to think that it's rude to assume people's shortened name?

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Semi lighthearted - i know there are bigger issues at the moment but being relatively new in my job and working from home seem to have exaggerated this!

At work my email address is my long name (that no one calls me except my mum)

My short name is not the default short name for this long name. I call myself my short name when I introduce myself and sign off every email with it. Its three letters its not hard and it's not an unusual name.

It annoys me when people who haven't met me email me with the wrong first name (they've just assumed it from my full name in the email address)
It annoys me even more when people who I have had several email exchanges with and introduced myself in person, still call me the wrong name!

I wouldn't dream of emailing someone called Susan 'Hi Sue' for example, unless they had called themselves Sue first.

I find it awkward to call out (but have done twice now in one week) and I also have asked work to change my email address to my short name but apparently they cant.

YANBU - it's rude to assume peoples names, or not take the care to address them the way they address themselves

YABU - I am being oversensitive

And when I was a nurse I always asked people what they were "known " as you do get Alan,s known as Jim etc ,Or Just Katherine known as Kathy,but !y mum has many health issues and spent a few months in hospital last year she has a fairly common name for her generation so say "Elizabeth but again had a less commen shortened version so.say "Ellie" she was there 3 months and was continuously addressed as Elizabeth despite it being written in her notes and on the board above her bed her preferred name ,this was a rehab hospital so patients tended to.stay for months at a time

I have a simple name with no obvious abbreviation, like Polly. Regardless of this, some people insist on shortening it to its first syllable - Poll. I have always hated it. I eventually asked a colleague to stop doing it and SHE was offended! I think it was her 'thing' to shorten people's names, whether they wanted to or not. My self-absorbed SIL does the same. I think it's controlling - I had a horrible ex who used to call me by the pet name he called his first dog, even though I asked him not to. He thought/said it was a compliment because he loved the dog so much. I didn't stay with him long!
On the other side, my daughter has a beautiful, short name and people are always adding - ie to the end - think Kate/Katie. It really annoys me and she corrects them with all the bluntness of a three year old. Good for her!

My name is similar to Nadia, five letters, three syllables. People always read it and call me by a similar but not shorter English name five letters but two syllables. It pisses me off to no end and I always correct them. I am asian, have an asian name and whilst I appreciate some are hard to say mine is not!

Yanbu!

YANBU at all. A dd had a teacher who persisted in calling her by a shortened version she hated. It’s just plain bad manners.

People will look for an excuse to shorten everything.
My name is Megan, it's a short name anyway, and my family and partner call me Meggie (has just stuck ever since I was a child)
I introduce myself to everyone as Megan, but for some reason, everyone I met from my partner's town (which I now live) calls me Meg? I hate Meg.

I have a short first name and a fairly unusual last name. Most people call me by my full first name, some use a shortened version and quite a few have made up nicknames from my surname. I always introduce myself by my first name but quite enjoy being given nicknames by others.

I've got a friend with a short one syllable name...but people decide to use her initial, instead if saying the full name...it's like calling Jane J.

I wonder if it's commoner for people to do things in certain locations or jobs. I always use the full version of my 3 syllable name and people rarely shorten it. Maybe people do this more to young people as I am in my 50s and the people I work with are all over 30