To think AIBU is too unpleasant

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Full of things you'd never say to someone in real life. Often it's like kicking someone when they're down. :(

Chillicheese123 - only on Mumsnet. There was another post on the CV forum where somebody posted that the OP was selfish for going to a shop and they were “literally sobbing and shaking.” Then the OP was sobbing and shaking and the thread continued along that vein for some time with both posters making themselves sick with anxiety. Before being deleted.

Yes I know you have never subscribed to that Sparkling. But that’s my opinion

Do people really ‘sob and shake’ ?! I mean really?

They seem to “literally spit out their tea” laughing quite a lot. I imagine they’re sobbers and shakers.

I was told by someone that buying chocolate and wine with my weekly shop was murdering people and that they were “sobbing and shaking” whilst reading my post.

TBF @BirdieFriendReturns the only polite response to such a post is but I think a hearty get a fucking grip wouldn't have been completely out of order

Are you the PBP who created the thread yesterday saying MN is bad for Mental Health?
I am pretty sure it was the disgraceful puppy farmer.

And that's mine @Vegansarefriends. I didn't know you already knew how would I?

The puppy thread was shocking ! That person deserved to have their arse handed t them, don’t care if that makes me a terrible person.

Mumsnet does seem to attract a high number of people with anxiety. I’m not sure how many aggressive people posting are suffering from mental illness with no outlet except posting on here.

Anyone who says they are "literally" doing something clearly isnt doing it at all.
If you really were "sobbing and shaking" just by the thought of someone buying wine and chocolate with their weekly shop how on earth could you go around the supermarket?! You'd be having a nervous breakdown the moment you left the vegetable aisle

There are some nasty people on Aibu who seem to excuse it by saying well it's AIBU, don't post here if you can't take it. There are also lots of straight talking, sensible people and those that will always agree with the poster, particularly if the post is related to a male DP or MIL.

@BirdieFriendReturns the thing is you then can’t say anything about anything they say because they have anxiety and that overrules things. I don’t see how just agreeing with their anxieties can help someone though.

I don't take nasty comments seriously. It's the easiest thing to be an anonymous keyboard warrior. People can invent any persona they want, and they do. Some get a twisted pleasure from posting offensive and hurtful comments. Best ignored IMO.

The puppy thread was shocking ! That person deserved to have their arse handed t them, don’t care if that makes me a terrible person.
It also again showed the thing which is the only problem I have with MN and AIBU. Yet again there were posters in whose eyes woman can't do no wrong and totally ignored the fact that what she was doing was illegal, immoral and frankly, disgusting. But you know. Poor her. She should delegate more jobs to DH and DDs and have some rest🤷🏻

I do think that sometimes there are misunderstandings about tone of the post. It is a written word after all and it is difficult to get the correct emotion out of it sometimes.

You are NEVER going on holiday again

FFS what don't you understand about not going out?

I agree it can be unpleasant but I thought the point of it was basically asking for an unbiased, no bullshit answer to a situation where either they are in the wrong, or someone else is. There is an equivalent on lots of different forums and it's basically the point of it.

But I do think MN in general is full of people bringing their own issues into other people's situations and using it as a space to vent their open feelings on certain subjects that they perhaps can't voice in their real life, without having to worry about niceties. If everyone viewed it that way, it could sort of be seen as a good thing.

I have always thought you can see the way it's going to go from the first few replies. And if there is going to be nastiness there is often a pile on. Don't understand that.

It is fascinatingly like a playground.

But then some people do give great advice.

But I wonder why some people post there sometimes about relatively unimportant things. They're either new or looking for the sport.

I think it’s telling that the people writing about their experiences on AIBU are saying about how they were right to do what they did and have been proven right etc.

So you were never in doubt of your actions? So why post in AIBU?

I just don’t see the point of posting ‘My neighbours have loud wild sex parties until all hours which involve throwing mud and acid at my house. When I ask them to stop they stab me in the face with forks. AIBU to be upset?’ What sort of validation are you seeking?

The nastiest are even on chat.

I have decided to participate in chats until someone gets nasty, then I hide the thread.

It’s not worth it, and some people just need to lash out. Once they are on a thread they can be difficult to ignore. Shame because for those of us living alone in lockdown mumsnet can be a good place to find some company and have a chat.

I have decided to participate in chats until someone gets nasty, then I hide the thread

Same. Life is too short to put up with rude/abusive internet strangers. The second it gets mean, I just hide it. Ive got better things to do than engage in that.Not letting it drag me down.