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To think some people are just loving it?

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PoppliosBubble · 11/04/2020 16:30

So many people seem to be taking so much pleasure in being absolutely furious with everyone else at the moment and I’m just amazed by it.

I live in a very touristy town, our local FB page is currently full of posts of people who have searched car registrations in their road and found some that aren’t registered to the area. Dozens of posts with photos of people queuing up outside co-op asking whether everyone will only be buying essentials, photos of very elderly sat on a bench saying that they might as well just kill themselves now, couples holding hands clearly being ABSOLUTE SELFISH B*S!!

All these posts followed by so many angry comments and talk of slashing tyres, complaining about hearing Midlands or London accents, comments that police should be throwing kids in prison.

I know it’s a scary time. It’s absolutely unprecedented and we’re underprepared and walking into the unknown. But I genuinely find the sheer rage that seems to be coming from some people quite frightening. I have to take my kids with me whenever I leave the house and I just know that someone will comment on it soon. I only have a tiny courtyard of outside space so I’m taking dc on a long walk with me every morning. Dc2 is only just 4 but I feel I can’t give him a drink as we’re walking along in case someone accuses us of having a picnic.

Is anyone else concerned by this? Anything I can do at all?

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BW68 · 11/04/2020 20:42

Snitches get stitches!

Kuponut · 11/04/2020 20:44

We have the self-appointed community morale police instigating all day bank holiday "lockdown discos" for streets. Translated it means that they're going to blast music in their garden loud enough to be heard streets away and claim they're doing it for morale so anyone who objects is against lockdown, the NHS and probably murders puppies for fun.

You can imagine facebook locally as a result.

Alsohuman · 11/04/2020 20:45

You too Lilac. I’ve been around, antagonising idiots!

fairlyplump · 11/04/2020 20:45

I agree completely with your post, couldn't have said it better. There are some awful people about at the moment

SquishyFishy · 11/04/2020 20:49

@PickleSarnie
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Yes. The spotting and shaming and the virtue signalling have replaced the constant posts of “I’ve just seen a white transit van on the street with registration xyz…. and the driver is a bit foreign looking”. And it’s the same people making both the posts.

There was a hilarious thread on Facebook in the town near me recently where people got incredibly excited about a van driving around the area and stopping outside seemingly random houses. A 'strange' man was getting out at each house, walking to the front door and leaving.

People were reporting on the post the next location of said van so everyone knew to keep an eye out for them.

Yes, you guessed it. It was a delivery driver 🙄

Ginfordinner · 11/04/2020 20:52

I live in a rural area where there is a lot of farming. Unfortunately a lot of people who are going out for walks are:

a) Walking through fields with sheep and lambs in with their dogs off the lead
b) Walking across newly sown fields instead of around them
c) Walking across fields that are privately owned and have no public footpath through them

The farmers round here are furious, and rightly so. Quite frankly, they have every right to report these people to the police.

Hippee · 11/04/2020 20:55

Feel so lucky to be where I am. Medium-sized Yorkshire town. So far have only seen the best in people - lovely community feel here.

RincewindsHat · 11/04/2020 21:02

Yes, the amount of pure vitriol in our local village FB group is so extreme I've blocked it - everything from complaining about bonfires to not agreeing with neighbours' behaviour to telling other people exactly what they should and should not be doing (confusing guidance with laws, and not understanding police vs government advice). Everyone is so angry and judgemental, it's frankly alarming to see the attitudes out there.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 11/04/2020 21:03

There people who, encouraged by their media, spend their lives convinced anyone who thinks or acts differently to themselves should be corrected. Up til now it’s not been socially acceptable for them to get stuck in and tell everyone how wrong they are but C19 has given them the excuse/justification they’ve always wanted and by God they are going to go for it.

This 100%

DD works for the ambulance service and despite wearing a very obvious green paramedic kit - had her car tyres interfered with outside her house

Interesting how some meatheads take it upon themselves to punish what they perceive as possibly contravening official guidelines by committing unequivocal criminal damage. What’s the betting that these people are among the ones banging their saucepans and screaming every Thursday evening – and probably also policing and shaming others who don’t for whatever reason.

I have heard that Police are going to stop cars which are registered to other areas.

I don’t see how they could possibly do this, even with much less traffic on the road, except possibly in Shetland, the Hebrides or other remote island communities. They would need to spot your moving car coming, radio HQ to get the registered address of the vehicle, work out/decide if it’s an acceptable distance away and then signal you to pull over, all whilst you’re moving at 30+mph, depending on the limit on the road. You’d be long gone.

The vehicle letter prefix means nothing more than where the car was first registered. Apart from the fact that you could be near the border between two different prefix areas anyway, cars are bought and sold the length and breadth of the country all the time. It’s not uncommon for companies and organisations to bulk-buy their fleet through a procurement company in any part of the country, depending on who can get them the best deal, and the cars will often be registered locally to the middleman company. It might even have been pre-registered by the maker near to the factory in order to 'massage' the monthly sales figures, before being offered for sale nationwide.

justgivemewine · 11/04/2020 21:03

You can't find out where a car is registered to

I have heard that Police are going to stop cars which are registered to other areas.

Fortunately the police can access the up to date info.
However, Joe ‘vigilante’ Bloggs can only find out where it was first registered when it was new but that doesn’t mean that’s where it’s registered now/where the owner lives now. I mean god forbid anyone should move house and take their car with them, or buy a car from somewhere a long way from where they live because they can save a bloody fortune.

