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To consider doing something a bit naughty?!

154 replies

Ilovethebeach89 · 23/04/2020 13:22

So my 20yr old ds announced last night his mate has some cannabis. He wants me and him to get some and make space cakes. I've never ever tried that but I have to admit I'm curious. I did do other drugs when I was his age but nothing for years and years. I've said no dont be ridiculous but it's at the back of my mind now. Do adults actually do that and enjoy it?! I'm 47 btw. Maybe lockdown has sent me crazy.

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artistformerlyknownas · 23/04/2020 13:25

I wouldn't but I know plenty of people who do. I think it's nice that your son has come to you rather than just doing it anyway, but is it something you want to encourage him to do? It might be fine for you once, but would he keep going? My other thought is that if neither of you have done it before, how will you know how much is too much etc?

peoplewhoannoyyou · 23/04/2020 13:25

Go for it. I'm assuming where you live it's perfectly legal of course.Grin

PurpleDaisies · 23/04/2020 13:25

You know about the link between cannabis and psychosis? Don’t do it.

ClashCityRocker · 23/04/2020 13:27

Take it slow.

You'll think nothing is happening at first and so eat some more and then all of a sudden you'll have had too much.

lubeybooby · 23/04/2020 13:28

be careful with the amount and even distribution - I had one when I was about 25 and an hour later I was having to just lie down (couldn't move, felt weird) and listen to the amazing dance music for hours and hours at my friends house. Got up in the morning and asked what mix it was or DJ or whatever only to be told.... there was no music.

Celerysam · 23/04/2020 13:29

It's not a great example to your son is it? What does his dad think of drug taking?

JasonPollack · 23/04/2020 13:29

Do it. I think it's lovely he wants to bond with you like that.

Go easy though, make sure you wait a good hour or two after eating it before you have any more!

Cocobean30 · 23/04/2020 13:31

If you’re open to it just have a very small amount. It’s good that he can be open with you about this

NoveltyFunsies · 23/04/2020 13:31

@celerysam where in the op do they mention that they are a woman? It could be the dad posting

heartsonacake · 23/04/2020 13:32

Don’t be so ridiculous.

GiveMeAllTheGin8 · 23/04/2020 13:34

Do it! Also update and enjoy !

Happyspud · 23/04/2020 13:34

Sounds fun. BUT. I wouldn’t want my 20 yr old using drugs to be honest. I know too many people who have suffered terrible mental health and even psychosis from the stuff. All of those people were just having a one off bit of fun in the beginning too....

Ahundredpercentthatbitch · 23/04/2020 13:34

Do I think it would be a good idea for you to do illegal drugs with your child?

No.

He may be 20, but where are the fucking boundaries? Are you his mother or his mate?

Triggahippy · 23/04/2020 13:35

Don’t see why not- you only live once. Expect lots of hysterical replies though.

AlwaysCheddar · 23/04/2020 13:36

Stupid. Let’s encourage my kid to do drugs.....yes, excellent parenting skills there.

FrankieDoyle · 23/04/2020 13:36

Why are you considering doing an illegal activity with your kid?

foxychox · 23/04/2020 13:38

Before you do please realise the risks - you have no idea what you are taking - and the contribution that you are making to gang violence, people trafficking etc. It might sound like a bit of fun but it really isn't.

Pinksunday1210 · 23/04/2020 13:41

I’d do it- it’s only weed, but like a pp said, take it slow and eat a small amount

bloodyhellsbellsx · 23/04/2020 13:41

Why not! But watch the Gino, Fred and Gordon road trip first on catch up and see what happened to Gino when he ate a bit too much 🤣 slow and steady!

SerenDippitty · 23/04/2020 13:43

I really wouldn't. But you have reminded me of that episode of Frasier where Niles decides that for once in his life he is going to rebel, and obtains a space cake to try, but his father eats it by mistake.....

Sushiroller · 23/04/2020 13:43

Yeah but go easy on the first name so you don't over do it

SheeshazAZ09 · 23/04/2020 13:45

My cousin went into permanent psychosis after experimenting a couple of times with cannabis so I certainly wouldn't encourage you to encourage your son in this way. She is now basically outside of society in any useful sense. One's children learn mostly by example and it's not desirable for him to see you as sanctioning this behaviour, which you might come to seriously regret.

Rosebel · 23/04/2020 13:47

Why would you? I'm biased because I watched my brother go from taking cannabis to becoming a herrion addict, practically ruin his life,and still be suffering health effects after being clean for 15 years but if your willing to risk that for you and your son go ahead.

ScarfLadysBag · 23/04/2020 13:47

@SerenDippitty That reminds me of when my hippy uncle made space brownies for my grandpa to see if it helped with some of his pain, and my unsuspecting mum ate some of them Grin

MaggieAndHopey · 23/04/2020 13:48

Much harder to moderate your dosage with edibles, so go carefully if you do decide to do this. Cannabis when eaten has a different effect than when smoked - more trippy in my experience and longer lasting.

Also - perhaps your son knows this, but if it's weed (as opposed to hash) you need to prepare it properly first before using it in a recipe - for example by pre-baking it in the oven on its own at a certain temperature. Otherwise it won't do anything at all.