Friend issues

[Rosalie49]

I’ve got this friend who I’ve been friend with now for about 7 years. We lost contact for about 4 years and we’ve very recently just got in contact again. We’ve been texting but not regularly and we haven’t met up or anything.

Anyway, she randomly text me tonight and asked if she could borrow £40 since she has a direct debit she needs to cover. She said her mum can help her but not until Friday and it will be too late by then. I’ve lent her money many years ago and whilst she did pay me back, it took a while for me to get it and I had to ask for it a couple of times too.

I am in a position where I can afford to lend her £40 but I can’t help but feel it’s a bit rude of her to ask. For one, I’ve just had a baby (5 weeks ago) and to be honest, that’s the only reason we made contact with each other again as she text me to congratulate me and we started talking from that and two, we haven’t spoke in years.

But at the same time I can’t help but think, is that not what friends are for? To help you when you need help?

I don’t know what to do.

Also, I want to add that personally, I would never ask a friend for money. I’d ask family. She had a very large family (4 siblings) and I can’t help but wonder why none of those are willing to help? They are all very close with each other too.

What do you all think?

@Sockmonster23 yeah agreed we need to help each other out more. The reason I am sceptical is because we haven’t spoke in years and it’s strange that we’ve only been back in contact with each other for a matter of weeks and she’s already asking for money. I’ve also lent money in the past to my own family before and it caused massive problems. But at the same time I wanted to make sure I wasn’t going to be the shittest friend by saying no and coming on here has confirmed I won’t be. I like helping people out but this is just sketchy to me.

I think they are fallouts over money or money owed just ends messy. Just my opinion.

It's a no from me. Been there, done that, and bought the T-shirt twice before I learned my lesson. I got what I expected back..... nothing. So I let it go and the friendship went with it. No one needs people who will take advantage of you because you want to be kind and help. Some see it as a sign of weakness. Let her go...... block and move on.

Note a chance in hell.

Unless of course you want to sign up as her longtime money monkey. That’s all she sees you as.

She’s testing the water to see if you will bite.

I don't understand the thought process of the poster who said give her the money then ghost her.