To ask your opinion on cosmetic surgery

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I hate my boobs. They were a bit shit anyway as I lost a lot of weight in my 20s but since breast feeding for 2 years I really don’t like them.
They are ‘okayish’ but a bit deflated when I’m upright but as soon as I lean down they are awful. I’ve been keeping my bra on with new partners as I’d rather they weren’t swinging everywhere.

I can’t really afford to do anything about them tbh so it’s a pipe dream at the moment, but is it worth having surgery for the confidence boost? Would you? Have you? Is the maintenance a lot of hassle?

And out of interest, what is the normal cost of lifts and/or implants and it’s actually really hard to find firmer prices without getting a quote first?

There are a lot of guys that are put off by fake boobs. Please watch botched before you make the decision, so many things can go wrong.

I have no opinion on it. I'd never get it myself because the idea of a general anaesthetic freaks me out too much but I wouldn't judge those who do.

I think plastic surgery is there to put things back to how they were before accident/life. Things like pregnancy, high weight loss and such can absolutely leave ones body uncomfortably scarred by loose skin, saggy breasts etc.

However, it does not come without risks and as PPs have said, breast implants are not for life. They only last at most 15yrs. They will also further stretch out your breast tissue so you have to go bigger each time to replace the implants to keep that firm look and feel.

Much of breast sag is not caused by pregnancy and breastfeeding. It is actually caused by aging or weight loss through dieting/cardio and losing muscle mass in your pectorals. Doing upper body strength training can actually improve breast sag immensely.

So, in your shoes, I would look to non surgical options before having cosmetic surgery.

I’ve had a tummy tuck, boob lift, and a bit of thigh lipo. I had three kids within 18 months (twins) and my body was just a train wreck to be honest. My husband was fine with how I looked but I wasn’t. For me, it was an important step in feeling like myself again. My body, my choice. Couldn’t be happier

Surgery is a huge decision.

(Male so no breasts).
I almost had a rhinoplasty, my nose is an okay shape, straight, no bumps etc but as I’m asian it’s quite big. I also have a very pronounced line in my columella. I decided against it because any surgery is risky, also what if I wasn’t happy with the results, would I actually stop at one procedure on it.

I do however have filler in my columella to fill the ‘line’ it only needs renewing every 12-16 months. I also have filler in the cleft in my chin.

For many procedures there are less invasive non-surgical options available.

I have a whole list of things I want done.

Teeth
Boobs
Nose
Face lift
Tummy tuck

I got implants at age 19, because i literally had nothing to work with at all. I went from barely an A to B/C cup.
Best decision ever. Its done wonders for my confidence. And now 15 years later and after breastfeeding 2 children they look better than ever. They are softer now .
In the last 15 years ive only worn a bra when wearing thin shirts.
Theres also no maintenance at all. I was told when i got it that it might have to be redone in 15-20 years, depending on how my body reacts to them. No issues so far, they still look exactly the same.

I went with a doctor on the higher price side. He was recommended to me by several people and i dont regret it for a second. Every ob ive seen for check ups always comments that it looks really nicely done and the scar is barely visible.

Cosmetic surgery is an absolute tragedy.

I've had surgery on my mouth, as have always hated my gums..the procedure I had before reversed, and have stopped the procedure not for this reason. I would have happily had the procedure again, and am going to get this done by another method. Other peoples oppions aside, if it boosts your confidence and can afford to do it, it is worth it

I had a boob job at 21, as mine never grew, I knew from age 16 it was the only option for me. I don’t have any regrets at all but they also didn’t solve all my insecurities and now 9 years down the line I feel like I need them redone as they have naturally drooped. I went for a very natural look, under the muscle and low profile as I didn’t want ‘fake boobs’ I just wanted boobs and was my only option at this point! I don’t have regrets at all and I think as long as you don’t go too big and fake looking. Also do your research! I went to a private hospital and perhaps paid a bit extra, my surgeon didn’t show me any before and afters of anyone, I discussed at length what I wanted and we both understood a size couldn’t be guaranteed. I had friends who went to places like MYA and met a salesperson in a hotel and were told they could have any size they wanted and they all came away with huge boobs not suited to their frames and regretted them! Also, don’t underestimate how painful the recovery can be in the first few days you will need someone to assist you with things.

certainly don't bother if you're planning on having more children.

implants nearly always look awful.

reductions, lifts, & so on can be really good if you get it done well.

Hi OP.

I'm also looking in having a boob job. Never had big boobs and almost none existent without a bra. I know it would definitely improve my confidence and have already started saving. I don't want massive rediculous looking ones just something to suit my size. I've asked for quote from several clinics recently and will weigh up where would be best, not necessarily the cheapest. I've looked and it's anywhere between £3,500 & £6000.

