My DM told me that DSB had started a family WhatsApp group. At first he didn't invite me to join so I told DM this and just laughed it off. I'm close to DM but we're not a close family in general.
Then DM decided I must be in the group and asked my DSB to invite me. I said ok but it took him ages and there were excuses, couldn't find me on WhatsApp, didn't have my number, then put it in wrong and was too busy to sort it. It was all rubbish.
When he finally figures it out he then sends a message saying I should join and that everyone wants to connect with me, see my DC growing up and know what's going on in my life. He sends a copy of the message to my DM.
DM says wasn't that lovely of him and also tells me that all the people in the group who I haven't met before want to get to know me.
I joined despite not really wanting to. I have a toxic relationship with my DB which I've tried to fix many times but the more he rejects me the more painful it is and I don't believe any of the others are interested or they would have made an effort before.
They were doing a quiz and gave me 10 mins notice. We have a time difference so I apologised and said hi to everyone. Not one single person aknowledged that.
I gave it a few days. Decided to post a lot of rubbish just to see what the response was like. There was quite a lot of chat about homeschooling which was nice but it was with the people I am actually in contact with anyway.
I haven't had much of a reaction on much else and certainly nobody has engaged in an actual conversation and these people who want to get to know me haven't reacted to anything I posted.
My DB made a one word comment on something and then something pedantic correcting a fact in my homeschooling but he's not said anything about the pictures of the DC and that hurts me.
To top it all, my DM has been telling me what to post. E.g..'Show them your garden 'they'd love to see it'
And if I send her something she say 'Why don't you put that on the family chat it was getting a bit annoying.
We Skyped the other day. She starts talking about the chat and says 'Isn't it lovely to see everyone getting on so well' I agreed and changed the subject but in my eyes someone commenting yum! On a picture of my lunch does not a connection make.
Then she made a comment that I must be mindful of the time difference. My posts sometimes come at inconvenient times for some people and they have very important jobs and a few people have commented.
I checked my phone and had no responses that day and I left the group. I have anxiety and the physical symptoms have been worse this week. I have a separate issue which is making me feel very insecure and I don't need any more grief.
I then get 15 missed calls from DM and messages demanding I rejoin in block capitals.
One of the people I've never met, have had no interaction with on or off chat and wouldn't know if I fell over her then calls DM thinking she's offended me!
I explained how I feel but DM thinks I have ruined it for everyone now but surely things just go back to how they were so, AIBU and if not who is?
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