To ask your opinion on cosmetic surgery

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I hate my boobs. They were a bit shit anyway as I lost a lot of weight in my 20s but since breast feeding for 2 years I really don’t like them.
They are ‘okayish’ but a bit deflated when I’m upright but as soon as I lean down they are awful. I’ve been keeping my bra on with new partners as I’d rather they weren’t swinging everywhere.

I can’t really afford to do anything about them tbh so it’s a pipe dream at the moment, but is it worth having surgery for the confidence boost? Would you? Have you? Is the maintenance a lot of hassle?

And out of interest, what is the normal cost of lifts and/or implants and it’s actually really hard to find firmer prices without getting a quote first?

You breastfed. That's what they are for. Some decent bras and a non-judgemental partner will be a lot cheaper.

Hi,

I had breast implants last year. I've told no one except family and I don't think anyone has noticed, well they certainly haven't said anything if they have! I went from a 32a to 32d, but they're very low-key. I went for teardrop and under the muscle. It was something that had bothered me for years and after my son was born I just thought 'what's stopping me from sorting it?' The cost was just under £6000, with Spire Hospital in Manchester. They were painful and I was really worried about the operation, but as soon as I'd had the operation it was like a huge weight was lifted. A year later and it's as if I've always been like this. I only wish I'd have done it sooner. For me it was only ever about my confidence, I didn't want "big boobs". Even my husband tried to dissuade me.

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It’s more for me tbh. The ex wasn’t bothered and didn’t seem to have a problem, and the last time I had sex with my current casual partner, I did end up taking my bra off and he certainly wasn’t running out of the building. I just find myself very self-conscious about them.

If it makes you feel good and boosts your confidence then why not? You don't need others' opinions. Save up and make it a reality.

I’m having a breast reduction just as soon as all this is over. Supposed to be end of July but I’m not counting my chickens just now.

Depends where in the country you are for costs. I’m in Glasgow and my reduction is costing nearly 7k but the same place for implants were roughly about 5.5k, if I remember right from the leaflets I read.

There are some great finance options out there if you feel strongly enough about it and can afford it. Most places offer a free consultation so you can go speak to them.

I’m a 34jj and I’m 33 now and they look like udders! Couldn’t even breastfeed due to medication so I can’t blame that, they are just huge and heavy and painful and ugly. So off they go, I can’t bloody wait.

Thank you for the replies. I have considered finance. I had an adult brace in my early 20s on finance and in all honesty it changed my life. I smile so freely now whereas before, I’d always covered my mouth.

But I’m not sure if this feels superfluous as pp said, a good bra can fix most ills.

They aren’t even particularly big anymore at a 32dd. I don’t want them to be much bigger, I just wanna want them to not look like 2 deflated sacks

I plan to have an uplift and implants for the similar reasons as you; I’ve been quoted 5-7k depending on the place and extent of an uplift I want. I know it’ll make a lot of difference to how I feel about myself; I don’t plan to tell many people and opinions like the first person who replied to your post are a big part of that.

Ps. A good bra does a lot but it doesn’t change how I feel about myself

Not worth it, OP. It's a lot of money, very very painful and goes wrong in quite a lot of cases. And then you need to do it again in 15 years.

What if the surgery goes wrong and you're left deformed or with pain that never goes away? Or an infection which gets you hospitalized? All because you wanted nicer boobs to show off in a dark bedroom to a boyfriend. You'll feel silly. Buy better bras, exercise, and work on self esteem.

I say this as someone with enormous hips and no boobs. It took me a long time to be ok with it and I still struggle with weight and dieting but not wishing for a boob job at all. After looking into it, I honestly hand on heart think it's not worth it.

Personally the idea horrifies me. Started off too small, then breast fed 4 children. Lost weight , no boobs, gained weight got boobs. If you have surgery charges are going to go on through your life. I imagine being 80 with perky boobs haha. Bit like tatoos really, one thing on young skin. But no really implanting foreign stuff under your skin for looks? What next, botox, fillers, we would all ebd up looking the same. Moat of the celebrities do

I don't think anyone has noticed, well they certainly haven't said anything if they have! I went from a 32a to 32d

Genuinely not having a dig at you but this sort of comment always comes up on threads like this. Believe me, they have. Especially if you went from an A to a D overnight. They’re just too polite to say anything. Not that it’s a bad thing but no one should kid themselves that people just don’t notice.

My dd had implants in her early 20's. Def no regrets. She is aware they have a shelf life and will be replaced. She has no dc as yet. She had waited since teens after being very unhappy with her self. No pressure from anyone. Infact her bf didn't want her to get them.
She dumped him and kept the boobs!!

Watch 'Botched', about 50% of their work is boob jobs.

I agree, Kitchen, and people seem to always want a D. Generally, if a person is quite skinny and then has big tits, there's a good chance they're fake.

I've had work done on my face, so I don't have a problem with cosmetic surgery per se, but with a young child who needs you, I personally wouldn't risk unnecessary surgery and a general anaesthetic. Read up on the risks.

Costly and range of unnecessary health risks.

Personally I wouldn’t have surgery that wasn’t medically needed/potential benefit. The risk of serious complications of anaesthetic is very small (death 1 in 100 000) and of the particular procedure not worth it for me.

However if it would transform the way you think about yourself who am I to judge. There are loads of other risky things I do.

NHS website has some things to think about and costs. I’d be put off by knowing I’d need more surgery in the future

www.nhs.uk/conditions/cosmetic-procedures/breast-enlargement/

www.nhs.uk/conditions/general-anaesthesia/

your body your choice, but you need to consider as well of the initial costs as well as having to get them replaced in years to come and if you gain/lose weigh in the future
i had a friend who got implants then lost weight and they were saggy and she had to get them done again

My friend did. The recovery was really hard apparently. She loves them though.

I wouldn't get implants, even although I hate my boobs. I would however have lipo on a couple of bits of my body that never change no matter how much weight I lose.

I had a reduction and uplift 5 years ago with spire cost £5500. Absolutely no regrets and all went well

Your body, your money, your choice.
Ask as few people their opinions as possible, do enough research so you know what you’re letting yourself in for and tell as few people as possible so you don’t have to listen to their judgements.

Wouldnt do it myself but dont care what others do

A friend of mine got her boobs done and loves them but then one of the implants leaked or something and she had to get them whipped out and under risk of serious infection. She said at that point it completely wasn’t worth it, to risk injury or death and leaving her kids without a mother for bigger boobs was a regret of hers.

Another friend had them done and said her surgeon encourages women to get at least a size down from what they want cos apparently women always think “I’m only gonna get this done once” and then pick enormous implants instead

My only concern would be if you "fix" this problem will you then think about the next thing that bothers you? If so learning to love yourself as you are and feel confident is a better (possibly trickier) option.

If it definitely is one specific issue and you will feel better after it and can afford it then go for it.

Possibly you're right and they have noticed. To be honest, I don't really mind either way. I'm not skinny, and they're certainly not big. They were 245cc implants. I have a small chest and very little natural breast tissue so it just wasn't physically possible to go 'big'.

I understand that people have differing views on surgery, and that's partly why I didn't tell people. It's personal opinion. I personally don't like the fillers that people have but I understand it's personal preference.