To think that 10 easter eggs per child from MIL is atrocious

[garlicbread82]

MIL has just dropped off 10 easter eggs each to my 3 DCs (we maintained social distancing, she left them at the end of the path).

Now dont get me wrong, I am greatful, but 10 each? Really? I think this is not only overzealous, it also undermines me. I have told her in previous years that one egg each is more than enough, and maybe a small gift, however she continues to undermine me in front of my DCs.

I have allowed my DCs to choose one egg each from the pile to go with the eggs they have already received, and the rest will be dropped off at the local food bank next week. DH thinks I am being unreasonable, and has gone upstairs in a huff Happy Easter hey?

AIBU?

Good god in heaven. Never mind anything else, what is her health like if she thinks one person eating 10 Easter eggs is healthy?!?

You’re absolutely right, take them to the food bank so people less fortunate can avail of them.

She may be doing it with good intentions, but 10 Easter eggs for one person is far too much and is unhealthy. Not to mention the amount of money she must have spent on all that.

You’ve told her once so I think you should tell her nicely again that this is far too much

This would piss me off too OP. Can't believe the amount of parents on here who would happily let their children scoff 30 eggs!

Except literally nobody said that, and it was ten each.

If you have to wildly exaggerate to make your point it sort of nullifies it, IMO.

Besides, chocolate lasts for months and months so it wouldn’t have to be consumed every day. Again, not one single person said it should be. 🙄

Basically, I don’t want dozens of Easter eggs cluttering up my home for months on end so 10 each is ridiculous on top of what they’ve presumably already received from other family etc.
But only letting them keep one is miserly. I’m sure there’s a middle ground.

"I’d use this as an opportunity to talk about children living in poverty and definitely donate then to the nearest food bank, shelter or women’s aid"

Oh for the love of God you sound unbearably righteous! I hope your grand children have another Granny who is normal.

You told her no, she should respect what you have said.

You're mean, stingy and miserable and your MIL is lovely. Also, the eggs were a gift from grandmother to her grandchildren, it's not your business and certainly not for you to donate. If I'd be your husband, I'd donate all the gifts you ever received to charity. All the perfume, jewellery and whatnot. Just because.

@Marlouse oh your sad post really resonated with me so much. My ex SIL was just like your Mum always quietly seething in the corner over some imagined insult and creating a nasty atmosphere over a perceived slight. It was exhausting being around her to be honest because her resentful attitude was just so draining and she took the Shine off so many family occasions. I confess I was so relieved when BIL finally had enough and called a day on the marriage as it was just toxic. His new wife is just so lovely and gets on so easily with us all that she's a pleasure to be around. Only sad thing is BIL really regrets wasting over twenty years of his life with his ex wife and he says he just assumed that most marriages were basically unhappy but with a thin layer of niceness on top

Besides, chocolate lasts for months and months so it wouldn’t have to be consumed every day. Again, not one single person said it should be.

One has. One said give them 1/2 or a 1/4 or a fifth each day.

I get where you're coming from OP. 10 Easter eggs each is ridiculously excessive. I'm really surprised by the number of people that think this is acceptable but then again, this general acceptance of overindulging kids is why childhood obesity continues to skyrocket. So many parents seem to think that giving their children treats as rewards or to compensate for difficult situations is acceptable. It's not! It's teaching them bad habits and damaging their health. In terms of saving the eggs and giving them to the children throughout the year, where are you keeping 27 full size Easter eggs? It's just so unhealthy.

So your opinion trumps your ohs, who's also a parent!

And you think it's the mil who's unreasonable?!

I admit I have yet to Read The Full Thread, but @garlicbread82 My husband frequently binge eats, and thinks it is acceptable to have two Big Macs rather than one in front of the DCs

To be fair, Big Macs aren't big anymore, they're quite small, and most good takeaway/chippy hamburgers are twice the size of a Big Mac. I could eat 2 to 3 Big Macs for dinner, and I far from gluttonous. I think most adults would not find one Big Mac filling at all. Your average growing, non-overweight teenage boys can fit 2 to 3 Big Macs, as well as large fries. And, still have room for a sundae. Your husband sounds like he has a normal adult appetite to me. So, since you seem to think 2 so-called 'Big' Macs is too much for a grown adult male, I'm wondering maybe your idea of proportions is unreasonable in other areas? And if your idea of a huge egg is the same as other people's? Like, do you mean slightly larger than average, like the average size eggs you get in a carton, or one of those large ones that are around 10 inches long? Because if they can fit in a standard mug, that isn't exactly large.

