I think she’s lied about terminal cancer

[LockedInTheHouse247]

we were told a family member had terminal bowel cancer 6 years ago. We do not keep in contact as they are not nice people. I can’t go into detail as it may be outing!

So fast forward 6 years, family member is still alive, looks great. Last time we spoke 6 years ago doctors had told her it was her last Christmas

Without giving away too much a family home was being sold & this couple wanted 75% of the sale despite it being 50% in the will.

I can’t even believe I’m asking this, what are the chances of her lying to get us to give her 75% because we felt sorry for her?

Prepared for a grilling as it’s not a nice post but I can’t get my head around doctors telling her she has 6 months to live to being here 6 years later, living a normal life looking great!

Have any of you come across similar?

Inventing these things is not that uncommon. There was a university lecturer who was being investigated for molesting students and invented a terminal cancer to avoid getting sacked. Then he was miraculously cured through juicing. I don’t know if they got rid of him in the end.

@expat101 I took your advice on social media. There’s nothing at all for the past 7 years. No mention of any illness and she is active nearly everyday. I know some people don’t share things on Facebook but there is literally nothing at all.

It's possible to still be alive years after a diagnosis.
It's possible she lied.
None of us know any more than you do. I take it you went against the wishes your relative left in their will?
What are you going to do about it 8 years later?

Many years ago, an ex-boyfriend claimed to have been diagnosed with cancer and given 6 months to live but didn't want to tell anyone so that he could carry on as normal for as long as possible. His illness cost me my mental and physical health. It turned out that he didn't have cancer and, as far as I know, he is alive and well.

It is difficult to understand the betrayal and ruthlessness that these con artists use and how they prey upon your sympathy and compassion and circumstances. I am still unable to understand how or why someone would be so cruel.

I don't know where you stand legally in terms of being able to get the money back but I would suggest counselling (or taking up boxing!) to help with the rage and distress. I am so sorry that you are going through this, I remember the shock and incomprehension to this day.

@onanothertrain we didn’t agree to the 75% but they had more than they should have had. It doesn’t bother me, if money means that much to you then have it. Some people are just greedy. I have no intention of doing anything about it. I didn’t think it was common to lie about a terminal illness that’s why I have asked. But I stand corrected! It is common

People do lie about these things for attention or personal gain, yes. Unfortunately true.

However, my Aunty was given 6 months to live with liver cancer and survived a further 2.5 years. I also have a friend who has terminal bowel cancer currently. He’s had the cancer for 5 years, known it’s terminal for 3 years. He was given until Christmas to live and is still here in April and looks completely normal (although he isn’t - cancer has spread and is not responding to any treatment).

There are types of blood/bone marrow cancer that are considered terminal as there is no cure. But it doesn’t mean that person will be dead in a few weeks/months. I know someone who had a diagnosis like this years ago but is still seemingly healthy, although considered terminally ill.