To ask who you sleep next to?

[Porcelainskin]

Have 4 month DD in my room and DH moved to the spare bed indefinitely. His choice but I encouraged. Been about 6 weeks so far and no talk from either of us of it changing. Is it very unusual or more common than I've been led to believe?

I sleep beside my almost 3 year old DS. He has eczema and it was really bad, he started scratching a lot at night when he was 11 months old I had to keep going to him to apply ointment and to calm him down.

I was sleep deprived and tired of getting up every 40-60 min that I brought him to our bed one night. The bed was too small for the three of us so DH moved to the spare room and it's been like that since.

DH and I go to sleep together. Then, at some point between midnight and five he swaps beds with my nearly three year old who co-slept for most of his life so far. His own bed all of the time is still a difficult thing for him. I don’t mind sharing a bed with him, he doesn’t snore like DH or steal the duvet... But I wish he didn’t want to share my pillow!

I sleep next to 2 year old DS, sometimes DP and our dog is in with us too but most of the time DP and the dog are in the spare room! It's just easier he only started sleeping through at 18 months when he dropped his nap so I am too scared to try and change anything and go back to the sleepless nights lol!

It's works for us, one day me and DP will hopefully share a bed again, I do miss it. But DS is only little and I will miss it when he wants to sleep on his own.

Not slept in the same bed as my partner for 2+ years because of co-sleeping with our toddler. It doesn't affect our relationship at all. My cousin is the same, a lot of my friends too sleep separately from partners but all for their children. It's common as far as I know. I think anybody else besides your children wouldn't be common.

DH on my right DS2 (20 months) on my left. Occasionally he sleeps horizontally between us for a change :o

Love cosleeping, when they're this age. DS1 was about 2.5 when he stopped. DS2 seems a long way off yet, but then again does sometimes do longer stretches in his own room.

Currently lay next to my sleeping 21 month old Dd. Sometimes it’s me, her, dp and the dog, sometimes just her and I and sometimes I’m in the spare room for some space and dp in with her.

My 5yo and oh sleeps with the 2yo 😂

My dd. She’s 8 & I never thought this would happen! I managed to keep my other older dc in their own beds but failed miserably with this one. She won’t be there when she 18!

A otterhound and a sphinx.
2yr old has been unwell for a few days so if shes sick again then otterhound will be moved to the floor and 2yr old will get in.

DCat.

DCat also likes to nap in the spare car seat In DS’s room while he naps in there!

Since I was widowed ten years ago my bedmates have been my dogs, very rarely my daughter if she's poorly or had a nightmare.
When my husband died my six year old son slept with me for about five months until we moved as he was scared something would happen to me.
When my kids were babies they always slept in their own rooms, my husband didn't want them in with us and I agreed. I miss him.

DH. Have never let DD sleep in our bed other than about two or three bouts of illness and only for a few hours on me. It just wouldn't work for any of us.

DH would be banished if he started snoring but he's relatively inoffensive to share with!

My DH and I have slept separately for the majority of the last 3yrs, we started when DS1 was a baby so we could take it in turns looking after him. Then when we had DS2 I would cosleep with him while DH coslept with DS1. At the moment I sleep alone because DD1 still won’t sleep alone and I hate 3 squashed in a bed, plus I’m pregnant again so will be sleeping with the baby soon.

I don’t really mind it that much, I find I sleep better alone and we have a great marriage. I miss morning cuddles in bed but I’m not sure how many of those we would get with the kids around anyway

My DH and inbetween us my dd who is 2.5. It works for us and means we all get a good night's sleep.

Sorry for your loss Pipandmum, I bet you do

I generally sleep next to DP but we rarely go to bed together, I usually go up first and he comes up later after playing games/watching something. Unless of course, he's watching something and Ddog cuddles up with him, when that happens he will always fall asleep on the sofa cuddling our gigantic dog and they will literally sleep cuddled up all night . Apparently it's something to do with the dogs calm breathing that sends him off to sleep.

We sleep fairly 'separately' anyway as we have a superking and our own duvets because he likes to sleep wrapped up in the duvet and I need to be covered but cool so we have our own, with different togs. I was worried it would affect the intimate parts of our relationship but it hasn't and we both sleep better this way. I think it's really really important that everyone gets a good nights sleep as all three of us are grumpy without it! DS generally sleeps in his own bed but if he has a nightmare or feels poorly he'll come in with us, and when he was little (up to about 3) he would come in probably 4/7 nights.

DD's father snores horrifically and I can't sleep in company, so it was hell when she was born and the bed in the spare room was swapped for a cot. He ended up on the sofa, then a sofa bed, then in his own bed in a different house. No one shares my bed except the cats (DD having always been far too wriggly and also disinclined to sleep unless alone).

You do what works for you. Sleep is important.

I sleep with my dd age 5. My kids have all liked to co sleep, they do grow out of it. If it helps them relax then why not.

DH, 3DC and he's never left the bed. He was condemned to the spare room when he was ill recently and I did quite enjoy just for two nights.

I sleep with a child either side of me & DH sleeps beside another child in a different room. It works for us

My dh when he’s not working but I usually wake up at 3.30-ish and go to the spare bedroom because otherwise I won’t sleep. The dogs always come up.

DD who’s 17 months. DP moved into the spare room the night we came back from the hospital when she was newborn. I did have a brief period where DD slept in the cot in our bedroom (I had the bed to myself) but when I went back to work when she was 12 months I felt like we needed that extra time together and I moved her back in my bed

DP keeps taking of returning to the bed and putting DD in her own room but I always change the subject as I genuinely can’t warm to the idea at all!

I sleep with my dd 5.5 months in her cot to my right and my partner in the bed. The dog has his place at the bottom of the bed. Dd's cot is pushed right up to my bed so I can interact with her and she knows I am close without being in my bed. She does however come into my bed every morning at 6:30 for a snuggle until we are ready to get up but that's just our thing.

My 4 year old.

DH sleeps downstairs on sofa bed because he snores like a lion roars.

Everyone is happy. We all sleep.

I’m a very light sleeper / frequent insomniac and my husband often snores, so it varies. If we’re both going through a good patch we’ll sleep in the same bed, if not he’ll go into the spare room. He comes back to my bed for weekend lie ins and often we read together of an evening before he goes off to the spare room.

I've loved seeing the variation in this thread, humans are brilliant :)

For me, two Dcats, books and pillows and my weighted blanket. Very occasionally (maybe twice a year) my best friend if she's visiting and we stay up late chatting and then neither of us cba to make the spare bed up - just get a second duvet out.

I don't sleep well with other people, never have - exes were lovely but drove me mad trying to get a decent night's sleep while coupled 😂