She hates me

[oldmlm]

I met this girl through old and we've been messaging for about a month.
The other day she brought up the fact that she has a business, I didn't know and was intrigued.
She sent me through some of the products she sells and I immediately saw it was MLM
So I mentioned the MLM before proceeding to research the products
Now she's acting really off with me.
Was Ibu to mention MLM?

What is MLM?

I think she was trying to recruit you to sell.... and now you’ve gone a challenged her “ girl boss” vibes.

She was going to try to drag you into it and doesn’t like that you copped on.

Multi level marketing/ pyramid schemes

@Divebar does that mean I should see this as a red flag? Could it ever work out if I offend her with this MLM stuff?

@KellyHall multi level marketing. Basically arseholes like Arbonne and the likes that harass you to buy stuff.

OP she’s upset you haven’t blindly wandered in to a purchase. I imagine old is a great way to shift products.

She doesn't have a business.... She got sucked into it, losing money and now is trying to recoup by scouring OLD.

My friend just got sucked in. I tried to warn her but someone has obviously been shouting about how amazing it is and she said she’d done her research. 4 weeks in and she’s already ‘recruiting’. What can you do?! But no I suspect your lady won’t be interested once she knows you won’t be buying her products or join her selling team.

I pushed her into giving me the info on what she sells rather than the other way around though.

Do you think she's mad because I'm not interested or mad because I said it was MLM?

It annoys me that they seem to be targeting young single mothers (the company, not recruiters)

Faith what did your friend say when you warned her?

She’s mad she’s wasted her time 🤷‍♀️

I think that when someone has invested energy in something and hold a belief in it they don’t like anything challenging that. Companies don’t obviously advertise themselves as pyramid schemes... I think you made her uncomfortable raising it even if she wasn’t trying to recruit you ( cognitive dissonance)

puds You think that's it? Should I not have mentioned it? I speak my mind slightly too much

I think whatever the reason if she’s acting off or mad then it’s time to call it a day.

What's OLD?

She doesn’t hate you though does she?
You just didn’t fall for her marketing ploy so she doesn’t need you.

I'd keep away from her if she's really involved in this - she will just see you as someone to use.

I think you’re massively over-analysing. You’re well rid of her.

Sam she's acting like she does

How do people cope if a close friend/ partner/ relative falls for MLM?

You’re being unreasonable to use so many acronyms.
MLM you’ve explained but the heck is old???

@Partychaos Two acronyms
Online dating. Both regularly used

Well let her behave as she sees fit, just don’t give her any money.
If someone else falls for it then it’s really out of your control.
You can only warn them, or let them learn through their own mistakes ,
try not to worry too much about her, she will move on to some one or something else.

Red flag - quit whilst you are ahead

@oldmlm

It's abit of an assumption that people fall for "MLM".

I assume I'll get shot for saying publicly I'm with a MLM but I went into it after some research and with my eyes wide open.

I'm sorry to hear about the situation with your friend.

You’ve not said exactly how you phrased it - but It sounds like she said she had her own business, you asked her was it was/sold, she told you and you replied something like, “oh it’s MLM then”. Which is not at all unreasonable; but she has probably read into that as you belittling it/suggesting it’s not a real business - which is no doubt her own insecurity about the complete scam business she’s running.

I assume I'll get shot for saying publicly I'm with a MLM but I went into it after some research and with my eyes wide open.

Ah, so you know about the predatory nature of MLMs and that >90% of sign ups actually lose money. And that you as an unpaid rep are really the customer.