To not check for no stds

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I know Aibu so my question is to really ask how many others don't either.
When you sleep with a new guy, do you ask/get them to prove they have no stds/hiv before you have sex with them without a condom?

I would, obviously. Why play Russian roulette with your own health?

Always.

I can't imagine being so risky and anti-social

Yeah, I do.

Why wouldn't you? The guy shouldn't take chances either.

I never have. I don't think that was a thing in my shagging heyday (about 20 years ago now), or it wasn't in my circle anyway.

To those that do, do you just ask them, or do you request that they pay for the tests and provide you with certificates?

Yes! Why wouldn't you want to avoid a disease? So many are asymptomatic until they are doing permanent damaged!

When you sleep with a new guy, do you ask/get them to prove they have no stds/hiv before you have sex with them without a condom?

I don’t sleep with new guys with no condoms. No condoms is not for new guys.

But yes, STD test essential.

No. Probably should though.

Surely you either just have a mature, adult conversation about it, or you go and get tested together?

You should get tested regularly anyway, regardless of your relationship status or sexual behaviour. I do a test about once a year, even if I'm single as some STIs can give negative results.

Unless it's allergy related, why would you want to do it without one? Silly move.

Condoms until we have had the talk about seeing each other exclusively. Then get tested - it’s really easy to get a free online test and they text you the results very quickly. Then you can both show each other the results... not sure why people wouldn’t do this.

Are STD tests still free? If they are then there is no reason not to get one.

Oh and I agree with @Lockheart. Just routinely get tested for the sake of your own well-being

I didn’t before I slept with OH but when we decided to stop using condoms and switch to me being on the pill, then we both got tested - surely it’s a matter of courtesy.

Always would ask for s full STD screen for both of us before the condom comes off. When it's freely available why the hell wouldn't you?! Honest question.

Well it's been 15 years since there was a new guy but yes I did always. I used to offer to go with them to the GUM clinic if they were embarrassed. I'm not fucking up my body for anyone. I had lots and lots of protected sex with lots of partners but very little unprotected sex only ever in a LTR. In fact one of my LTR was tested turned out to have HepB he was the nicest cleanest guy. I ended up having the HepB vaccine - he had no idea he was infected til he had the test with me.

If you’re comfortable enough to have sex without a condom, then you should be comfortable enough to discuss this very important issue.

Condoms always until we’ve agreed we’re exclusive and both had a clear STI screen. STI tests are free on the NHS as they’re a sexual health service. You can self refer to a clinic without seeing a GP. Results are texted. We show each other. Done.

Not doing so is playing Russian roulette with your health - potentially your life. Why do you value yourself so little?

I agree that you definitely should but in reality I didn’t when I was single; I did used to periodically get checked though

They're not only free, you can order them online and do them at home. Usually consists of a vaginal swab, a finger prick blood sample, and sometimes a urine test.

This thread has reminded me to order one as it's been about a year since my last!

A couple of places I use are:

www.shl.uk/ (Sexual Health London)

sh24.org.uk/

www.letstalkaboutit.nhs.uk/worried-about-stis/order-a-test-online/ (Hampshire based)

All the above are NHS administered and free if you live in the right area.

I presume other NHS trust locations also have similar services, the above are just the ones I know from personal experience.

I was going to accuse you of being a journalist because I can't understand why one would do otherwise, but then I remembered a thread on here where the OP slept with people then had STD checks AFTER EACH GUY and thought she was being responsible and amazing 🤦‍♀️

I never have, and I've never had sex with a condom either, never would. They said there was nothing to worry about, I've always just chanced it.

Its always a good thing to get a screen before ditching condoms. Always. I caught Chlamydia once and it's an experience I never want to have again. I was a cocky idiot and if people want to be cocky idiots that think it won't happen to them then crack on.