To be fair our village has been really good apart from a select few mobile home dwelling locals who are notorious for thinking the law doesn’t apply to them.

I got “the stare” from a woman when I parked up in front of the chemist to pick up my and ds1s potentially life saving prescription medication, my first trip out in 3 weeks! Yet she was outside a diy shop, now while I appreciate she may have a burst pipe emergency (unlikely) don’t judge someone pulling up outside a fucking chemist.

PoppliosBubble · 11/04/2020 21:10

ginfordinner that’s totally understandable. It must be so stressful being in farming at the moment. What I don’t understand is people taking photos of people queuing up to get it a shop and declaring them to all be idiots.

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wildcherries · 11/04/2020 21:22

I think people are bored. They are suffering, they are fed up , and many of them can't understand why they should have to put up with that crap but others can ignore it without consequences.

This is how I feel. I'm going through lockdown living on my own, and I am struggling some days. People that ignore the restrictions piss me up. But I'm not moaning on FB about it.

Lairymary · 11/04/2020 21:22

@TheEndIsBillNighy the very same comment was made on our village Facebook page! I wonder if it's the same village!! The funny thing is the guy that was "having a pop" that everyone should be staying in, doesn't even live anywhere near the village anymore and his daughter who is still local but also no longer in the village was trying to flog stuff on the local selling sites the day before and whingeing that her kids that had been out in the street playing on their scooters had been approached by a policeman and told to go inside. She then decided after consulting her FB friends (that were obviously experts), that it was ok to send them back out tomorrow. Confused

HavenDilemma · 11/04/2020 21:29

@BubblyBarbara I can assure it absolutely IS happening in Harrogate!

feellikeanalien · 11/04/2020 21:31

Well I'm stuffed then. Not only is my car registered in Scotland but the numberplate also has SCO on the edge of it. I live in the north east of England but luckily only have one neighbour and a barn full of cows on the other side so unless I really piss my neighbours off I might be ok. Smile

EwwSprouts · 11/04/2020 21:39

I think you are just unlucky with some of your townsfolk. Our local FB page is full of when is the pharmacy open, where to drop toiletries for NHS & refuge and who local is doing veg boxes.

DH's work has issued letters to all staff who have to be on site that they can carry with them as one was stopped by the police early one morning to see where he was going.

notacooldad · 11/04/2020 21:56

Er, you've started a thread in order to moan about people who police the behaviour of others? Can you see the irony OP?

I think there is a huge difference between getting fed up of people being nasty to each other and asking if anything can be done and the sheer viciousness and spiteful actions people are doing to others.

NotTerfNorCis · 11/04/2020 22:02

Yeah quite a few people have turned hard core. It is a bit scary. In my local area they called the police on a group of teenagers playing music in the street. Legally they were in their rights to do it, but this kind of community watching and judging is uncomfortable to see.

Shortfeet · 11/04/2020 22:09

Agree op .

A video is circulating of a nurse reprimanding / ranting / filming a bunch of somewhat daft young men who have cycled to a grassy spot to drink beer . They are all sitting at least 2 m apart with their shirts off and their bikes nearby. Not allowed under current guidance but not the crime of the century.

She rants at them as though they are baby killers. They all shuffle off and she keeps filming/ ranting .
And then a million virtue signallers come on and call these men all kinds of evil.

Why ???

darktriad · 11/04/2020 22:10

I agree it's particularly scary. In normal times, there must be many people wearing masks, and hiding what shits they really are

SharonasCorona · 11/04/2020 22:12

YANBU. I haven’t stepped out of the house in 4 weeks and I could not give a shit what anyone else is doing.

UnaCorda · 11/04/2020 22:12

A lot of people in this world are unremarkable and have nothing to really offer. The fact that they can ‘win’ at being ‘the best’ at lockdown makes them feel like they’re actually making a difference in a world they have no control over.

I think you're absolutely right. People can be the best at staying at home, at "prepping", at curtain-twitching, at telling people how to wear disposable gloves, at being martyrs and only buying bread, milk and cabbage at the supermarket. Etc, etc.

My mum (in her 70s) does something like this sometimes when she tells me I won't be able to find a particular item of food in her fridge because only she knows how it is organised. Drives me potty.

Blibbyblobby · 11/04/2020 22:16

This situation has made me realise that it doesn’t take much to turn people into Nazis. Or to accept living in a Police state.

It doesn’t.

If someone believes they are right and that others who believe or behave differently threaten them simply by not conforming, they feel entitled “defend themselves” by attacking those people.

Furthermore it’s entirely possible for them to attack others while still believing themselves to be reasonable, compassionate and fair people who would never treat someone unfairly, because they also believe those values only apply to reasonable/deserving people, and since the wrong have by their own actions chosen to separate themselves from reasonable people, they do not deserve to be treated that way.

Goering knew it: “ Voice or no voice, the people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is tell them they are being attacked, and denounce the pacifists for lack of patriotism, and exposing the country to greater danger.”

I don’t mean to imply by that quote that people are being deliberately manipulated in this instance, just that the tendency of people to attack “the other” when they feel threatened has been well known for years.

meonekton · 11/04/2020 22:19

The thing to think about is, if you can worry about what people would think of what you are doing, you are better off then many. As long as you are following rules and believe you are doing right things, don't worry. No point of worrying about others.

itsgettingweird · 11/04/2020 22:19

It's as much if not more unhealthy to walk for ages in this heat without a drink than standing still out of the way for a minute and having one.

But yes it's certainly showing some people's true colours.