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To think some people are just loving it?

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PoppliosBubble · 11/04/2020 16:30

So many people seem to be taking so much pleasure in being absolutely furious with everyone else at the moment and I’m just amazed by it.

I live in a very touristy town, our local FB page is currently full of posts of people who have searched car registrations in their road and found some that aren’t registered to the area. Dozens of posts with photos of people queuing up outside co-op asking whether everyone will only be buying essentials, photos of very elderly sat on a bench saying that they might as well just kill themselves now, couples holding hands clearly being ABSOLUTE SELFISH B*S!!

All these posts followed by so many angry comments and talk of slashing tyres, complaining about hearing Midlands or London accents, comments that police should be throwing kids in prison.

I know it’s a scary time. It’s absolutely unprecedented and we’re underprepared and walking into the unknown. But I genuinely find the sheer rage that seems to be coming from some people quite frightening. I have to take my kids with me whenever I leave the house and I just know that someone will comment on it soon. I only have a tiny courtyard of outside space so I’m taking dc on a long walk with me every morning. Dc2 is only just 4 but I feel I can’t give him a drink as we’re walking along in case someone accuses us of having a picnic.

Is anyone else concerned by this? Anything I can do at all?

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bigchris · 12/04/2020 20:53

@bookishkitten

You were doing ok you wrote I told her to go fuck herself

Not covering yourself in glory there are you

GlummyMcGlummerson · 12/04/2020 20:54

CherrySoup the over zealousness shouldn't have happened in the first place!!

And yes I'm speaking from experience of a 100% smarminess/dickhead rate when I've dealt with police. Many reasons I can't be arsed going into. Not sorry - I think in general they aren't to be trusted.

GlummyMcGlummerson · 12/04/2020 21:21

I know that on MN all old people are saints and must be worshipped but if one waved a walking stick at me and my kids I'd say go fuck yourself too

SpiralHecate · 12/04/2020 21:21

This situation is certainly bringing out the best and worst in people.

Quail15 · 12/04/2020 21:40

@BookishKitten
Similar thing happened to my husband yesterday when I was at work. He took our 16 month old for a walk along the lane at the end of our road. He was approached by two men and their dogs. My husband isn't easily intimidated but he felt uneasy with the way they approached him and our daughter.
They demanded to know if he had driven there to go for a walk or if he lived in the village. My husband politely told them that he lived in the village and the men huffed a bit before leaving. It sounds like they were looking for a reason to cause an argument. It makes me feel uncomfortable to go out for my walk now.

I'm also waiting for one of my neighbours to report me for going out in my car early in the mornings.... I work in A&E.

user1471565182 · 12/04/2020 21:48

Surprised they're so pleased about the vanishing tourists in cornwall. They wont be after a whole season without them.

user1471565182 · 12/04/2020 21:49

Then again they did also vote out of the EU then go begging for extra help.

PhilCornwall1 · 12/04/2020 21:54

Surprised they're so pleased about the vanishing tourists in cornwall. They wont be after a whole season without them.

We don't all need the tourists for our jobs. I couldn't give a shit if they don't come back.

Shhimtryingtosleep · 12/04/2020 21:56

We went for a walk the other day in the woods, I let the kids take off their shoes to walk in the stream. They loved it but we got some very judgy looks. We were technically still walking and the stream is at least 3m wide, to a 5 and 7yo it was magical but the fear of someone screaming at us for not power walking isn't great for my anxiety

LoisWilkersonslastnerve · 12/04/2020 22:05

I think it's okay to be frustrated with people breaking the rules but the level of venom just tells me these types are thriving on having an excuse to be horrible. These people were probably unpleasant before this. A guy was far too close to me in a queue last week, I just said please step back a bit more, instead of putting my car key through his eyeball or calling him a eejit.

DrCoconut · 12/04/2020 22:16

I have enjoyed holidays in the south west but find it a little bit Royston Vasey in places. And the people are abrupt and rude generally. Maybe it was just because I was not a local. I'm sure there are many exceptions as everywhere but I can imagine some of the people I came across sitting in their front window making a tally chart of the neighbours shopping trips or something. I've had an online "discussion" with someone on a local page because I dared to sympathise with people who left their home due to domestic violence but other than that people have been pretty nice.

