Hi,
So I have known my friend for 15 years. He is 38, lives alone and is a bit of a gamer.
Whenever I go round to see him, he is constantly on his phone. I’ve lost count the amount of times I have been talking and just given up because he was on his phone and wasn’t paying attention. If he isn’t on his phone when I go round, he’s then staring at the tv when I’m trying to talk. So I usually just give up and go home.
If I ring him, he answers, but is on his computer games and I can tell he is not listening to a word I am saying, but if I ever mention it or make a comment about his lack of attention, he gets really defensive over it and kinda snaps back.
A few weeks ago, a relative of mine passed away due to covid19. Absolutely awful and as a family we are terribly upset and what makes it harder is the social distancing, we can’t even be together right now.
Last week, I rang my friend and told him the funeral was on Wednesday. He was on his game as usual, and I kinda knew that he wasn’t paying attention.
The day of the funeral came and I got so many messages off people wishing us luck for the day and sending lots of love to me and my family. Did I hear from my friend? No.
The funeral was horrific. Saddest funeral I have ever been too. My relative was only 47 and has left behind a 17 year old son.
Two days later, my friend sent me a message saying “did you say today was the funeral?”. I left it a while and just replied “no. It was two days ago. I did tell you it was on Wednesday, but you were too busy on your computer”.
He never replied to me.
I have known him too long and I know his silence means HE is annoyed at ME!!
Annoyed at me for daring to bring up his constant gaming.
His silence is making me more annoyed and upset, in an already upsetting time.
Who is in the wrong here???