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Neighbours and my WIFI

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Imrubbishatuserables · 19/04/2020 21:15

Hey!
Straight to point I got a new neighbour in my block of flat a few months ago and she asked for my wifi password to connect her console to so they could watch netflix.. i thought why not.. one other thing connected to it wont harm and she has just moved in.. it's her first home she hasn't had chance to set up her own yet. She then gets a new tv in the last few weeks and connects to my wifi but she has also connected her phone and her mates phone to it as well as they are picking up our google speakers on the network her mate joked they should play songs through my sons one in his room from their phones. So I have no idea how to change the password but would I be unreasonable to turn it off every night at 8PM? Considering we are in lockdown and she cant get her own during this time as they will need to come and connect it up. Previous tenant in that flat never had wifi either.

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BullshitometerCalibrator · 24/04/2020 11:37

I'm liking ItsNotNormalLove's response. If she doesn't realise she's been a CF from that then she never will, and no amount of hinting will work - she'll just continue to piss take. Then maybe change your router name to getyourownwificf. If she asks if you know what a cf is then point out the obvious with just those words in a text. 😂

OldEvilOwl · 24/04/2020 11:41

Please send 'mine's fine' as a reply Grin

sonjadog · 24/04/2020 11:49

Yeah, I would go with "mine's fine" too.

Scott72 · 24/04/2020 11:56

Cheers on working out how to change the password. It sounds like your service provider provided you with the cheapest most hardest to configure wireless router available. Anyhow entitled, egotistical people like your neighbors simply won't listen to reason. If you try and argue with them, they will keep arguing with you to give them your new password. And they will not stop.

I think pick an answer which puts the blame on your isp. And when they try and argue with you, just keep saying the same thing over and over, such as "sorry, there's nothing we can do, out of our hands".

thejollygargler · 24/04/2020 12:00

FFS don't make up excuses. Why?

Just tell her you have changed the password and she will need to arrange (and PAY for) her own.

Scott72 · 24/04/2020 12:04

....that should work too. I think I've been reading too many posts on Reddit about crazy entitled narcissists who refuse to take no for an answer.

CoraPirbright · 24/04/2020 12:05

“Mine’s fine” Grin. Funny.

Jux · 24/04/2020 12:07

Definitel "mine's fine"; if you must you could add "must be your provider" but nothing more. Pretend you had no idea she was still using yours. She should be too embarrassed to admit that she is, but if she's so shameless that she does you can tell her without let or hindrance that you agreed to it for a week or two while she got hers sorted. Try not to get into a spat about it so just continue with the astonishment. Maybe throw in some words about security.

"I would never have agreed to anyone using my wifi for longer than a fortnight, it's really not safe to do so" kind of thing.

lowlandLucky · 24/04/2020 12:11

OP You do realise they could be looking at illegal sites on the internet and it will be traced back to your address. You could have the police knocking on your door asking why you are looking at child porn ! Would you share your bank account details and passwords with a stranger ? No? So why share your WiFi code ?

SophocIestheFox · 24/04/2020 12:13

Definitely, definitely go with “mine’s fine” or even “mine’s fine, have you tried unplugging your router?” Grin

SeriouslyRetro · 24/04/2020 12:15

Be prepared for her to lay it on thick about not being able to sort anything during lockdown, blah blah kid needs to do schoolwork etc etc.

CrazyTimesAreOccurring · 24/04/2020 12:22

Yes ^^ she will lay it on thick, you will end up being the 'baddy'. No good deed goes unpunished and all that

JudyCoolibar · 24/04/2020 12:24

Be prepared for her to lay it on thick about not being able to sort anything during lockdown, blah blah kid needs to do schoolwork etc etc

If she does, just point out that it's very easy to sort this out during lockdown. If she says she needs a connection in order to do so, she can use a phone.

Adfghvg · 24/04/2020 12:28

I vote for "mines fine"too. I like the have you tried unplugging your router suggested above. Lol

Don't make up any excuses. You don't owe her anything.

Lianepl · 24/04/2020 12:32

Gosh, I am so invested in this thread! I'm sure you have enough advice but I'd definitely be responding: "not sure why you're messaging me about your wifi?" then, if she says that it's because she's using your wifi I'd act stunned: "What? Why would you still be using my wifi? You said it was for a short time until you got yours sorted. I'm really shocked that you have been using it all this time."

Good luck - and keep us posted!

mummmy2017 · 24/04/2020 12:35

Do not let on you let on you locked her out.
Just checked my Wi-fi it's fine.

If she asks if you changed your password , say yes , and you meant to thank her for reminding you that your network was not secure, protecting the kids has to be a top priority.

Honeyroar · 24/04/2020 12:39

She’s absolutely going to lay it thick that she can’t get anything sorted during lockdown. You’ll have to be firm and strong. Tell her you were surprised and a little upset that she was still using it, particularly when she and her friend were joking about it and you realised she’d given the password to other people too. Tell her she’s had long enough to sort her own supply by now.

Hirsutefirs · 24/04/2020 12:47

Don’t change the password!

Am I too late?

Jux · 24/04/2020 12:52

You do not need to get involved any further than "mine's fine". It doesn't matter what heart-wrenching bollocks she may send you, it's not your circus.

Lianepl · 24/04/2020 12:56

Sorry, me again - if she starts saying that she needs wifi for school work, advise her to contact the school. They will either post work out, or, if she's very lucky, they might post her a dongle she can use to get online (but it won't have masses of data on it so can only be used for legitimate school work).

It's definitely not your responsibility to provide wifi!

Nanasueathome · 24/04/2020 12:58

My son moved house the week before lockdown
There was no internet connection at his new place but he contacted BT and they were able to set it all up
He was connected on 14th April, so they will still provide new connections
Sky were unable to provide until sometime in June

CalleighDoodle · 24/04/2020 13:03

Im another thinking, ‘mines fine. Check with your provider.’ Is a good answer that welcomes no further comment.

Nottherealslimshady · 24/04/2020 13:04

Another vote for "mines fine. Who are you with?"

CalleighDoodle · 24/04/2020 13:06

Another vote for "mines fine. Who are you with?"

I was less keen on this because it is encouraging conversation.

Longwhiskers14 · 24/04/2020 13:32

Don't say "mine's fine" because she'll just come back and ask to piggy back it again. Be honest: say I had to change the user name and password and I'm afraid you'll need to sort your own WiFi out now.

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