HarryLimeFoxtrot · 12/04/2020 22:52

I usually travel for work a lot. I tend to leave early Monday morning and get home on a Thursday evening. I’m currently WFH and home all the time. I’m sick of all the suspicious looks. I presume they think this is my second home. It isn’t. It’s my only home - I’m just not normally here very much

Pliudev · 12/04/2020 23:21

PhilCornwall You may not need tourism in your job but many others do. The economy of the county relies on tourists and second home owners wether you like it or not. My guess is that, when this is over, they will be welcomed with open arms. And to those who have had unfortunate experiences here, well I've had them in other places but it's never made me vow never to return.

user1471565182 · 12/04/2020 23:34

That's right, crystaltree, Himmler (for me the nastiest piece of work in the Nazi government) was a chicken farmer

user1471565182 · 12/04/2020 23:37

People should read They would never hurt a fly by Slavenka Drakulic. Its about Yugoslavia in the 90s, how overnight normal friends and neighbours turned into people's killers and a whole totalitarian system sprang up amongst nosy neighbours.

FleurNancy · 13/04/2020 00:05

Yup, Cornwall is a fucking delight at the moment. Pitchforks being waved numerous times a day.

Rachel709 · 13/04/2020 00:24

It's easy to see why Nazis had plenty of informants.

Rache49 · 13/04/2020 00:25

Your little one needs to be hydrated so no-one should call you out on that. I carry a water bottle with me and no-one has said I should not have a drink as I keep moving. Some people see it as infringement of their rights and all that blah. You know that you are following the guidelines and that's the main thing. Stay Strong

Choccylips · 13/04/2020 00:25

Now I'm wondering are couples allowed to sleep in the same bed if you are not allowed to hold hands in the street. We went for a little walk and I have to help DH along and a man on a bike was giving us dirty looks. I was going to shout out to him Ive just picked this man up and Ime dragging him home to my bed, but DH said not to.

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PoppliosBubble · 13/04/2020 08:37

DrCoconut depends where you go obviously but I certainly don’t think people round here are abrupt and rude to non-locals. Tourists are welcomed with open arms 99% of the time, certainly the ones who stay in the holiday parks, hotels and B & B’s. Second home owners are certainly more grudgingly accepted - I live in the harbour bowl and only one other family lives on my roads full time.

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PoppliosBubble · 13/04/2020 08:37

Gosh I used the word certainly a lot there.

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Catwaving · 13/04/2020 09:20

Yes, people are being like this and it's vile

I imagine the rest of their time is spent on Mumsnet

CauliWoes · 13/04/2020 09:27

I also live in a smallish town in the SW. Some very, very unhinged people out there. Daily posts on the local FB group page calling out anyone who dares set foot outside their homes. The place is full of bored curtain twitchers

bemusedmoose · 13/04/2020 09:43

we had a few people like that around here before all this - I bet they are at their windows 24/7 reporting the shit out of everyone. (they have form for reporting peoples parking, putting rude notes through doors about parking in their preferred space on the public road, always checking on neighbours tax and mot records online and reporting them, even reported my new car to the police as being uninsured and untaxed because the previous owner had registered it as sold and I was registering as mine the same day but there were a few moments where it was not registered and they were on it like flies) these are the same people that are retired, in and out the house on non essential trips like yoyos. Some people are using this time to be massive arses

meyouandlulutoo · 13/04/2020 09:45

Dreamersandwishers

Oh gosh yes OP. Lots of opportunities to judge, snitch, and generally be nasty. I am so tired of village spokespeople screaming or signposting ‘stay away’ then in the next breath asking for support for their businesses
Let the police do their job in stopping traffic, lock down infringements etc

Your village sounds exactly like mine. I have to walk my dogs everyday and yes I am seeing more people walking than ever before, but these families would usually be at work, at school, taking part in sporting activities etc. Now they only have the opportunity for 1 walk a day for their exercise. It is lovely seeing families out for a walk together, but you would think they are committing some horrendous crime. Then you get "people I have never seen before walked past my house today, are there holidaymakers around? How would you like it if I walked down your street?" Unbelievable!

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