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Trying not be upset but I am. Neighbour burning garden waste.

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upsetwithneighbour · 11/04/2020 22:37

We're pretty sure I have coronavirus. On week 3. Started to see improvement and my fever finally broke a couple of days ago and my asthma nurse was happy to see improvement.

Fast forward to last night. My neighbours were burning garden waste in their incincerator and my chest feels like it's being crushed again, I'm coughing more, my temp has gone back up (though not as high as it was thankfully) and I'm generally upset and pissed off and was in tears last night because I felt so shit again. My head feels like I've been hit over it with a brick and my sore throat is back with swollen glands. Hayfever has kicked in too.

I feel torn and like maybe I am because normally it doesn't bother me, generally they're great neighbours though we don't particularly talk to them or know them (which is why we haven't approached them as my DP would have to deal with it and he can't guarantee he won't lose his shit because he's been really worried with how ill I've been as it was touch and go as to whether I'd need to go into hospital a few nights ago) and they have every right to do what they want in their garden.

But I'm really fucking upset that they aren't being more considerate (it's the second or third time they've burnt garden waste since I became ill as they recently removed their decking, I'm not entirely sure as everything has been blurring into one). Closing the window didn't help because it had already got into the house and had hit my chest. I really don't want to end up in hospital because if we're wrong and it's not that, I'll be exposing myself to further risk of getting it.

First time posting in AIBU. Lay it on me. Sad

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PerkyPomPoms · 12/04/2020 08:08

How did your neighbours respond?

hesgotit · 12/04/2020 08:37

If you're on week 3, doesn't your DP only need to isolate for 14 days? So going round not a problem?

Notdonna · 12/04/2020 09:38

Exactly hesgotit!!

CovidCanFKcuOFF · 12/04/2020 10:48

Burning at night still affects me I like my windows open at night

BillysMyBunny · 12/04/2020 10:50

You could have just sent your husband around to knock on the door, step back 2 metres (or further if possible) from the front door whilst and he could have then had a conversation with them. No need at all to have given them something you have handled whilst suffering from the virus.

Alternatively if you have a number for another neighbour who you could have contacted them and asked them to write the note on your behalf. Sending a note yourself from your household when you believe you may be infectious was incredibly irresponsible and reckless.

FabulouslyElegantTits · 12/04/2020 11:09

My DH was merrily burning garden waste ... after a couple of hours a neighbour shouted over that the smoke was getting on his chest, DH shouted back 'bloody hell mate, sorry didn't think'. He damped down his fire and he won't do it again. End of drama!

Easy.

He's not an arsehole he's bloody ace he just didn't think!

Rosspoldarkssaddle · 12/04/2020 11:25

Many councils have asked folk not to burn garden waste because it aggravates respiratory symptoms. However, people do. A quick word will do the trick. I am sure they don't want to make things worse for you.

Andpopwenttheweasle · 12/04/2020 11:29

Ffs your neighbours aren't mind readers, pop a note through the door and let them know it's an issue at the moment as you're sick

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 12/04/2020 11:35

You NEED to tell them. We have piles of garden waste (it's not being collected locally) and it's a breeding ground for flies, I would probably want to burn it if I hadn't specifically been given a reason not to. Not all councils etc have communicated well on this.

TheReluctantCountess · 12/04/2020 11:37

Any update?

upsetwithneighbour · 12/04/2020 11:39

No response so far. If they'd let us know we would have closed the window and it wouldn't have been an issue. Shouting out of the window wasn't an option as they were inside (our houses have back doors with full length glass, so they will have still been able to monitor it).

Thanks for the support and feedback everyone. I've asked MNHQ to delete the post as I feel some of the thread has become a bit identifying for us.

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WorraLiberty · 12/04/2020 12:20

Jesus what a palaver. DH should have washed his hands. Knocked on the door. Stood well back and politely explained that you are ill probably with CV and that the fire was aggravating it and to please stop. If they refused then escalate.

Yep, but that would be far too simple...

hesgotit · 12/04/2020 12:24

Did the note need a response OP, or was it just "could you stop", in which case assume they will?

rjebgf · 12/04/2020 12:26

The councils have really messed up shutting tips. Tips were receiving tonnes of waste every single day. Where is that waste going? Bonfires, fly tipping etc! They should have kept tips open but allowed one car at a time or something.

PerkyPomPoms · 12/04/2020 13:43

How on earth could you thread be identifying Confused

TheReluctantCountess · 12/04/2020 14:00

If the fire is unattended, call the fire brigade Wink

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