Re people loitering and dithering in shoos

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With one way systems, social distancing, people queuing outside AIBU to wish people would make an effort to move as quickly as possible up and down the aisles.

Standing for ages deliberating between products, phoning your oh to check what brand of marmalade they prefer, or standing for ages checking a shopping list in a narrow aisle where people need to pass is inconsiderate.

These aren't normal times and most people have adjusted the way they shop accordingly.
But you still get the oblivious faffers and delayers.

I'm autistic and find shopping stressful enough already without all these extra rules and waiting etc.

Putting time pressure on me as well will just make me even slower out of anxiety and checking I've got the right things and not being able to process what's on the shelf in front of me.

So YABU; just because you wouldn't do these things and don't need to, doesn't mean other people aren't justified in doing so.

And it's totally unfair to stop people touching items they may not buy. I often check ingredients/nutrition information before deciding. And handling produce is how people choose which item to buy; you can't check it's ripe or not mouldy etc if you aren't allowed to pick it up first!

Think yourself lucky that you are only there approx an hour to do your shop. Supermarket workers are around this for 10hr shifts. Not forgetting the people that think the workers are immune and all get 2 inches away from the workers faces to ask a question

When I go to the shop I’m also shopping for my mum who is diabetic and my 83 year old great auntie. I’m also feeling anxious and panicky, disorientated with the one way systems that seem to have appeared in the last week and worried that there’s something I may have forgotten on my list. Give people a break.

God some people are easily annoyed, aren't they? Here's an idea - calm tf down!!!!

Well I have to check packets as me, DH and DD all have (different) allergies. DH's is an anaphylactic allergy to several things so we are very careful.

saraclara the woman I complained about was asked at least twice by the woman waiting first behind her. She completely ignored her and when the woman waiting gave up and pushed her trolley out of the way glared at her and said " your supposed to keep your distance" in a very aggressive manner. Why is it so difficult to just pull over to the side if you are having to think. It really shouldn't need saying but there has been at least one every trip. It shouldn't need saying but clearly it does.

Ah, my husband rings me a few time to check he has the right item. I'm glad he does as it's a long time between shops to wait to get the nice things I've been looking forward to it be gets it wrong.

hopefully the stores allow less people in at a time, people always have and always will dither.

Bit difficult not to dither when your local supermarket decides to rearrange it's entire stock so nothing is where it was a week before because obviously people need immediate access to those vile, overpriced slimming world meals

Yanbu. I had to tell a bloke who was standing between the gigantic footsteps on the floor in the queue. He was standing so close to me and completely oblivious to the social distancing rules. I let rip at him and I will never apologise for that. I'm nhs front line and live with a shielded person. Just fuck off you wanker -spritely enough when another till opened to go and breathe your germs over yet another queue of people.

@PunkrockerGirl59, you know sometimes people are distracted or forget, right? Did you really need to 'let rip' at him? Could you simply have said "sorry, but could you move back to the footsteps please?"

I really don't understand this MN thing where so many people seem to think that their first interaction with someone who's made an error should be 'letting rip' at them.
If the boot was on the other foot and a stranger let rip at them, I can guarantee they'd be on here complaining about how rude someone was instead of just asking them nicely.

I had a huffing impatient person behind me the other day who stressed me out so much that I dropped something, which caused a member of staff to come and berate me, which further delayed said huffy person. Just calm it down, we've all got enough of our own stuff to deal with right now.

Aaargh @RichardMarxisinnocent. JUST USE YOUR WORDS! You are summing this thread up. Why does no-one here actually speak? Why are 90% of MNers unable to smile and say "Sorry, excuse me" with a smile?

I am also an introvert with poor social skills and in normal times I quite happy to say sorry excuse me to someone in my way. But in normal times I am right next to the person, so when they hear me speak it's obvious I am talking to them. They are also probably not really stressed by just being in a supermarket.

Nowadays I would be trying to get their attention from 2 metres away loudly saying "sorry excuse me, woman who is standing by the baked beans....", plus being asked if it's ok for me to walk past might make them feel hassled. Besides, I don't actually want to go past, I am OK to wait until the person moves on, or to enter the aisle from the other end, or go to another aisle first (no one way system yet where I shop)

I'm the meal planner, shopper and cook in my house. DH is amazing in many other ways but those tasks have always been mine and because I work shifts I've always been able to fit in a quick shop during a quiet time.
Now I'm shielding as I'm pregnant, DH is doing the shopping at the weekend (When he's off) hes shopping somewhere unfamiliar, with less products on the shelves and is sometimes unsure if what he's getting is correct, or what to do if something isnt in stock, as well as contending with an allergy. If it's not right he either had to make another trip out or we go without.

I'd hope people would have more patience with each other, trust me it's the last place he wants to be and he's not being slow on purpose.

Loitering in shops is anti-social. It may not seem such a big problem now, with decent weather. But imagine what it may be like in rain or bad weather, with a queue outside getting progressively damper, waiting for the indecisive people inside to work out what they want to do.
How hard is it to make a list, and look for the items-and then just leave?
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Couples shopping annoys me more. I get that there will be the odd exception where 2 people are needed but there are way too many couples shopping for me.

There seems to be an awful lot more men doing the shopping now too. Why is this when they seem to be at more risk from this virus?

Some people,myself included,simply can't move very quickly due to mobility problems. Thankfully,I haven't had to face going in a supermarket yet as my Dd has been doing my shopping for me. But I would hate it if I was subjected to tutting and eye rolling from healthy people because I cannot move as quickly as they would wish.

YABU when you are shopping for 2 households once a week you need to ensure you get everything. I am more about couples and families still shopping together blocking aisles discussing things. Even if you need help carrying or driving in most cases they could go alone or wait in the car.

I hate shopping right now because I think I'm in the way. I often come home with things missing because I felt like I had to get round quick and I missed it and that's with a shopping list that matches the lay out of the shop. Give everyone a bit of space. Life is stressful enough right now.

I hate shopping because sometimes I feel like I’m the only one that knows what social distancing is

Queuing outside, limited number inside, 2 metre distancing and a one way system with no back tracking - could make the Christmas food shop this year quite an experience (a good test of mental fortitude maybe?)🤯. Bringing me out in a cold sweat just thinking about it!