I think it's unfair for some previous posters to say that a lot of men are put off by fake boobs. If it makes you feel happy and confidential then why not. I'm 36 btw 2 kids, size 12, couldn't breastfeed so that just made them hard and then go even smaller.

It's easy for others to say that you need to improve how you feel about yourself and not get them but I know it would make me 100% better about myself.

I have had my boobs done. I love them. I had a 32AA prior, and I’m now a 32C. They don’t look fake, I stayed smallish so they didn’t buy three have given me so much more confidence.

In an ideal world, I probably wouldn’t have been tricked by the media into believing that breast = beauty and would have been perfectly happy with my body shape. However, I was desperately unhappy. I had a boob job in between my 2nd and 3rd child and actually they look even better now I’ve had my third son. Don’t feel the need to have anything else done though!

Getting mine done just saving a bit first will put the rest on credit card! Will wait till this is all over first.

I would say thigh, my boobs were expensive. I went for a private plastic surgeon and 5 years ago they cost me £7000. If you’re serious about plastic surgery then please invest. Company’s like MIA etc aren’t the best despite their clever advertising!

I wouldn't. There have been instances of them leaking and causing all sorts of nodules all over the skin and cancer increases.

I used to think I might because ive never had good boobs but honestly I'm now at a point where I feel happier with my confidence of being able to see them as what they are. They're breasts. They're not for being sexy or filling out tops, they are just breasts for feeding children.

I kind of see lingerie adverts differently now too and when I see the tiny knickers and thongs it just makes me think of what they're selling. " You could feel this empowered if your boobs looked like this and a man found them sexy and that would make you feel good and confident."

For me it was about changing the narrative on breasts. Not everyone will feel like that.

Just give it some time and if you're sure that it will make you happy then do it

And sexy really does come on all forms. Take a look at some porn and youll see how many people like different things and sorts of bodies.

I've had mine done twice. Teardrop and under the muscle.

Didn't find it painful at all. Didn't take painkillers other than paracetamol.

First set lasted12 ish years and I had them done again almost 3 years ago.

No regrets at all.

Your decision. Do what is best for you. Xxx

If it was possible for me to have my tummy shoved up to my boobs I would be very happy.

I wanted a boob reduction my whole life. I knew which surgeon I wanted and I had the money.

But the surgeon I wanted preferred not do a reduction on women who might want to breastfeed - which I knew I would eventually want to try to do.

Then when I'd finished breastfeeding, I still had the huge boobs and they were now floppy - but I couldn't justify the expense and the risk of the operation whilst my son was so tiny. Or as he grew - I mean the risk was tiny, but what if I died on the table - how would he cope? However small the risk, I wasn't prepared to take it.

Now is the time I'd planned to have the op (he's 18). I'm not doing it - because I don't want it any more. My boobs are the same, but I'm older, I've got more wisdom, and I've grown in love for myself and honour for what my boobs have done. My boobs - and my entire physical appearance (I always intended on getting a face-lift too by this age) - are now a really minor thing in the context of my life. This sounds so bullshitty, but it is true!

As you have seen, men don't care. It really is all about how you feel. But bear in mind that once you have a boob enhancement, it isn't a one-off done deal. There are no perfect implants, and there is every likelihood that in the future you will need further surgery. You are healthy now - but will you be then?

So I would say give yourself time. I suspect you will find that there is always something more pressing to spend that money on, and IMO that is a good thing.

I had mine done 16 years ago. I always had very small breasts and a chronic illness left me with a huge amount of weight loss and my chest looked like a 6 year old boy's. I had small breast implants and nobody can tell at all. I was very clear that I didn't want that awful porn star look. It gave me inner confidence and I felt like a woman. It was nothing to do with anyone else's influence. I wanted to wear vests dresses and have a little bit of shape. I researched very carefully who to go to. I think I if you are unhappy, do it. Why not. Recovery was fine. In terms of discomfort I'd give it 2/10. It wasn't painful at all. Good luck.

It's nobody's business but yours.

If it makes you happy then do it.

Thank you for all the responses. I have been working on my chest muscles at the gym and it has helped them sit better whilst upright, but there’s no substance to them when I lean forward and I hate it.

I have plenty of time and I’m certainly not in a hurry, but it’s nice to hear from people’s experiences (the good and bad) to weigh up the options.

All I’d say OP is these threads are all the same. The people who seem to be against cosmetic surgery are the people who haven’t had it themselves

Like everyone else on this thread that’s had implants - I did, 15 years ago, and it was the best decision I ever made.

Just use a reputable UK surgeon and hospital.