At least she loves them and is thinking about them She must miss them. My m hasn’t contacted her gc for months. Stop being ungrateful. I’d love a mother or grandmother who clearly cared for her gc.

I would never tell someone what to buy my children unless they asked for a suggestion . I tend to ask family members with kids what they may want or need but occasionally I may see something I think they would like and get it . I will always just say thanks for my kids gifts and even if not something they want or like I don’t have a right to tell someone what gift to buy them . Yes 10 eggs from one person is excessive but it’s the youth that counts right

I told Dh about this thread, he just pulled a face and said 10 eggs per kid wasn’t about the kids it was about the mil showing off and doing it for herself. He is normally the sort to over spoil our dc and even he though 10 was madness and completely ott.

Thought not youth

I told Dh about this thread, he just pulled a face and said 10 eggs per kid wasn’t about the kids it was about the mil showing off and doing it for herself.

That's it everyone, thread closed. A man hath spoken.

@OlaEliza just because I said they COULD have some each day as they would last a minimum of that long doesn't mean OP has too. What I meant was if they were going to eat all 10 they could have 1/2 1/4 or 1/5 a day if they were allowed. Stop taking it out of context

Just us - thank goodness! No MIL grin Plain nasty! I hope you're not wanting to treat your grandchildren or be a part of their lives in any way.

I silently seethed as DCs fawned over her so you're jealous of her? Or plain don't like her? And you only wanted her to buy the boring gifts so santa (you) get all the glory. Grandparents want to buy fun things for the children. Books fine as my children like books. Shoes they would be thankful for but wouldn't be excited by them.

Why not ask them if they want to give any away? My son was asked and he wants to give 2 away. He will enjoy eating one a week of the rest.

It sounds like you want to control your husband, his mum and your kids!

That's it everyone, thread closed. A man hath spoken. All threads are finished once someone has asked a man!!!

@OlaEliza that's really pissed me off that you picked a bit of what I said to manipulate it to fit your purpose. My comment was you didn't have to eat a WHOLE egg each day I never said you had to eat half or 1/4 a day. Get a bloody grip and don't pick bits which suit your agenda

Can't believe the amount of parents on here who would happily let their children scoff 30 eggs!
It was 10 and lots of suggestions for using the chocolate to use in cakes, keep for treats over the next year, freeze etc. No one is saying give it as 3 meals a day until its gone.

"I’d use this as an opportunity to talk about children living in poverty and definitely donate then to the nearest food bank, shelter or women’s aid"
At whish point I hope they ask, if giving us so important, why were only giving our eggs than a Nanny gave us, not something of yours or from you. Only giving stuff we think isn't good enough for our children is hardly virtuous.

I think most adults would not find one Big Mac filling at all. Your average growing, non-overweight teenage boys can fit 2 to 3 Big Macs, as well as large fries. And, still have room for a sundae. This is insane and definitely not normal! You're talking about approx. 2,000 calories in ONE meal. A full grown man shouldn't have more than 2,500 calories per day.

For what it’s worth OP I don’t think you are being unreasonable. No child needs 10 Easter eggs. I have bought my grandchildren the same as I have always bought my own children. One Easter Egg each, a T-shirt/ summer dress and a small activity to play with (paints, play doh, threading beads, jigsaw puzzle to keep at Grandmas for them to do here when normal life resumes).

You're talking about approx. 2,000 calories in ONE meal. A full grown man shouldn't have more than 2,500 calories per day.

Firstly, individual calorie requirements depend on height, current weight, general health, whetger someone is trying to lose/maintain/gain weight, and activity levels. 2500 is typical but not one size fits all. Secondly, it is perfectly acceptable and not harmful to average your calories over the week and have slightly less on some days in the knowledge that you are going to be having slightly more on others, for example limiting your calories on Friday because you know you're going out for dinner and drinks on Saturday.

@BabyDancer You're talking calories. I am talking feeling satisfied. Of COURSE McDonalds is high in calories. We all know that. That doesn't change the fact that for most people, one big mac is not filling.