Mil desperate to see DS

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And really starting to annoy me with it....
Constant texts asking if we need anything (as excuse to come round)...
Or 'we must meet up soon'

She found a baby walker on someone's drive for free and picked it up for DS who's 18 months... 1. About 10 months too late for a baby walker... He's running now!
And 2. I'm not having anything in my house I don't know where it's come from.
She got the right hump about that answer.

Every day she texts both me and my OH about it.
Shes a nurse, working in a hospital, as am I so we don't need any more risk... And incase you don't read the news, the country is on lockdown!!!
The answer is no... And will remain no until lockdown is lifted!!

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER I miss mine very badly. Even if they semi lift lockdown, how many grandparents will still be barred from seeing their little darlings. From parents relying on three days childcare, two days grandparents, to save money, how will that work?

Shes a manipulative bitch and moving away sounds best-does your oh ever stand up to her himself?

Who turns up to a hospital ward to visit someone drunk-shes toxic and you need to get away

Remember, one person's 'trash' is another person's treasure

Agreed, my area is quite lentil-weavey and items are often left out for someone else to use. I've had tons of books, an ironing board cover still sealed in its wrapper, a water butt and a plant stand.

Oh yes agree with that, I've often got second hand bits.
But not in the current state of the world, plus its something that's not needed.

She sounds like a nightmare - any chance of leaving your DH to deal with her? I'm afraid if someone called me a liar I'd block their number.

Sounds like moving away is a great idea!

It's just so difficult.
Feel like I should be civil for Ds sake.

She comes round bringing gifts for us all etc, and it's like because she does that it's OK.

Then I find myself Questioning myself, and saying to myself oh she's not that bad, she's trying etc.

I'm missing my gd, but have visited once. There was no risk though as none of us had been out since before lockdown, not even shopping or exercise.
You are both high risk and as a HCP she should know this.

It's not the baby walker. You could always disinfect and bleach it. It's that the GM works with premature babies, the most vulnerable if all to infection. Imagine if she got infected at the OP's house from OP and brought Covid 19 into a NICU?

Feel like I should be civil for Ds sake.

You know, if you really want it to be possible for your DS to have a fairly ok Granny relationship with this woman, then the best thing you can do is not be civil. Basically - you fuck with me, and you will not see him. You slag us off to our child, you will not see him. You play nice, you follow our rules, you accept the decisions are ours, and you will see him. The end.

If you have your OH on side, then you're fine.

'Don't call me a liar. You want to see our son, you do not call his mother a liar. You do not comment that your grandson's mother is one of 'thousands of girlfriends' he could have. If you can't stop coming out with dysfunctional shit like this, you aren't going to be able to be in his life.'

And yes, move! Very far. And to a house without a spare room.