DH of yours that you will be seriously considering the future of this relationship when you feel ill and he cannot even go and make sure the house is stocked up.

Stop trying to control him and sort yourself out.

Agree with other posters in regards to your health. Don't do anything for him at all not one single thing. Look after yourself because he seems to only care about him.

@5zeds

Are you serious?

Bugger off

Not all covid patients have a cough or raised temp.

Ignore your idiot H - deal with him afterwards (divorce sounds like a good solution). Focus on yourself. Call 111 and see if you can get tested as they are rolling out keyworker testing now. Have you got any friends or family that could drop food on the doorstep for you?