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Peter Kay’s Car Share degrading women?

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ZeroOneOneTwoThree · 11/04/2020 19:06

If you haven’t already heard, Peter Kay and the BBC released a new episode of Peter Kay’s Car Share yesterday.

At about 6 minutes 53 into the episode, Peter Kay and his costar start discussing a three year old breastfeeding at soft-play.

The language used to describe something so natural was absolutely abhorrent.

Can I recommend that you listen to the piece here? www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p088wzsg/peter-kays-car-share-audio-special

If you are as appalled as I am, can I also ask that you make a complaint here? www.bbc.co.uk/contact/complaints/make-a-complaint

There are so many things wrong with this. AIBU to think that in this day this should not have been aired?

OP posts:
ExtraOnions · 11/04/2020 22:22

When Peter went to MSJ it was still in Deane, not far from his house ... we were friends for years, but you know how life is ! Saying that, whenever I bump into him we have a good catch up - he’s a great chap

Paddy - just nah

x2boys · 11/04/2020 22:33

Are you sure Extra because currently ds1_attends MSJ and apparently the current school was built in the early 80,s Peter Kay is around the same age as me so 45/46 so must have attended mid 80,s?

TellMeWhoTheVilliansAre · 11/04/2020 22:33

Breastfeeding a three year old is perfectly natural.

Yet continuing to give a child a bottle at 3 would be frowned on. At 3 a child would be expected to be fully weaned, eating proper meals and drinking from a cup or glass.

Would breastfeeding a 3 year old have any nutritional benefit for the child or is it more an emotional benefit?

Honest question!

AllTheseThingsThatIHaveNotDone · 11/04/2020 22:35

I do know a woman who broke her ankle on a bouncy castle slide - it was the anti-slip socks they made you wear. I also know a bloke who fractured his coccyx at the bottom of the astroglide. Anyhoo, for those who cannot be arsed to listen/look up the transcript was as follows:
I tell you what was embarrassing. There was a woman there yesterday breastfeeding a three year old boy.
How do you know he was three?
He had balloons.
Is that what you call 'em?
Breast-feeding at three?
Yeah. Swear down. Hanging off her tit with his teeth in Timberlands.
Time and a place!
Tell me about it. Some kids were in tears.
I'm surprised his mam weren't in tears with a three year old gnawing away at her. They've got proper teeth at that age, she must have been in agony.
Well, serves her right.
They say breast is best but you've got to draw the line somewhere.
He'll be still sucking with a tache at that rate.
He'll be nipping home in his lunch hour.
She'll be making him a flask up.
How could she make him a flask up?
Well, you just express it.
Express it? What do you mean?
Express it with one of them machines.
I don't know them.
You do! You just clamp it on and it sucks the breast milk out.
Tomorrow's world!
Oh my God they've had 'em for years John.
And I can't get 4g in my bathroom.

Then goes on to Mandy having had a hard time of it, pump being noisy they had to have subtitles on Downton, only getting a thimble of milk and then crying when it got knocked over, going to formula and Sophie sleeping like a log.

Add to that radio ads about weightwatching and crop tops and you do wonder whether MN is being professionally trolled Wink

AllTheseThingsThatIHaveNotDone · 11/04/2020 22:40

Would breastfeeding a 3 year old have any nutritional benefit for the child or is it more an emotional benefit?
kellymom.com/ages/older-infant/ebf-benefits/

RoseGoldEagle · 11/04/2020 22:44

I’m not against extended breastfeeding at all. Lots of people aren’t keen though, and these are characters in a show that represent some of those views. You can’t completely sanitise everything that’s broadcast. I didn’t find it funny but wasn’t offended.

ExtraOnions · 11/04/2020 22:46

I am absolutely sure. I was there 83-88, and Peter was the year below me. MSJ merged with St Augustines in about 1986, and we were split sites for a couple of years, but Peter was deffo at Deane as he used to run the disco when it rained at Lunchtime.
I think the new school, up at the hospital opened in about 1990

JayAlfredPrufrock · 11/04/2020 23:11

Oooh I’m ridiculously excited about being on a thread with some who was at school with him.

ManchesterChidless · 11/04/2020 23:18

What’s wrong with you?

Oh right he mentioned breast feeding and some mothers seem to think they are the only women who have ever done it.

It’s a fucking joke.

JellyfishandShells · 11/04/2020 23:48

The radio ads were, as ever, pitch perfect

Lovebb · 11/04/2020 23:53

I’d hate to have to go through life as uptight as some of the posters on here. Shame

MorganKitten · 12/04/2020 02:21

Is the OP Michael McIntyre?

They’d be stealing it and claiming it as their own if they were.... how his career started...

cactus2020 · 12/04/2020 08:20

Tell me you might prefer to read all the evidence-based medical guidelines, UK or US, which agree there's no nutitional benefit after 2, just emotional. Not sure 'kellymom.com', lactation consultant, is the place to go for unbiased info...

Anna783426 · 12/04/2020 08:25

Didn't think this section was particularly funny, but lots of comedy dates badly. Very surprised they got away with the radio ad about china giving the world SARS in 2004 "let's hope they don't do that again..."

drunkyhumptydumpty · 12/04/2020 08:25

So you think BM isn't nutritional after 2? Don't be so daft. It's still stuffed with vitamins and antibodies.

HarrySnotter · 12/04/2020 08:27

Totally prepared to be flamed.

No you weren't @ZeroOneOneTwoThree, you assumed everyone would agree with you.

hannabarbera · 12/04/2020 08:30

Yawn. Bet you’re a great laugh at parties.

ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 12/04/2020 08:38

Fucking hell its just a joke. I look at my three year olds, they're great big tall children, definitely not toddlers any more and yeah, it would look funny/weird if they were breastfeeding at that age.

Rosebel · 12/04/2020 08:41

It was a joke and not sexist at all. People need to get a life. I think a lot of Peter Kay's comedy is like this. Surprised you haven't noticed before.

HotCrossBungle · 12/04/2020 08:46

I LOVE careshare do thanks OP for bringing this to my attention. Can't wait to watch it later, I'll remember to bring my sense of humour with me.

bullyingadvice2017 · 12/04/2020 09:02

It won't be popular on here, the bit that made me laugh was at the end... give them some formula and they sleep right thru.

And it is so so so true that they do! Tho will not ever be allowed to be uttered on mumsnet.

I know a few breast feeding Nazi's. They like to think they are lovely supportive women helping other women. Actually they managed to put me and many other mums I know right off breastfeeding by how evangelical they are about it. It's such a non issue a couple of years down the line but my god it ruins so many mums first few months with the guilt.

JayAlfredPrufrock · 12/04/2020 09:02

Just to point out it’s a listen not a watch.

Otherrooms · 12/04/2020 09:04

Thanks for reminding me it was on OP!!
Love Peter Kay! ❤️

maddy68 · 12/04/2020 09:09

And ? It's comedy. ?

QuixoticQuokka · 12/04/2020 09:59

It's such a non issue a couple of years down the line but my god it ruins so many mums first few months with the guilt. 'Jokes' about breastfeeding can make mums feel like crap too. Worrying that their young baby should be sleeping through when it's perfectly normal for babies to wake frequently, or being ridiculed for breastfeeding a toddler. I was a young solo mum who extended bf and it's difficult enough being a young parent without being judged for how you feed your child.